What school will be best for my children?

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Minich

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Hi all,
I need opinions on what others think will be a better school to send my children too. We live in a small country town and have the choice of the local high school or a small Catholic school. I grew up in this town and attended the high school as did all others families in our church (Baptist).
But now I have heard so many bad reviews about the high school that we are considering sending our children to the Catholic school. At the Catholic school they will have to attend church everyday and basically be taught the Catholic religion which I believe to be quite different from my faith.
So do you think it would be better for Christian children to have some moral education at the Catholic school or no religious education at the high school?
Thanks, C
 
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Mulehide

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It would depend on how well grounded in their belief your children are and how hands-on you are in their spiritual life.
 
grace

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If those were my options for my family, I think that I would continue to raise them in the one faith they have known their whole life...and send them to the local high school. BUT, I would be VERY actively involved with the school and with what my children are involved in and whom their friends are etc etc.

My children are young now, but they attend Christian school and I am soooooooo grateful for it. It is not perfect, nothing is....but it is so much better than the alternative.

I do not know how popular it is there...but I know many here will entertain the option of homeschooling their children. Is that an option for your family?

Best to you as you sort out that which will bring the most peace and well-being to your children and family.
 
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Minich said:
Hi all,
I need opinions on what others think will be a better school to send my children too. We live in a small country town and have the choice of the local high school or a small Catholic school. I grew up in this town and attended the high school as did all others families in our church (Baptist).
But now I have heard so many bad reviews about the high school that we are considering sending our children to the Catholic school. At the Catholic school they will have to attend church everyday and basically be taught the Catholic religion which I believe to be quite different from my faith.
So do you think it would be better for Christian children to have some moral education at the Catholic school or no religious education at the high school?
Thanks, C
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Homeschool them.
 
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im saying public school. They need to get used to the real world and how it treats people.
 
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nanabean

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Hi Minich......I am with Grace on this one. I think there is no ONE "right" way of schooling your children, but there may only be one option that makes you feel right inside your own family. Baptist and Catholic are very different religions from each other, so I would feel better about keeping them within what they have always known, and what you yourself probably can explain to them the best as well. As far as public high school goes, there are good things about it, and not so good things about it, just like there is in church schools and with homeschooling as well. I think that as long as you are a very active part of your childrens education, social life and activities, you can strongly, positively, influence how they process the bad stuff and what they do with it.
 
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hey there
im in public high school
and dont get taught RME (religious and moral education ) nor do i get taught PSE (personal and social education
i belive i have a very strong relationship with the Father, and am in walk with God.
I think public school will get them more ready for the reality of world.
My vote would be public high school. They basics and morals should already be taught to them pre-high school, if not the father and mother shouldbe teaching it to them. Its a parents job imo.

God Bless and i hope you make the right decision :)
kathleen
 
zeroturbulence

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I say pick the school which where they are more apt to learn. I went to public school and was bullied and my grades suffered horribly, not to mention my self esteem. In catholic school the kids are more controlled because the nuns and priests dont put up with insubordination or chaos in the classroom.
 
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I know a lot of kids that went to Catholic school.. From what I heard there wasn't much control in them..

Have you talked to you kid about what THEY want to do? I think it's important to have their input
 
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AliceOfLegend said:
I know a lot of kids that went to Catholic school.. From what I heard there wasn't much control in them..

Have you talked to you kid about what THEY want to do? I think it's important to have their input
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You're right, but the lack of control usually happens outside of school. I had friends who went to catholic school, and yea, outside of school they were kind of crazy, but at least they paid attention in class.
 
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Jullianna

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My son just graduated from public school and is very well rounded socially and is very strong in his faith. I've had friends and family members who were homeschooled and they had a lot of problems adjusting later on in life, especially where relationships with the opposite sex were concerned. I think faith-based schools are great though, we just didn't have one close by.

I think that what's more important than where they go to school is what's going on when they're not at school. Are we spending time with them? Teaching them? Loving them? Going to church WITH them, not just sending them? Do we talk with them about the things of God? Take time to answer their questions? That way, they recognize false teaching and false witness when they hear it. :)
 
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Given I don't know all of the details, maybe it would bless your children and family to attend the public school. If you are active in your children's spiritual lives, their experiences could prepare them for future tests of their faith. I attended a private K-8 school and public high school, I realized how blessed I was to have faith when I was surrounded by those who don't. It could also be a blessing for the others at the school. If your children set a Godly example, it could bring other students and their families to God.
 
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well there are advantages and disadvantages on both. Everyone is diffrent so its hard to say wich one would be better but i think public school has the most advantages.
 
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My girls, all three teens have never been in the public system. They are very social and grounded in academics. They are also very grounded with the Lord! The problem with the public is you get "herd mentality". Everyone wants to do what the crowd wants to do or fear rejection. It is a choice and a sacrifice we have made to make sure they have a good education while not being in the public arena. I now even run a small private school to help others who feel the way we do. The other thing with the public is if you believe in Creation, you will have to help them past the evolution teachings that occur in all the areas of the public. The choice is yours, pray and see where God leads you. Homeschooling is not that hard...just an extension of what you have taught them at home in life. Bless you as you make your choices.
 
Christianrkchk89

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To bounce off of what Alice said.. in my town we had roughly 5 middles schools.. one was Catholic and they all combined together for high school. Well, here the Catholic students weren't any different than any of the students who came from public middle schools. They cursed, drank underage and other stuff.. just like the "secular" kids. So unless it's different there.. I'd just stick with public school. They'll come in contact with the bad stuff no matter where they go and this way you can avoid having to mesh Catholicism with your Baptist faith. There are plenty of us who've gone to public school and come out without having done drugs, drank underage, started cussing or done promiscuous things with someone of the opposite gender. And like Shard and someone else says.. it gets them ready for what they'll have to face in everyday life. Just keep up with their friends and such and they should be fine!
 
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I would say the local high school, considering that is where other's from your church go to and where you grew up. I went to a Catholic high school growing up, but it was nothing how you've described. Religious teaching was minimal and confined to a single course which really didn't teach us much. Although we did have the occasional school mass and daily prayer over the announcement each morning, there wasn't much difference from the local public schools. I think there are definitely pros and cons to any school. I definitely see the benefits of being exposed to the "real world" versus being sheltered from it. Sooner or later, your children will be exposed to it. Do you really want them being thrown into their university experience with absolutely no idea of what to realistically expect? No. You want them to be prepared. And the public high school will definitely do that for them. Just be sure to keep them grounded in their faith and play a very active role in their life to ensure that the pressures they experience won't become too much for them.
 
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I mean I guess you could homeschool them and then ship them off to bob jones university...lol
 
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Shard said:
I mean I guess you could homeschool them and then ship them off to bob jones university...lol
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hey now. no making fun of my school. :)
 
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you go to bob jones?
 
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bonnie2

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I do. I'm not ashamed of that. But one concern of mine is to not make ppl think that I've been brainwashed by them. That seems to be the prevailing opinion (I worked at a Wendy's near the school, and some of my customers basically told me that Steven Jones brainwashed me! lol). Actually I do not take everything I hear and just believe it. I evaluate all of it, believe what I determine to be true, & I have disagreed with my teachers on some things.
 
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