Ladies: what "guy skills" make him more attractive to you?
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I think it would be more loving for the husband to pay for a day at the spa for the wife. Kinda gross to think "his hands were massaging my feet, and now he wants to put those hands on the rest of my body?" No thanks. I don't even like touching my feet except to wash and lotion them, and paint my toe nails every now and again.
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Yeah me too. I touch my feet for two reasons... well three if you count putting on socks or flip flops/shoes. One... to wash them. That isn't bad, because i have a bar of soap and water to wash my hands after! Two, to clip my toenails... and then I wash my hands after again! haha
I dunno why, but feet gross me out. I could never understand those people that get foot fetishes for instance. That's SO WEIRD! GROSS! aha anyway, off topic I know... but yeah..
Anyway, as I said previously, and napoleon dynamite said so well...
you gotta have skills... like nunchuku skills,bow hunting skills, computer hacking skills... girls like guys with skills! yeahhh babbbbbyyyyy
I dunno why, but feet gross me out. I could never understand those people that get foot fetishes for instance. That's SO WEIRD! GROSS! aha anyway, off topic I know... but yeah..
Anyway, as I said previously, and napoleon dynamite said so well...
you gotta have skills... like nunchuku skills,bow hunting skills, computer hacking skills... girls like guys with skills! yeahhh babbbbbyyyyy
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Zero i would say this:
When you adress her sat gorgeous darlin doll bay... something that endears her to you every time you talk to her without over doing it.
Stay clean, that is a skill "men" forget i mean a shower a day is okay wont hurt you.
FLy airplanes thats a rare skill.
I will tell you the few skils though i get the most attention from:
Confidence in public situations
Calling and answering calls when i say i will.
Ask people to smile though out the day.
Remember to smile yourself
PLAY SOCCER.
When you adress her sat gorgeous darlin doll bay... something that endears her to you every time you talk to her without over doing it.
Stay clean, that is a skill "men" forget i mean a shower a day is okay wont hurt you.
FLy airplanes thats a rare skill.
I will tell you the few skils though i get the most attention from:
Confidence in public situations
Calling and answering calls when i say i will.
Ask people to smile though out the day.
Remember to smile yourself
PLAY SOCCER.
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well of course the desires skills/talents/characteristics differ from person to person. but for me, i like a guy who isnt afraid to step up and make decisions. wise decisions of course. a Godly man, obviously. one who will listen to me and hear me out when i hav something to say, and consider my opinion before makeing a decision that involves or affects me. i need a family man, someone who loves kids and will spend time with them and me, very family oriented.... those are characteristics.
as far as skills/talents... of course none of these are required, but it'd be nice for him to have... able to play an instrument, specifically guitar or piano. athletic, but not too competitive(thats gets annoying). my dad is a handy man and can fix or make just about anything, and i would like for my future husband to be that also, its one of the things i most admire about my dad... umm... cooking. more specifically, able to grill. i can handle the inside cooking, but i want a man who can take care of the outside cooking.
i hope thats what you were looking for.
as far as skills/talents... of course none of these are required, but it'd be nice for him to have... able to play an instrument, specifically guitar or piano. athletic, but not too competitive(thats gets annoying). my dad is a handy man and can fix or make just about anything, and i would like for my future husband to be that also, its one of the things i most admire about my dad... umm... cooking. more specifically, able to grill. i can handle the inside cooking, but i want a man who can take care of the outside cooking.
i hope thats what you were looking for.
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I agree with the confidence and decision factors.
One of my pet peeves:
Lets say a guy (or anyone in general) approaches me to talk, I'm fine with this. But when I'm suddenly the one carrying the conversation as though I was the one who initiated it, this bothers me so much.
And this says a lot about the guy or person I'm talking with considering I'm a "quiet/weird/awkward/sensitive" kind of person.
I don't mind asking questions or leading but at least come to the table with a few topics in mind.
So I guess if a guy can hold a conversation then that's definitely a plus.
One of my pet peeves:
Lets say a guy (or anyone in general) approaches me to talk, I'm fine with this. But when I'm suddenly the one carrying the conversation as though I was the one who initiated it, this bothers me so much.
And this says a lot about the guy or person I'm talking with considering I'm a "quiet/weird/awkward/sensitive" kind of person.
I don't mind asking questions or leading but at least come to the table with a few topics in mind.
So I guess if a guy can hold a conversation then that's definitely a plus.
What if the guy is the same way? You would just rule him out? It take two to tango as the saying goes. A coversation requires two people to play. guy tosses ball, girl catches ball then has to throw ball back to guy to keep playing. Even if she has to come up with a new ball because the old one blew up.
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What if the guy is the same way? You would just rule him out? It take two to tango as the saying goes. A coversation requires two people to play. guy tosses ball, girl catches ball then has to throw ball back to guy to keep playing. Even if she has to come up with a new ball because the old one blew up.
Personally, I agree with lightbliss, except on a broader spectrum. I don't like when any person -male or female- comes to talk to me, and then gets frustrated when I can't come up with a topic of discussion. I'm fine with prolonged moments of silence as people think of more things to talk about, or when people just don't feel like talking. Just don't come to me with the expectation that I will create a conversation for you. If I'm not talking to you, it is probably because I have nothing to say, so coming to me expecting me to have a bounty of conversations floating around in my head is pointless.
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What if the guy is the same way? You would just rule him out? It take two to tango as the saying goes. A coversation requires two people to play. guy tosses ball, girl catches ball then has to throw ball back to guy to keep playing. Even if she has to come up with a new ball because the old one blew up.
I am those things I've stated yet I still talk.
If a guy is truly similar or if we just met then I'll understand but if you're going to start a conversation, like I've stated, at least have a few things in mind that you might want to talk about so I'm not basically the only one talking.
Sorry I'm a little late... Zero, you know I always have to check out your threads!!
Love all the Napolean Dynamite references...
I need a man with lawn-mowing skills. I would personally cook a guy a great meal every time he rescued me from the Kingdom of the Unruly (that would be my lawn), and would be happy to bring him cold drinks periodically as he was braving the chore.
I also need a guy who has great skills at killing things... meaning... small rodents that try to make their home in my shed.
And a guy who has skills at helping to keep the bathroom clean? Not just the toilet seat, but offering to do his share in cleaning the whole bathroom????!!! (The kitchen and rest of the house are definite bonuses.)
*Faints.*
Ok... slow-ly... coming back to reality. WHEW!! That was close.
For a brief second, I caught a glimpse of my dream man and it was obviously more than my poor old nerves can take!!
Love all the Napolean Dynamite references...
I need a man with lawn-mowing skills. I would personally cook a guy a great meal every time he rescued me from the Kingdom of the Unruly (that would be my lawn), and would be happy to bring him cold drinks periodically as he was braving the chore.
I also need a guy who has great skills at killing things... meaning... small rodents that try to make their home in my shed.
And a guy who has skills at helping to keep the bathroom clean? Not just the toilet seat, but offering to do his share in cleaning the whole bathroom????!!! (The kitchen and rest of the house are definite bonuses.)
*Faints.*
Ok... slow-ly... coming back to reality. WHEW!! That was close.
For a brief second, I caught a glimpse of my dream man and it was obviously more than my poor old nerves can take!!
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You all say that a man needs to hold a conversation... but... I don't really understand that. What I mean is... I've never had a problem with that. When you all say you expect a man to be able to have a list of things to talk about before he approaches you... are you joking? No seriously... are you kidding?
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin <3
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin
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I understand what you've stated.
If I don't know someone I'll usually ask them pretty basic questions.
No one has to be the Einstein of conversation of course.
But it would be nice if the person that started talking to me could ask some questions.
That's all that I meant
If I don't know someone I'll usually ask them pretty basic questions.
- Favourite songs/albums.
- Favourite movies/TV-shows
- Food, color, etc
No one has to be the Einstein of conversation of course.
But it would be nice if the person that started talking to me could ask some questions.
That's all that I meant
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You all say that a man needs to hold a conversation... but... I don't really understand that. What I mean is... I've never had a problem with that. When you all say you expect a man to be able to have a list of things to talk about before he approaches you... are you joking? No seriously... are you kidding?
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin <3
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin
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it might seem that that is what some of us are saying, but the way i see it, is this..
a guy should be able to come up to you and carry on a conversation, not in a scripted way, but still have several things to talk about in the sense that he knows how to find a topic that you have in common. so not having a list of topics in a scripted way, but kind of like a library of topics that he can sort through until he finds one that interest us both. one that i can relate to. otherwise, it would be a pointless conversation and there would be no getting to know each other. it wouldnt be a sensible conversation...
does that make sense? im sorry if i didnt explain it well. if it doesnt i can try to re word it so that it makes a little more sense.
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You all say that a man needs to hold a conversation... but... I don't really understand that. What I mean is... I've never had a problem with that. When you all say you expect a man to be able to have a list of things to talk about before he approaches you... are you joking? No seriously... are you kidding?
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin <3
I mean... for someone to script out a conversation with you just to keep it going... that's as fake as it could be. You would actually appreciate that? I find that hard to believe, because it would only add to the awkwardness. Also, it DOES take two to tango. Some women just are not good conversationalists, and personally... if they couldn't keep a conversation going and I was doing all the work, sayonara! I wouldn't stick around, because that girl obviously has problems with communication, and that's really not conductive to any type of future relationship, friendship, girlfriend, or otherwise. I can easily hold a conversation and think of topics without thinking, but... it always takes the other person to respond. If you just sat there saying "yes" or "no" nonstop to questions, without giving real feedback or continuing the discussion beyond that, then you are the one with the communication problems, not the guy! I understand some women are shy, and in that case, I would just tease them a bit playfully. I would also do my best to make them feel comfortable, but I couldn't FORCE them to learn how to communicate by carrying a conversation by myself. It always takes two as they say. So, just as much as you women dislike men who cannot communicate well, us men don't appreciate women who cannot do it as well!
Just sayin
<3
When I'm around people I don't hang out with, I'm not sure what to talk to them about, unless I see a point of interest. For example, if a guy approached me wearing a football shirt I could at least fall back on that if he couldn't find something to say. "So you like [insert team name here]? I'm a Vikings fan myself." If a personally just randomly approaches me, what am I suppose to do?
"Hey." "Hi." "I'm Bob, nice to meet you." "Hi Bob. I'm Hollie." "Just wanted to say hi." "...okay?" Really? What am I supposed to add to that conversation?
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You could ask him if he likes to massage a woman's feet?
After reading this topic, I'm almost wondering if I'm better off keeping my distance from girls... haha. You all seem to have some strange desires. This conversation thing in particular has me confused. I'm a really shy guy, and I tend to be much better at listening rather than talking. I tend to ask too many questions actually because I just love to learn about new people. It gets to the point sometimes where it will essentially be me asking someone questions, them answering, me asking new questions... not really a real conversation. More like an interview.
After reading this topic, I'm almost wondering if I'm better off keeping my distance from girls... haha. You all seem to have some strange desires. This conversation thing in particular has me confused. I'm a really shy guy, and I tend to be much better at listening rather than talking. I tend to ask too many questions actually because I just love to learn about new people. It gets to the point sometimes where it will essentially be me asking someone questions, them answering, me asking new questions... not really a real conversation. More like an interview.