The biggest thing to let go of if I ever am blessed with a spouse, is my dogs in bed. No boyfriend pillow needed. Memo likes to have his head against mine, Plato likes to be by my side watching my face with loving eyes. I feel loved and safe. And very warm! And the both snore much less than my ex husband did. At the moment I can't see myself sharing bed with anyone. I do see myself sharing a life with someone special, but not the bed. Perhaps that will change if and when it is time.