I think you may be confusing salvation in God with active fellowship with God.
The justification necessary for salvation has no condition of work attached to it, just the condition of trusting in Christ. On the other hand, fellowship with God is conditioned on you living for him. The benefit of the Holy Spirit you have in salvation is conditional on you living in obedience, particularly the obedience to treat people well. You can't have the benefit of the Holy Spirit that's inside of you if you choose to live in strife and self absorption.
That's the issue., I'm not mixing the 2 up. They are one in the same. We are saved by grace through faith in Christ and we live by grace through faith in Christ. Even if we have stupid thinking later because we have not yet "put off" our old manner of life., that doesn't change the fact a transaction with Jesus took place and we got born again. As JGIG posted, Jesus "radified" this new covenant. Sealed it up. (how do you spell radify)
I've read the posts here and see the disagreement and have "liked" posts on both sides. Both sides have good things to say. I seriously don't get why you guys are in such a tizzy with each other. If some here don't believe in eternal security and if some do is it really something to argue about?
I now know and enjoy the gift of being secure and it was something I had to grow into. (Trust) I'm not really sure how anyone can feel secure in their own ability to always think well and do well or think they have a sincerity that is honored by God. Seriously., the ONLY One God honors is Jesus and those who believe and Have faith in Him.
Often times a human being can be waaay over in left field totally missing the mark while all the while INSISTING they are totally ON the mark. Sometimes we can be sooo sincere it can take a looong time to get into right thinking and away from our stinking thinking. Other times people are so sincere in their own ideas and thoughts and teachings some can and have died for what they believe and it's 100% wrong.
For myself I know there is NO WAY I could save myself and then KEEP myself saved. It took Jesus to make me born again. When we accepted Jesus as Savior, we went from death unto life. He did that transformation and the Holy Spirit came in to our heart and we have this new life in Christ. The Holy Spirit becomes the Comforter., Guide., Teacher., Living Water.
We who have Jesus are given a new life IN Him... we have passed from death over to life.... Transaction taken place.
Without Jesus., life IS a "PRECARIOUS" situation ...dangerously lacking in stability or security...subject to change., based on unproved or uncertain premises... Archaic..Dependent on the will or favor of another ...YIKE YIKES YIKES YIKES YIKES.
That is what we are without Jesus. But the GOOD NEWS IS we always have Jesus now because we ARE one of His. Our souls are not left in a "precarious" situation any more.
Married people who don't relate to each other miss out on the blessings of what marriage was meant to be. Children who run from parents miss out on the blessings of having parents and parents miss out on the blessings children are supposed to be.
But both those relationships are flawed by human weaknesses that are subject to change. Those relationships are "PRECARIOUS" But our relationship with God is not subject to change. Even if we "feel" the relationship has changed ... it's because of Jesus that it hasn't and can't.
When I finally grasped that about Jesus being our righteousness., my relationship with God took on new meaning and faith began to grow into some maturity. Looking away from self and to Jesus always brings security because He is the sure foundation everything else is built on.