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As hard as this is to swallow.. some just won't make the tough choice to live rough until you get settled. They'll put up with abuse because they are familiar with it.. the unknown is more scary
Husband got mad and shoved me into the counter and cubbard I am calling Abw tomorrow
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I'm still a bit bitter. Messed up. Rough around the edges. Low tolerance..
One day... Perhaps I'll be as level as you
One day... Perhaps I'll be as level as you
Ok here is an update again for anyone who is looking at this thread anymore!!! I put an application in today for apartment where the rent goes by your income.. The apartment is open right now so the process should go pretty quickly hopefully. If all goes well I am hoping I can be in the apartment by feb at the latest. Now i know you all are thinking that is so long etc. but there is a big process to have done for income eligible apartments it is not just show your income sign a lease and bang your done.. I have to have all kinds of medical stuff go in etc... It takes time. So i am hoping it gets done and I can get in there with my daughter..
Yes I want to leave yes I am sick of being a door mat Yes I am afraid and scared but I am trying very hard to stay strong and positive.... It is no lie when I say I am terrified even though I know it is what I need to do. His painted past is what has me terrified not the little shove he did the other day....... I also now that until I go he is going to be all lovey and nice and try to do all he can to convince me to stay.. But I am not falling for that garbage this time. He has promised 5000 times he would change once this one thing happens there will be less stress I will change he says or once this happens etc.... Wrong I am not buying that anymore. I do everything for this man I mean everything except wipe his butt and he still has to treat me like a door mat well he will have to learn a lot soon because he will be doing a lot soon.... Pray for my continued strength please.. pray for my fear to be less.. thank you
Yes I want to leave yes I am sick of being a door mat Yes I am afraid and scared but I am trying very hard to stay strong and positive.... It is no lie when I say I am terrified even though I know it is what I need to do. His painted past is what has me terrified not the little shove he did the other day....... I also now that until I go he is going to be all lovey and nice and try to do all he can to convince me to stay.. But I am not falling for that garbage this time. He has promised 5000 times he would change once this one thing happens there will be less stress I will change he says or once this happens etc.... Wrong I am not buying that anymore. I do everything for this man I mean everything except wipe his butt and he still has to treat me like a door mat well he will have to learn a lot soon because he will be doing a lot soon.... Pray for my continued strength please.. pray for my fear to be less.. thank you
Hi Jennifer. Yes., a major mess for sure. As hard as it is to do while you are looking forward to moving., begin the process of forgiveness. It's a path you get on and begin walking one day at a time. Jesus loves us all due to no good we have done including your wacky husband and he is not your problem. Let Jesus take care of him. And trust Jesus to take care of you.
When we try to give to others what they deserve it messes up our ability to see the blessings Jesus has for us every day. So release your husband to Jesus. And you yourself start following after Jesus not looking at what others are doing. You can't answer for your husband and you can't be his judge and jury. Give it all over to Jesus.
It's an amazing thing to know that Jesus is able to take the things in our lives (and the people) and take care of all. He is big enough to do it all. We just have to step aside and let Him. Getting into a church on a regular basis will also help you to keep your eyes on the prize. I wish you all the best young lady. You will be fine as you trust Him. He will not let you down. I will be praying you get into your new apartment very soon. Jesus can also make that go by fast too. He owns the cattle on a thousand hills so an apartment is no biggie. God bless you.
When we try to give to others what they deserve it messes up our ability to see the blessings Jesus has for us every day. So release your husband to Jesus. And you yourself start following after Jesus not looking at what others are doing. You can't answer for your husband and you can't be his judge and jury. Give it all over to Jesus.
It's an amazing thing to know that Jesus is able to take the things in our lives (and the people) and take care of all. He is big enough to do it all. We just have to step aside and let Him. Getting into a church on a regular basis will also help you to keep your eyes on the prize. I wish you all the best young lady. You will be fine as you trust Him. He will not let you down. I will be praying you get into your new apartment very soon. Jesus can also make that go by fast too. He owns the cattle on a thousand hills so an apartment is no biggie. God bless you.
So very true and that is why the enemy uses fear on every one of us. And why the Bible tells us not to fear but trust in the Lord with all our hearts and to lean NOT to our own understanding but to acknowledge HIM and HE WILL direct our paths.
But if the devil can keep us in fear., he can trick us into making wrong decisions and choices based on fear and our own strength and ability to get out of the mess. When that is exactly what we need to avoid- our own ability. We need to trust that Jesus WILL DO as He promised due to the great love in which He loves us and not based on our own abilities to fight against evil.
What happens then is we end up in another mess and then another and another. If we could solve our problems we would not need Jesus help. He won't force us to believe Him or listen to Him. So we have to "follow" and then He will lead because He is already there waiting for us to follow Him.
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Dear Jenniferand2, my heart goes out to you, and prayers for your safety. People who've never been in that situation have no idea how that constant abuse can drain the life right out of you. So it takes great courage to come as far as you have. Please don't forget, the most dangerous time is at the leaving stage and for a while after. Please don't let your guard down, and plan for your safety. God bless.
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Really? You can't come up with other ways to survive besides stripping?
I did.
I get we all have a past where we've done sinful things, but condoning it? Not really!
Stripping is not a tough choice to make, it's an easy deceptive choice. Can you believe there are people who claim to strip for Christ? That to me is just baffling. I'm not condemning that choice, but there are SO many different choices God would honor if you seek him and his will for you life. I don't believe stripping nor prostitution to be one of those.
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How do they figure out what your income is if it will be fluctuating? Don't they require first month's rent and deposit too? And what became of calling the Women's Shelter?
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I hadn't been in church for years before/while I was stripping.. yes it is hard..
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I was 19.. a baby.. I was with an abuser because that's all I knew. To get out, I had to have money. I dropped out of high school to get away from my family. Never had driven.
Bulk money was needed.. . a paycheck would have been taken from me...
Bulk money was needed.. . a paycheck would have been taken from me...
I am not sure how the income rent thing works out but they do it some how ..the security deposit is spread out of x amount of months. I have a friend that lives there they did it that way for her..
Be nice depleted we can't judge what went on in her life at that point in her life... that is not fair. She did what she felt she could at the time. She got out and changed her life and accepted God. I don't think anyone is saying it was a great idea but it was what she did at the time. It is fast good money that is paid off the books and is not really taxed it on any kind of payroll. So maybe she did it that way so she could not be found as easy. We do not know her story. I really can't say anything bad about someone who does what they have to do to get out of abusive relationships. It is better then what I have done for so many years and shut myself off and just kept taking it... and living with the fear he planted in my head and excusing his actions over and over... we all just do what we can until we feel ready to make it or break it...
Why were you out of church in the first place? It's really a bailout choice, but God wouldn't want that for any of his children. I'm not judging you or condemning you for it, but continue to seek him, be in the light as he is in the light. We can't make excuse for why we aren't serving the Lord, we know that is a fact.
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As everyone is able to.. I have you on ignore because I think most of your advice is trash.
I seen yours quoted.
You're free to say what you want.. I did disclose not to take my route, thanks tho.. nice try..
I seen yours quoted.
You're free to say what you want.. I did disclose not to take my route, thanks tho.. nice try..