Gender generalizations

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lil-rush

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Why is it that when a girl/guy does a person wrong, that person feels the need to say the whole gender is bad? Like if a boyfriend cheats on his girlfriend, why does the girlfriend say "All guys are just cheaters that can't be loyal to one girl at a time, even if they wanted to."

I realize emotions can sometimes cause one's brain to stop functioning, but it doesn't follow to dislike a whole gender just because one person (or a few persons) did you wrong.

Quick clarification: this is aimed more at failed relationships, and not at people who react badly towards the opposite gender because of sexual/physical abuse (such as rape, abusive father, etc). You can address this if you want, but it's not what I'm focusing on.
 
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NukePooch

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I prefer to not generalize genderifically speaking unless there is proof. For instance, all girls are evil.
 

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I love generlizations and sterotypes.
 
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Maddog

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Generalisations may be bad, but not as bad as substituting the word 'gender' for 'sex'.
 
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NukePooch said:
I prefer to not generalize genderifically speaking unless there is proof. For instance, all girls are evil.
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Ah you finally have the mathematical proof I been looking for. Thanks!!!
 
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NukePooch

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eugenius said:
Ah you finally have the mathematical proof I been looking for. Thanks!!!
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Not a problem...the proof still doesn't keep me from looking for the perfect evil angel...
 
seoulsearch

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NukePooch said:
Not a problem...the proof still doesn't keep me from looking for the perfect evil angel...
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Now THIS is a pick-up line ^... "Well hello there, I think you could be the perfect evil angel I've been looking for... would you be interested in going out some time?" (Sure beats the heck out of, "Hey baby, you're lookin' mighty fine," or some other used-a-million-times-one-liner.) I give it 3 and 1/2 stars for creativity.

And of course, my reply would be, "What a coincidence, you recognized me even without my halo, which I had taken for a good polishing this weekend. Of course, it's always a challenge to find a place that doesn't tarnish the ever-present devil's horns while shining up the halo... Do you have a recommendation?"

Hours of fascinating conversation and a string of dates are almost guaranteed, right? After all, who wants to be called a good two-shoes!
 
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BellaFlor

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I'd never like being called an perfect evil angel. I guess in our sociality that means you are a partygirl, simpleminded,cheap, etc.... But yeah, everyone is different in taste when it comes about namecallings ;) :)
 
zeroturbulence

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haha EvilAngel would make a great chat name
 
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Our tendency is to think, well if it happened once, it will happen again. Extrapolate that onto a bad experience, or a few bad experiences. Who set themselves up for those experiences? If you keep going after that type of Guy, than what else do you expect? Why not find out what God expects out of a man or woman, biblicaly, and seek after that?
 
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I agree with the whole, 'generalizing is bad' concept. It is easy to become pessimistic after several experiences and similar experiences of others; however, we have the tendency to point blame a lot, yet never really look at ourselves.

For example...if you're looking for 'Mr. Right' or 'Mrs. Right', you probably would not find such a person at a bar, club, party, ext. Also, if being a good person, good father/mother, good role model, ext...is 'boring' to you, you might need to reevaluate what you consider fun.

Sorry to throw this out there, but it is something that's erked me over the years. Not to be rude, but if you think drinking, drugs, guys that'll sleep with you but don't really care about you...is a good time, you have serious problems. You're not gonna find a good father or a good husband in that type of lifestyle.

And the same is true for guys. If you go after the 'wild' girl...you're never going to 'tame' her. It's foolish. She won't be a good mother for your kids. And also, through statistics among other things, she probably won't be faithful to you either. (As goes for men of this type not being faithful to women too.)

All that being said, relationships are hard, and pain hurts...but, just because it doesn't always work out is no reason to give up. You may or may not have heard this before, but what if Christ had given up on us instead of coming to die?

"You have to walk through rocks to see the mountain view." -Caedmon's Call
 
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bonnie2

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NukePooch said:
I prefer to not generalize genderifically speaking unless there is proof. For instance, all girls are evil.
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Wow I had to laugh at your proof even though I'm a girl! That's hilarious
 
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CatWoman

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Nuckpooch you are too funny.
 
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BellaFlor

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lil-rush said:
Why is it that when a girl/guy does a person wrong, that person feels the need to say the whole gender is bad? Like if a boyfriend cheats on his girlfriend, why does the girlfriend say "All guys are just cheaters that can't be loyal to one girl at a time, even if they wanted to."

I realize emotions can sometimes cause one's brain to stop functioning, but it doesn't follow to dislike a whole gender just because one person (or a few persons) did you wrong.
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I do agree, it is very silly... I think this is also 'cause the person still is feeling very hurt and betrayed, thus also easier with judging a whole gender, or a type of people, etc....
 
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NukePooch said:
I prefer to not generalize genderifically speaking unless there is proof. For instance, all girls are evil.
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Are you the brother of my ex-bf, because this was his favorite saying?????
 
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NukePooch

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I think that most people who say that a whole gender is wrong is usually doing so after being hurt by numerous people of that group...But I go back to thinking, if everyone hates me, it's probably not "everyone's" fault, it's mine. If I were to continue to go out with women who treat me bad, why would I feel shocked when they treat me bad? It's the old saying..."If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got." Also...insanity is jokingly referred to as doing the same things over and over, expecting different results.

I would like to take credit for coming up with the 'Proof that Girls are Evil', but I can't. It's been around a lot longer than I have. I believe Adam first scribed it on a rock right outside the gate to the Garden of Eden, except that I believe he used Eve=evil, because there weren't any other women around yet.

As far as me looking for my perfect EvilAngel, Miss BellaFlor, I wouldn't actually be happy with anyone who was "partygirl, simpleminded,cheap". What I meant was that I was looking for the perfect woman...someone who can simultaneously infuriate and infatuate me..without the fire to go with the ice, I'd just be cold.

Miss Seoul, would you have any band-aids I could have? I skinned my knees falling for you...
 
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NukePooch

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Jullianna said:
Are you the brother of my ex-bf, because this was his favorite saying?????
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Actually, as you can see in my above post, it's knowledge that has been passed down from generation to generation...hasn't really sunk in to the male gender's collective thick heads yet, as we do indeed keep having generation after generation...

In the immortal words of Grandpa Gustafson from the movie Grumpy Old Men, "Women...you can't live with 'em...can't shoot 'em."
 
seoulsearch

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NukePooch said:
I think that most people who say that a whole gender is wrong is usually doing so after being hurt by numerous people of that group...But I go back to thinking, if everyone hates me, it's probably not "everyone's" fault, it's mine. If I were to continue to go out with women who treat me bad, why would I feel shocked when they treat me bad? It's the old saying..."If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got." Also...insanity is jokingly referred to as doing the same things over and over, expecting different results.

I would like to take credit for coming up with the 'Proof that Girls are Evil', but I can't. It's been around a lot longer than I have. I believe Adam first scribed it on a rock right outside the gate to the Garden of Eden, except that I believe he used Eve=evil, because there weren't any other women around yet.

As far as me looking for my perfect EvilAngel, Miss BellaFlor, I wouldn't actually be happy with anyone who was "partygirl, simpleminded,cheap". What I meant was that I was looking for the perfect woman...someone who can simultaneously infuriate and infatuate me..without the fire to go with the ice, I'd just be cold.

Miss Seoul, would you have any band-aids I could have? I skinned my knees falling for you...
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Heh heh... so perhaps in Genesis we are given an edited version, and what really went down when God confronted Adam and Eve is that Adam told God, "The woman you put here with me... Forget the serpent, Lord--I'm already married to pure evil."

Except... that God looked over His original creation and called it good, so I wonder what God said in reply.

I think NukePooch should write his own thread of unique first lines and/or advice for topics of conversation when approaching women...

If you don't mind Hello Kitty band-aids, I may be able to lend a few (it's the part of me that will never grow up... when it comes to Pinky and the Brain, I am definitely the Pinky side of the equation.) NARF!!!

I think it's great that a guy would want a woman who can be both fierce and gentle when appropriate--this is why many women have a thing for bad boys--they think it's the only way they can find a man strong enough to handle their stronger side without being bowled over or too insecure to stay. I'm not saying that's correct reasoning at all (bad boys seem to have some of the worst self-esteem issues around).

Sorry I'm getting off topic!! Good to see a guy voice an opinion that he doesn't mind a woman who can be a little feisty!

*laugh* "Miss Seoul"... :) very cool, but makes me feel like a 5th grade teacher!! :D
 
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BellaFlor

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NukePooch said:
As far as me looking for my perfect EvilAngel, Miss BellaFlor, I wouldn't actually be happy with anyone who was "partygirl, simpleminded,cheap". What I meant was that I was looking for the perfect woman...someone who can simultaneously infuriate and infatuate me..without the fire to go with the ice, I'd just be cold.
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Yes, I know... I also think you said it 'cause of that funny conclusion part about girls being evil ;)
I was only answering Seul's post of how original and cool being called "Perfect Evil Angel" by their boyfriend/husband etc.... My opinion about how world's society might view it if you do, since today it is very normal to adress women in a more naughty way. Like if a guy says a woman is naughty, evil, wild, etc, I do think they see it in a bad and also not pure-like way.

Although, sure if used in a sense of humor that you and your girlfriend/wife share, then that's fine. :)
 
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