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Sure thing, I'll give it a try.
Sense of humor (or at least accepting of my sarcasm)
Intelligent
Quiet/reserved. (No party girls need apply)
Not clingy... I need quite a bit of alone time...
Country-fied, but not exactly all the way into the redneck category...
A love of cars/motors/mechanical things would be a plus, but I'd be fine with just someone who doesn't get bored when I ramble on endlessly about cars...as, unfortunately to some of you, I do.
Love of the outdoors...doesn't mind playing in the mud, for instance.
Love of books/music/arts.
Physically attractive to me...Note, I said "to me"...not necessarily what the world considers attractive.
There's more, I'm sure, but I'm sure you've heard (had) enough.
Sense of humor (or at least accepting of my sarcasm)
Intelligent
Quiet/reserved. (No party girls need apply)
Not clingy... I need quite a bit of alone time...
Country-fied, but not exactly all the way into the redneck category...
A love of cars/motors/mechanical things would be a plus, but I'd be fine with just someone who doesn't get bored when I ramble on endlessly about cars...as, unfortunately to some of you, I do.
Love of the outdoors...doesn't mind playing in the mud, for instance.
Love of books/music/arts.
Physically attractive to me...Note, I said "to me"...not necessarily what the world considers attractive.
There's more, I'm sure, but I'm sure you've heard (had) enough.
F
I think every guy may like different things but I tell you what just conquer my heart in a girl.
I like girls with much femaleness, who are sweet ,kind and simple. This kind of girls it's really the best in my opinion.
You know I'm not going to marry a boy like me lol, so in my opinion it's important that a girl has definited her female's tracts in her personality, also because I find my self very well with emotional girls. they are so sweet eheh
Another thing I like in a girl is the sense of art. I find interesting girls who have some artistic passion like acting, writing, music or something like that.
I like girls with much femaleness, who are sweet ,kind and simple. This kind of girls it's really the best in my opinion.
You know I'm not going to marry a boy like me lol, so in my opinion it's important that a girl has definited her female's tracts in her personality, also because I find my self very well with emotional girls. they are so sweet eheh
Another thing I like in a girl is the sense of art. I find interesting girls who have some artistic passion like acting, writing, music or something like that.
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I typed out a pretty lengthy response last night and then got an error when I tried to post it.
Ultimately, however, it comes down to me not really being able to pinpoint what I'm attracted to in a girl. It's been more recently that I've been attracted to actual feminineness. And I like glasses, and long hair. And I like dark hair.
But really, the only consistent thing that truly stands out among girls that I like is that they love Jesus with all of their being. A love for God is the most attractive trait a girl can have,
Being able to cook would be nice too, since I can't even get spaghetti right
Ultimately, however, it comes down to me not really being able to pinpoint what I'm attracted to in a girl. It's been more recently that I've been attracted to actual feminineness. And I like glasses, and long hair. And I like dark hair.
But really, the only consistent thing that truly stands out among girls that I like is that they love Jesus with all of their being. A love for God is the most attractive trait a girl can have,
Being able to cook would be nice too, since I can't even get spaghetti right
F
I typed out a pretty lengthy response last night and then got an error when I tried to post it.
Ultimately, however, it comes down to me not really being able to pinpoint what I'm attracted to in a girl. It's been more recently that I've been attracted to actual feminineness. And I like glasses, and long hair. And I like dark hair.
But really, the only consistent thing that truly stands out among girls that I like is that they love Jesus with all of their being. A love for God is the most attractive trait a girl can have,
Being able to cook would be nice too, since I can't even get spaghetti right
Ultimately, however, it comes down to me not really being able to pinpoint what I'm attracted to in a girl. It's been more recently that I've been attracted to actual feminineness. And I like glasses, and long hair. And I like dark hair.
But really, the only consistent thing that truly stands out among girls that I like is that they love Jesus with all of their being. A love for God is the most attractive trait a girl can have,
Being able to cook would be nice too, since I can't even get spaghetti right
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I get scared to ever post standards of what type of a girl I want, because last time I made a post about that... I got ripped hardcore by a bunch of angry women. Oh well.
Anyway, what do I want? Good question. Does anyone ever really know? You can think of a billion things and yet you will never find them all, and a lot of times you like a girl for who she is rather than if she fits your list.
Well, I want a girl that is beautiful on the outside and the inside. She has to be GREAT at communication... otherwise its a no go. I need to be able to talk to her about anything and everything and be comfortable with it, or I really wouldn't be interested. She needs to be funny, intelligent, feminine, and really not such a hardcore feminist type of manhater hahaha. I can't stand that type of girl.
She NEEDS to have a big heart. That means she knows how to love and has a lot of it to give. She needs to be spontaneous like me... like... the type where she will go on random trips at the drop of a dime. I do that all the time. I'll decide randomly that I want to take a roadtrip 1000 miles away, and I just pick up and go. I don't plan things, so it would be nice if she was the same way. I cannot stand structured trips for instance. Tour guides are a no go for me. I need the freedom to be able to go and do anything and whatever I want to, explore wherever I go without the need of a schedule, etc etc. It would be nice if I could find a girl as adventurous as me in that aspect. I LOVE traveling... so... it would be cool to find a girl that had that same passion. I'm serious when I say I'll end up traveling the entire world before I die. That's my goal in life, so I kind of need the girl to have the same mentality. Obviously, if I get married and have kids, things change a bit, but that doesn't mean it is completely out of the question.
Anyway, what's my list so far.... beautiful, good talker, intelligent, funny, loving/caring, spontaneous, adventurous... hmmm.... obviously she needs to be a christian... I guess that's about it. I'd also like a girl with a good head on her shoulders. I want someone with goals... someone who is dependable... someone that I could lean on if I had problems in my life, and vice versa... that type of thing.
Is that a good list? I guess. Does it mean I will ever find someone with all of those qualities? Probably not...
Anyway, what do I want? Good question. Does anyone ever really know? You can think of a billion things and yet you will never find them all, and a lot of times you like a girl for who she is rather than if she fits your list.
Well, I want a girl that is beautiful on the outside and the inside. She has to be GREAT at communication... otherwise its a no go. I need to be able to talk to her about anything and everything and be comfortable with it, or I really wouldn't be interested. She needs to be funny, intelligent, feminine, and really not such a hardcore feminist type of manhater hahaha. I can't stand that type of girl.
She NEEDS to have a big heart. That means she knows how to love and has a lot of it to give. She needs to be spontaneous like me... like... the type where she will go on random trips at the drop of a dime. I do that all the time. I'll decide randomly that I want to take a roadtrip 1000 miles away, and I just pick up and go. I don't plan things, so it would be nice if she was the same way. I cannot stand structured trips for instance. Tour guides are a no go for me. I need the freedom to be able to go and do anything and whatever I want to, explore wherever I go without the need of a schedule, etc etc. It would be nice if I could find a girl as adventurous as me in that aspect. I LOVE traveling... so... it would be cool to find a girl that had that same passion. I'm serious when I say I'll end up traveling the entire world before I die. That's my goal in life, so I kind of need the girl to have the same mentality. Obviously, if I get married and have kids, things change a bit, but that doesn't mean it is completely out of the question.
Anyway, what's my list so far.... beautiful, good talker, intelligent, funny, loving/caring, spontaneous, adventurous... hmmm.... obviously she needs to be a christian... I guess that's about it. I'd also like a girl with a good head on her shoulders. I want someone with goals... someone who is dependable... someone that I could lean on if I had problems in my life, and vice versa... that type of thing.
Is that a good list? I guess. Does it mean I will ever find someone with all of those qualities? Probably not...
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Wow, everyone's so pessimistic! You're all listing the qualities you want, and then say that you probably won't find anyone with those qualities. I mean, I fit ALL of these! And, I'm modest, too.
But, being serious now, that's what faith is all about. No one's perfect, so you can't hold out for that, but if you trust God with your desires, and seek His will for your life, then He will bring you together with someone whom you'll be great with. The best relationships I've seen are the ones which have God at the center, and in which both parties trusted God with their relationships, where they sought His will. I'm not saying that you shouldn't bother looking, but if you are trusting Him and seeking His will, and the traits you are seeking are within His will, then you should trust Him to provide.
But, being serious now, that's what faith is all about. No one's perfect, so you can't hold out for that, but if you trust God with your desires, and seek His will for your life, then He will bring you together with someone whom you'll be great with. The best relationships I've seen are the ones which have God at the center, and in which both parties trusted God with their relationships, where they sought His will. I'm not saying that you shouldn't bother looking, but if you are trusting Him and seeking His will, and the traits you are seeking are within His will, then you should trust Him to provide.
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I'm not saying that you shouldn't bother looking, but if you are trusting Him and seeking His will, and the traits you are seeking are within His will, then you should trust Him to provide.
So... everyone saying God will provide... God DOES provide... but you have to work for it. God doesn't give lottery tickets. All you can do it go out and hope you find someone, and pray that God will open their hearts into being the right person for you. That's all you can do and expect.
I just feel its kind of dumb for everyone to say "God will provide everything" all the time, because the bible doesn't really support that. If a man wants to eat, the bible says to go out and work. The same thing goes with relationships. If you want one, go find one. If you want it to work, then you have to work VERY HARD into making it work. It isn't just sit on your hands and have God do it all, because that isn't how God works.
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I haven't responded to such conversations yet, Dabears so don't stone me please!! lol
I see where you're coming from. My stance isn't so much the cookie cutter way of putting it, cuz in a way you're right it doesn't make sense. If both the guy and girl are doing NOTHING in pursuit, then well, we're not going anywhere.
What I hope they mean by the saying, is this: going about your regular routine, not in explicit search of a spouse, but staying in tune with God so that when you see someone, you can hear God or feel Him say yes or no. This wouldn't particularly be the answer to "is that my wife??" but rather to "should I pursue?"
I'm not so naive to think that we shouldn't pursue people that may or may not be our spouse. Some people are called to such, when the only person they date really does become their spouse. But many of us are called to endure a couple relationships before the right one in order to learn. People can debate "then you weren't following God's will if you have to break up" but what if God DID say yes and then God DID say no? We are also called to go through seasons. The one "yes" may not be the final answer. Circumstances change. Don't "lock it in" and not consult your Father about it anymore.
But I do say that we shouldn't step into such pursuits without a check from above. Without so, we may be following the flesh.
I have to add though, I'm an old-fashioned romantic and would love the guy to start the pursuit. Nothing wrong with girls taking the first step, but I like to give them the chance first. lol
I see where you're coming from. My stance isn't so much the cookie cutter way of putting it, cuz in a way you're right it doesn't make sense. If both the guy and girl are doing NOTHING in pursuit, then well, we're not going anywhere.
What I hope they mean by the saying, is this: going about your regular routine, not in explicit search of a spouse, but staying in tune with God so that when you see someone, you can hear God or feel Him say yes or no. This wouldn't particularly be the answer to "is that my wife??" but rather to "should I pursue?"
I'm not so naive to think that we shouldn't pursue people that may or may not be our spouse. Some people are called to such, when the only person they date really does become their spouse. But many of us are called to endure a couple relationships before the right one in order to learn. People can debate "then you weren't following God's will if you have to break up" but what if God DID say yes and then God DID say no? We are also called to go through seasons. The one "yes" may not be the final answer. Circumstances change. Don't "lock it in" and not consult your Father about it anymore.
But I do say that we shouldn't step into such pursuits without a check from above. Without so, we may be following the flesh.
I have to add though, I'm an old-fashioned romantic and would love the guy to start the pursuit. Nothing wrong with girls taking the first step, but I like to give them the chance first. lol
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