Thank You God!! For we know You are in control! My prayer is that this is an encouraging statement to you! We all need to be encouraged in the rough and tumble times. It would behove us all, as His Children to be reminded of what Ephesians outlines to us in walking in Christ daily in the good and bad times on planet earth. And it would be fair to ask ourselves these questions concerning how we walk in way of our new life in Christ.
First, in sitting in things already accomplished in Christ. Everything is based and comes out of, what God has done for you. Don’t allow your Christian life during this moment of circumstantial challenge to be an endless struggle to become what you already are! Apply faith and believe what God has said!
Now, having laid this fantastic foundation, the Apostle Paul moves on to the practical aspects of how we should walk and conduct our lives. Chapter 4:1 marks a key change in this letter – and shows how our position in Christ should then lead on to a practical outworking in our lives. The questions I would ask myself (if I were you) are these according to Ephesians Chapter 4 in continuance in sitting in Christ, while simultaneously walking in difficult times in/and/with Christ:
*AmIwalking in a manner worthy of His calling? (Eph. 4:1)
*Am I remaining humble, gentle, and patient yet full of love concerning the people I am with during this time? (vs. 4:2).
*Am I continuing to preservere in the Spirit in peace? (vs.4:3).
*Am I recognizing God has called me in Christ to One hope, One faith, and One Lord and Father who is my life? Do I remember that He Himself graces me with gifts to do His will as He empowers me to do them? (vs. 4:4-11).
*Am I using my gifts to reconcile my relationship with my daughter using faithfully expectant prayers while obeying God at every turn as Him makes things clear to me knowing God is in charge of it all? ( vs. 4:12).
*Have I forgotten God uses difficult times which He allows or produces to strengthen me in my character? To mature me in my faith? (vs. 4:13).
* The fear of God is the beginning to knowledge. Do I believe that? Do I therefore believe thru the knowledge of Christ, I prevent deceitfulness and trickery of men from blowing me around like a fan to a feather by remaining in His peace? (vs. 4:14).
*Am I speaking truth wrapped in love even when the other person is doing anything & everything but that? Am I then going onward and upward in Christ not despite this difficult time; but even because of them? Or am I suffering in my relationships, even with my Father in heaven? (vs. 4:15-16).
*I need to remind myself that I no longer walk in the darkness as I did before, even for a moment; even as Satan poses an argument on the basis of human reasoning that strikes a cord with me as understandable, even correct. But rather, am I trusting in the Savior as my Lord, that He is the only One who is wise and who must lead me? (vs. 4:17-19). Thus, am I then laying aside my old self according to the truths my Lord Jesus has instilled in me? (vs. 4:20-22).
*Am I renewing my mind during all of this stuff thru the Spirit's enabling? (vs. 4:23).
*Am I relying on the work of grace that I am a New Creation created by God for good works according to His Master Plan; and that this is the Holy Spirit at work in me? Thus, am I confident in this, and do I put on the New Self daily? (vs. 4:24).
*Do I allow any trickling in of falsehood to cloud my sober judgement? Do I therefore put off falsehood warring against it in Christ's finished victorious power? And do I continue to pick up my cross and follow Him even today? (vs. 4:25).
*Do I go to bed angry - ever (on things outside of righteous anger)? Thus, do I allow anger to become sinful carrying it on to the next day and beyond? (vs. 4:26).
*Am I still seeking God's face as my first fruit, obeying Him immediately when He makes clear choices for me, not giving the devil opportunity thru disobedience in Christ? (vs. 4:25-27).
*Is MY tongue in check? Regardless of Satan's relentless suggestion that "She or they, made me do it."? Thus, am I ALWAYS speaking words of grace and taking responsibility for my own actions? (vs. 4:29).
*Am I letting God finish His workmanship in me during this hard time; as He sees fit? Am I grieving the H.S.? For God has sealed the H.S. with me! (vs. 4:30).
*Have I let go of ALL Bitterness, wrath, anger and malice? Ouch! Can I even write that without feeling the cost of that? (vs. 4:31).
*Am I forgiving all my family the same way God forgave me? (Unconditionally?) For God has indeed forgiven me by His grace.
Just some thoughts. As we all pray for your daughter and yourself to be reconciled, May God's will take the front seat. May He richly bless you accordingly as you proceed with Him thru this wall; and may His power be seen in answered prayer as we celebrate in His glory!. God bless!