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This is pride and lying to someone you want to trust you.. men like to feel useful and fix things. You're robbing him if that.
I'd question what else don't I know. If you can lie once when you justify it, you can do much more.
Justifying is a huge red flag
I'd question what else don't I know. If you can lie once when you justify it, you can do much more.
Justifying is a huge red flag
Perhaps sue doesn't want to burden another with her problems. Some people are raised like that and others just have personalities like that.
Perhaps she feels like she needs to deal with it herself because she needs to prove to herself she's capable.
People in relationships lie all the time about needing help. Does it mean the person is of questionable character lying about all sorts of things? Nope. I bet you've done it. And get you will do it again. As well as everyone else you know.
Justifying these sorts of lies is not a red flag. That one doesn't rush to take help is a good sign. We all need some level of independence from others. To be able to sustain without that person. The one that rushes to others is one that will be unable to take care of themselves.
To me one that lies frequently or for selfish motives or to hurt others are the red flags. One that lies from time to time over small issues is not being questionable.
According to your logic if you were to throw a surprise party for someone and that person tried to make plans with you that day and you lied that's bad. And when you made an excuse for lying that's a red flag.
Not all lies are equal, and not all lies have negative motives.
By the way, one extremely common complaint I hear about men, "they're always trying to fix things". Indulging someone in their every whim isn't healthy either. I'm very much a "people fixer", but it has been a benefit to me that not everyone has been eager to let me. It's actually been good for me to be denied sometimes.