Feeling very depressed and confused
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That's faith. Your faith and trust just inspired me. I am sure you are on the right way.
I don't know, if I should post a threat about faith or share some thoughts on that here.
Well, I believe your way of dwelling in Christ, waiting on him and trusting on him deserves some extra words.
As we know Apostle Peter was in several occasions hot tempered and of little faith.
Like in Galatians 2, when the jews came he stopped taking invitations to eat with gentiles.
In matthew 14 When he saw the wind and waves he was afraid and cried out to Jesus: save me.
In John 21, he tries on his own efforts to catch a fish. And even as an experienced fisherman he has no success. Until Jesus joined and showed him where to fish.
The same goes when Malchus came to arrest Jesus, he - Peter - once faced his enemy jumped up and attacked Malchus.
And after Jesus was arrested, he lost three times his trust in him and turned his back on him.
In short: whenever challenges showed up, the faith of Peter got little.
Hot tempered or tempered by prayer? By Pastor Dan Downey.
http://savedhealed.com/Audio/hottempered.mp3
That's why you do it perfectly. God works for those who wait on him. By John Piper.
https://youtu.be/G6t-iFeVavw
But I also would like to mention what Jesus talked to Kathalee. Let's not question if that encounter is real or not. That should not be the question now.
Kathaleen NDE 690
"I said, will I ever find a person you meant for me to be with? He said yes and he'd be wonderful. He'd send him when I was ready. He was already here for me but I was to get all my troubles straightened out first so as not to put them all on him! Laughing I said well he better be cute and he said you two will find each other irresistible."
In Isaiah 30:15 God says:
15 For thus saith the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength:
https://youtu.be/cH3AGpL_GCw
That is pointed out through the whole bible.
To be still and know, have faith, that He is God.
Erika McKenzie died and had an encounter with God. God talked her, that we can ask for gifts. But in order to receive them, we have to be quiet. (Let's now not question the account)
https://youtu.be/xG_hEi8E4U8
"Be still" (Woman of little faith) He said to Shirley Brown, that found out that everytime she got unpatiened and doubtful about if God will work for her - she made it worse. (Let's not question that account)
The bible says, an doubtful man is like a wave tossed by the sea. Unstable in all his ways and will receive nothing.
https://youtu.be/WA-OfNaMFuk
And to follow His Laws - so He said it to Yvonne Sklar. (Let's not question the account. That should be not the question).
https://youtu.be/mN-46dJjIuI
The bible is clear. If we abide in him and ask according to His will, He hears us.
And you do that so well. You trust in Him, believe in Him, wait on Him. I just had to let you know that. "That's faith." by John Piper.
https://youtu.be/11FTk05nWhE
I don't know, if I should post a threat about faith or share some thoughts on that here.
Well, I believe your way of dwelling in Christ, waiting on him and trusting on him deserves some extra words.
As we know Apostle Peter was in several occasions hot tempered and of little faith.
Like in Galatians 2, when the jews came he stopped taking invitations to eat with gentiles.
In matthew 14 When he saw the wind and waves he was afraid and cried out to Jesus: save me.
In John 21, he tries on his own efforts to catch a fish. And even as an experienced fisherman he has no success. Until Jesus joined and showed him where to fish.
The same goes when Malchus came to arrest Jesus, he - Peter - once faced his enemy jumped up and attacked Malchus.
And after Jesus was arrested, he lost three times his trust in him and turned his back on him.
In short: whenever challenges showed up, the faith of Peter got little.
Hot tempered or tempered by prayer? By Pastor Dan Downey.
http://savedhealed.com/Audio/hottempered.mp3
That's why you do it perfectly. God works for those who wait on him. By John Piper.
https://youtu.be/G6t-iFeVavw
But I also would like to mention what Jesus talked to Kathalee. Let's not question if that encounter is real or not. That should not be the question now.
Kathaleen NDE 690
"I said, will I ever find a person you meant for me to be with? He said yes and he'd be wonderful. He'd send him when I was ready. He was already here for me but I was to get all my troubles straightened out first so as not to put them all on him! Laughing I said well he better be cute and he said you two will find each other irresistible."
In Isaiah 30:15 God says:
15 For thus saith the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength:
https://youtu.be/cH3AGpL_GCw
That is pointed out through the whole bible.
To be still and know, have faith, that He is God.
Erika McKenzie died and had an encounter with God. God talked her, that we can ask for gifts. But in order to receive them, we have to be quiet. (Let's now not question the account)
https://youtu.be/xG_hEi8E4U8
"Be still" (Woman of little faith) He said to Shirley Brown, that found out that everytime she got unpatiened and doubtful about if God will work for her - she made it worse. (Let's not question that account)
The bible says, an doubtful man is like a wave tossed by the sea. Unstable in all his ways and will receive nothing.
https://youtu.be/WA-OfNaMFuk
And to follow His Laws - so He said it to Yvonne Sklar. (Let's not question the account. That should be not the question).
https://youtu.be/mN-46dJjIuI
The bible is clear. If we abide in him and ask according to His will, He hears us.
And you do that so well. You trust in Him, believe in Him, wait on Him. I just had to let you know that. "That's faith." by John Piper.
https://youtu.be/11FTk05nWhE
Definitely, that's why we got married on Las Vegas boulevard. Won some money in the casino's too. Didn't see Elvis.
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Most people here will NOT click on any of the links you posted...or that anyone in general, posts..
Yes and when that time comes, I will act on it but for now he’s still telling me to be patient and wait.
But, as I’ve started praying about, asking God if he wants me to talk to this guy about what’s going on in my head, or, does he just want me to continue to be patient and not say anything to him yet. I know he’ll lead me in the right way when the time comes but, I’m not sure how I’ll know when God will want me to speak to him unless maybe I’ll just know??
Well, what can I say? I know how God has been speaking to me for the last 17 years and it’s only been audibly a few times. God has never steered me wrong in the past, and I highly doubt he’ll start now.
A key element of any relationship is communication. At least give him a chance and tell him what's on your mind. Remaining silent for one reason or another is not the same as being patient. Pray before you talk to him for God to give the right words to say that are in your heart. Having a conversation with someone that interests you need not be a gut wrenching situation.
I wanted to do that but my wife said no. No wedding at the Little Wedding Chapel down the street either, just a simple ceremony at the hotel we were staying at.
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Im for it!! I'd be upset if I were met with a conversation to do just the opposite! I have no interest in a traditional wedding.
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God doesn’t give peace and then take it. A child of God always has the peace of Christ, we just lose sight of it when we put our trust in our own understanding or in another person.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and don’t lean on your own understanding.
You have peace when you talk with God and hear His Voice. Then you don’t have peace when your eyes are on that man. The Bible says: “A double minded person is unstable in all their ways.”
God says to wait on Him, but you are waiting on that man. There’s your source of depression and confusion.
The unsettling quandary you are in is that you are starting to realize that this man only wants to use you physically. You said in your previous thread that you are doing everything that other couples are doing except “there’s no words to it.” You referred to it as a quote, unquote “relationship”. So you don’t view it as a real relationship yourself.
You have already asked the guy to define what you’re doing and he has told you plainly there’s no label on it. So in truth, you both view it as just a physical thing. It’s not a relationship, not love or anything else. You’re just afraid of letting him go and are trying to convince yourself God says to wait for this guy to finally love you and commit to you.
God would never advise anyone to give their body over to someone and then wait to see if it develops into love. Even people who don’t know God realize the difference between love and being used. You already know that in your spirit. When we wrestle against the Holy Spirit, we lose sight of our joy and become weak.
I’m sorry you are hurting and sad, dear. I pray you come to the truth that you are worth more than providing physical affection to someone who is not willing to love you. I’m 100% certain that God wants you to wait on HIM and not that man. And you can bet God DOES love you, believes you’re worth everything, and yearns to hold you. He’s faithful, too.
If you let that guy know you want a real love relationship, he may walk away. Or he may convince you to continue letting him use you. But if you do nothing, there’s no reason to believe anything will change.
One thing’s for certain. If there is a godly man out there who would willingly tell you he loves you, who would commit to you and take care of your precious heart, you won’t ever see him as long as your eyes are on this man who is using you.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and don’t lean on your own understanding.
You have peace when you talk with God and hear His Voice. Then you don’t have peace when your eyes are on that man. The Bible says: “A double minded person is unstable in all their ways.”
God says to wait on Him, but you are waiting on that man. There’s your source of depression and confusion.
The unsettling quandary you are in is that you are starting to realize that this man only wants to use you physically. You said in your previous thread that you are doing everything that other couples are doing except “there’s no words to it.” You referred to it as a quote, unquote “relationship”. So you don’t view it as a real relationship yourself.
You have already asked the guy to define what you’re doing and he has told you plainly there’s no label on it. So in truth, you both view it as just a physical thing. It’s not a relationship, not love or anything else. You’re just afraid of letting him go and are trying to convince yourself God says to wait for this guy to finally love you and commit to you.
God would never advise anyone to give their body over to someone and then wait to see if it develops into love. Even people who don’t know God realize the difference between love and being used. You already know that in your spirit. When we wrestle against the Holy Spirit, we lose sight of our joy and become weak.
I’m sorry you are hurting and sad, dear. I pray you come to the truth that you are worth more than providing physical affection to someone who is not willing to love you. I’m 100% certain that God wants you to wait on HIM and not that man. And you can bet God DOES love you, believes you’re worth everything, and yearns to hold you. He’s faithful, too.
If you let that guy know you want a real love relationship, he may walk away. Or he may convince you to continue letting him use you. But if you do nothing, there’s no reason to believe anything will change.
One thing’s for certain. If there is a godly man out there who would willingly tell you he loves you, who would commit to you and take care of your precious heart, you won’t ever see him as long as your eyes are on this man who is using you.
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That should be why asking him shouldn't be that hard. We tell friends everything anyway, so ask.
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Why wouldn't you ask BFF or BF? If we wait for God to tell us when to talk to friend or BF, it's a really quiet relationship, and one that won't last long, because why? We never say anything when we're together anyway. lol
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Yup. Married to my BFF for 37 years now. Inevitably it won't work out.
(Hubby and I were friends first. We still are BFFs.)
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Ask them. I can guarantee they'll tell you how it worked out. They talked. They asked what they had to asked and told what they needed the other to know. And, in between those two things, they talked about everything else too. lol