Would you or do you share bank accounts with your spouse?
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In hopes of getting this train back on the tracks...........
My wife and I have always maintained a joint checking/savings account. Since I'm the one to sit down and pay the bills I'm the one who knows how much "disposable" money is in the account at any given time so my wife gives the courtesy of asking prior to major purchases, not because I demand absolute financial control but because she knows that a major purchase at the wrong time could have a bad affect on our finances.
I've know a handful of couples that do 3 accounts......his, hers, theirs and it always seems to me that there is a lack of trust and frequently a lack of long term financial planning as a couple that goes along with this model.
My wife and I have always maintained a joint checking/savings account. Since I'm the one to sit down and pay the bills I'm the one who knows how much "disposable" money is in the account at any given time so my wife gives the courtesy of asking prior to major purchases, not because I demand absolute financial control but because she knows that a major purchase at the wrong time could have a bad affect on our finances.
I've know a handful of couples that do 3 accounts......his, hers, theirs and it always seems to me that there is a lack of trust and frequently a lack of long term financial planning as a couple that goes along with this model.
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Interesting.
My friends who don’t share bank accounts also say that whoever out of the two of them earn less shouldn’t have a right to “spend” the higher earning ones money. But it makes me think, why did they get married in the first place if they cannot share money? It’s not even about money tbh, it’s about the unconditional love that was taken as a vow to their spouse.
Money is not evil, it’s HOW you use it and HOW you spend it wisely imo.
1Tim 6:10 “For the love of money is the root of all evil...”
Notice it says “for the love of money”, so when you start to put money first before everything else, that picture is telling us that you are loving a materialistic thing of this world.
But I do also understand why some couples don’t share bank accounts, but I stand by my statement of sharing it with my future H.
My friends who don’t share bank accounts also say that whoever out of the two of them earn less shouldn’t have a right to “spend” the higher earning ones money. But it makes me think, why did they get married in the first place if they cannot share money? It’s not even about money tbh, it’s about the unconditional love that was taken as a vow to their spouse.
Money is not evil, it’s HOW you use it and HOW you spend it wisely imo.
1Tim 6:10 “For the love of money is the root of all evil...”
Notice it says “for the love of money”, so when you start to put money first before everything else, that picture is telling us that you are loving a materialistic thing of this world.
But I do also understand why some couples don’t share bank accounts, but I stand by my statement of sharing it with my future H.
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Perhaps Adam wanted to see what would happen to Even when she ate the fruit. I read Genesis 3 and it does say that Adam was with Eve at that time....
Genesis 3:6 “And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.”
But also, remember what follows Genesis verse 6.... Genesis 3:7 “And the eyes of them both were opened...”
Which means, Adam could have not possibily known the malicious intention of the serpent, as Adams eyes became open after he ate the fruit. So how could he possibly be an accomplice? More like a bystander.
But this is turning into a BDF thread and that ain’t the purpose lol.
Genesis 3:6 “And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.”
But also, remember what follows Genesis verse 6.... Genesis 3:7 “And the eyes of them both were opened...”
Which means, Adam could have not possibily known the malicious intention of the serpent, as Adams eyes became open after he ate the fruit. So how could he possibly be an accomplice? More like a bystander.
But this is turning into a BDF thread and that ain’t the purpose lol.
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Personally I believe in a shared bank account, for all the reasons everybody else has listed before... but I do understand why some people think it is a bad idea. With all the love in the world, some people are weaker than others. And some people have been burned by those weaker people.
"A dog who was once bitten by a snake will fear even a rope." People who have dealt with financially irresponsible spouses before probably don't want to do it again. Even if the next person shows every sign of being able to handle money well, there will always be that doubt in the back of the mind, "What if it happens this time?"
"A dog who was once bitten by a snake will fear even a rope." People who have dealt with financially irresponsible spouses before probably don't want to do it again. Even if the next person shows every sign of being able to handle money well, there will always be that doubt in the back of the mind, "What if it happens this time?"
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All of you make confusion between affection and love, between sex and love, what are not the same thing.
A woman is overwhelmed by affection and not by love.
How you the women love when you lie to your children about santa cloud, about rabbit that lay eggs, about being brought by a store, and training your children to worship ,namely to serve IDOLS through toys. How do you love when you train your children from when are babies to have fun and to entertain. Look around you upon this Earth. Why is this madness in human society ?
Because of fun and entertimen.
Fun and entertimen never teach respect and responsibility, BUT rules and regulations teach respect and responsibility, namely teach love.
A woman is overwhelmed by affection and not by love.
How you the women love when you lie to your children about santa cloud, about rabbit that lay eggs, about being brought by a store, and training your children to worship ,namely to serve IDOLS through toys. How do you love when you train your children from when are babies to have fun and to entertain. Look around you upon this Earth. Why is this madness in human society ?
Because of fun and entertimen.
Fun and entertimen never teach respect and responsibility, BUT rules and regulations teach respect and responsibility, namely teach love.
yes that makes adam satans accomplice like if I rob a bank, give Joe some money and he knows it's ill gotten gains hes guilty. You wittness the crime, then share the spoils of the crime. Then you are just as guilty as I am, more than poor Joe. he's guilty after the fact but you and I are co-conspiritors? right, kinda like the difference between GTA and joy riding.
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What is his is mine and what is mine is his. 95% of what we own is ours. (He can keep his undies, and I'll keep mine. 
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We share everything including the money. As for doing bills every other week? I'd be tempted to figure out how to make mortgage-payment/insurance payment week his every time. And, fortunately, both always come at the beginning of the month.
I enjoy doing the bills because it makes me feel less anxious. I know how much money we have until the next paycheck. He hates doing the bills because he is worried he'll screw it up, and worries we don't have enough after paying them. But I don't enjoy doing the bills enough to want to do them every other week. It's not fun to do bills, so why do it more often than necessary?
And I saw Miri was worried about needing to explain buying a pocketbook. It's not a problem. We figure out how much we are free to spend without asking permission. And what we are free to spend takes into account how much income and outgo we have. When we were doing well, the number was higher. Now that we're not making as much, the number has lowered.
Think about it. Would you want him to buy a car without checking with you first? It's a big tab. But would you be upset if he bought a bike? It all depends on how much the two of you make, doesn't it? If money is tight, then buying a bike might be frowned on. If it isn't, so what?
We've never asked each other if we can buy personal things. I've never asked for a new pocketbook, new clothes, new shoes. I've told him I'm buying them. And he's told me the same thing.
And we tend to tell just to make sure the other one wasn't planning on using the money for something we needed in the meantime. After all, those months when the car insurance is due, as well as the car needs to be fixed, is not a good time for a new pocketbook and shoes. They can wait until next month.
Besides, even if he bought a pocketbook, he'd never use it.
)We share everything including the money. As for doing bills every other week? I'd be tempted to figure out how to make mortgage-payment/insurance payment week his every time. And, fortunately, both always come at the beginning of the month.
I enjoy doing the bills because it makes me feel less anxious. I know how much money we have until the next paycheck. He hates doing the bills because he is worried he'll screw it up, and worries we don't have enough after paying them. But I don't enjoy doing the bills enough to want to do them every other week. It's not fun to do bills, so why do it more often than necessary?
And I saw Miri was worried about needing to explain buying a pocketbook. It's not a problem. We figure out how much we are free to spend without asking permission. And what we are free to spend takes into account how much income and outgo we have. When we were doing well, the number was higher. Now that we're not making as much, the number has lowered.
Think about it. Would you want him to buy a car without checking with you first? It's a big tab. But would you be upset if he bought a bike? It all depends on how much the two of you make, doesn't it? If money is tight, then buying a bike might be frowned on. If it isn't, so what?
We've never asked each other if we can buy personal things. I've never asked for a new pocketbook, new clothes, new shoes. I've told him I'm buying them. And he's told me the same thing.
And we tend to tell just to make sure the other one wasn't planning on using the money for something we needed in the meantime. After all, those months when the car insurance is due, as well as the car needs to be fixed, is not a good time for a new pocketbook and shoes. They can wait until next month.
Besides, even if he bought a pocketbook, he'd never use it.
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I prefer share you collect i spend it lol jk
Well when you are marriege with some one means you share all. Your live and everything you have.
So sharing is my options coz love means nothing need to hide all is transparent for both of us. Coz family is an open book for husband n wife
you collect i spend it lol jkWell when you are marriege with some one means you share all. Your live and everything you have.
So sharing is my options coz love means nothing need to hide all is transparent for both of us. Coz family is an open book for husband n wife