Hi I am 22 years old and engaged to my partner. I recently got saved and excepted Jesus Christ into my heart, soul , and life . I’m new to doing the right thing and no longer wanting to sin. My partner does rap music which is very sinful and we have spoken about him stopping and he says he will never stop rapping because that is something that he loves but I cannot deal with him doing such thing. Next he likes to watch a lot of porn , save pictures of half naked or fully naked women which is disrespectful and he says he will stop but I know he cannot because he has been doing it for years as he is only 20. Next I told him that we should wait until after we get married to continue to have sex and he does not agree. He believes I will give in but I refuse to because we are already shackled up and there are so many evil spirits in this house. I have no clue what to do, I really need advice from someone because I am lost but I do trust in Jesus . God bless❤️
What should I do
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His lyrics are sinful ( talks about murder, fighting, sexual things etc) in which he knows that and has confirmed that. I honestly cannot be with someone who is addicted to porn. He seems to not want to stop and said that if I do not have sex with him until marriage he will continue to look at porn and it made me pause and think what am I really doing. He says he does not have a religion but he loves listening to gospel but he also says he believes in God and talks to him when things work in his favor and I said that’s not the only time you are supposed to talk to God.
, you want no part of this guy. He obviously doesn't want to change his lifestyle for you or anyone else. There are so many red flags here. He sounds very selfish and petty. It's up to you, but my advice is to drop him like a bad habit, and the sooner the better.I honestly agree ! I am now online looking for places to live as I just found a new job. That is the only thing holding me back is finances and I do not know where to start or find places affordable. I really know I shouldn’t be here with him and he makes me feel bad when he says am I just going to leave him with the rent and bills when none of it is in my name and he has tried to kick me out a few times so I do not feel responsible for any of those things although I have been helping out with bills
It's good that nothing is in your name. The bills and rent are HIS responsibility entirely.. Open a savings account and put money in it each month. Don't tell him about it. And if he's tried kicking you out, then leave once you can afford it. Whatever you do, don't marry him or you'll be in for a lifetime of heartbreak, problems and other things that you don't need.
I think it's great that you are asking these questions. One thing I have learned and I will advise you, step back, self respect begins with you. It's a big beautiful world, develop healthy interests, set some personal goals, achieve a few of your dreams, cultivate your self-worth, build a better story. God bless you.
You have no future with this type of man and he will ruin your life if you allow him to do so. Also, no more sex with him and move out immediately. My advice is to break off the engagement and for the time being improving your personal relationship with Jesus Christ. You already know what to do but only need the courage and determination to do the right thing to save yourself. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
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