When you never get passed the judgmental first impression.

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toinena

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What people see when they see me is a wheelchair and a dog.

That cuts off 99% of all men. If they do stay around for politeness sake, my chair has plenty of electronic features and buttons that always seems to fascinate boys of all ages.

If they stay longer they notice I working and studying. That scares off 0.8%. I don't need a provider.

That leaves 0.2%. 0.15 gets appalled by the fact I was married. No matter if the person was a violent drunkard that divorced me after making another woman.

That leaves me with 0.05 % chance tops of being found by a man that sees me for who I am.

How do you get passed the doom and gloom of the first impression?
 
Mel85

Mel85

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I say be yourself gf! Don’t change for nobody. You are a beautiful woman, both inside and out and what you can offer will bless the man that God ordains you to be with.

Plus, you come with two dogs, that’s a super bonus! ;)
 
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Ugly

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Mel85 said:
I say be yourself gf! Don’t change for nobody. You are a beautiful woman, both inside and out and what you can offer will bless the man that God ordains you to be with.

Plus, you come with two dogs, that’s a super bonus! ;)
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Such a politicians answer :ROFL:
 
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Miri

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My first hurdle is my skin colour.
I’m mixed race, mum was British and white, don’t know who dad was
but he gave me a nice sun tan.

Most white people want a white person.
Asians want an Asian person.
Africans want an African person etc etc.

Add to that I’m now 50 but look 30. Sometimes I get chatted up by the 30s
but I’m old enough to be their mother. I never get chatted up by the
50s as most are married, or think I’m 30, or looking for their own race.
(I’ve noticed younger people are getting more accommodating in that
respect but not the older generation).

Never been married, no kids, no pets, no baggage, don’t smoke - makes no difference
people don’t look past the skin colour.
 
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Ugly

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Mel85 said:
Well, what you got?

And I meant it Andrea, don’t listen to this republican LOL.
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I somewhat relate, so i have nothing.

I said nothing against Ms Andrea madam. So we should all ignore this First Order supporter!
 
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Ugly

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Miri said:
My first hurdle is my skin colour.
I’m mixed race, mum was British and white, don’t know who dad was
but he gave me a nice sun tan.

Most white people want a white person.
Asians want an Asian person.
Africans want an African person etc etc.

Add to that I’m now 50 but look 30. Sometimes I get chatted up by the 30s
but I’m old enough to be their mother. I never get chatted up by the
50s as most are married, or think I’m 30, or looking for their own race.
(I’ve noticed younger people are getting more accommodating in that
respect but not the older generation).

Never been married, no kids, no pets, no baggage, don’t smoke - makes no difference
people don’t look past the skin colour.
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I understand some of these issues. I'm white, so not that part. In fact my PR ex nicknamed me Casper :ROFL:

I don't smoke. I don't drink. People have told me for years i'd be a great dad, and two different ex's had kids that told me they wanted me to be their stepdad. I'm white, and never been married or had kids.

I had a friend who was half Guatamalan and half Japanese, she married a white guy and only divorced when he got drunk and beat her face in, twice, after 10+ years of marriage. She did remarry. Another white guy.
I had another friend who was half white, half black. She recently got married, to a white guy.
My ex was Puerto Rican, her kids were half black. And i've spoken to some women that weren't white that things didn't work out with.
I knew a black guy married a white girl. I was in a band with a white guy dating a black girl.
So i don't think skin color can really be blamed. Some of us are just unlucky.
 
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Miri

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Ugly said:
I understand some of these issues. I'm white, so not that part. In fact my PR ex nicknamed me Casper :ROFL:

I don't smoke. I don't drink. People have told me for years i'd be a great dad, and two different ex's had kids that told me they wanted me to be their stepdad. I'm white, and never been married or had kids.

I had a friend who was half Guatamalan and half Japanese, she married a white guy and only divorced when he got drunk and beat her face in, twice, after 10+ years of marriage. She did remarry. Another white guy.
I had another friend who was half white, half black. She recently got married, to a white guy.
My ex was Puerto Rican, her kids were half black. And i've spoken to some women that weren't white that things didn't work out with.
I knew a black guy married a white girl. I was in a band with a white guy dating a black girl.
So i don't think skin color can really be blamed. Some of us are just unlucky.
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There are some mixed race relationships in church but they are few and far
between. It would never occur to 99% of the population that they might
marry someone of a different race or skin colour.
 
Mel85

Mel85

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Wait, is this thread about interracial relationships,?
 
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Ugly

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Miri said:
There are some mixed race relationships in church but they are few and far
between. It would never occur to 99% of the population that they might
marry someone of a different race or skin colour.
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99% huh? Sounds like a rather baseless claim. Any evidence of that or did you just make it up?
 
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Miri

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Ugly said:
99% huh? Sounds like a rather baseless claim. Any evidence of that or did you just make it up?
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I made it up but it’s also from experience.

Typically for young 20 somethings It would never occur to most that
their future husband or wife might not be the same race.
As people get older they may start to fleetingly consider it but
not seriously. Where mixed marriages occur it’s probably
unexpected and not something a person was actively be pursuing.
It tends to happen after getting to know a person over a period of
time.

Unless someone actually wants an overseas bride.
 
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toinena

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Speaking of which. My friend and I just spoke about how it would be to date in a zero gravity bar.

Anyway I think it is interesting the skin color aspect of prejudice.
 
Pipp

Pipp

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There is skin color prejudice, weight prejudice, disability prejudice all kinds of prejudice, but that doesn't mean it can't happen for us as well. Yall are cool ladies and I won't be surprised when some fellow sees how awesome yall are.
 
Tommy379

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Ugly said:
99% huh? Sounds like a rather baseless claim. Any evidence of that or did you just make it up?
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83% of all statistics, are made up on the spot.

That's a fact, I read it in a fortune cookie......
 
Tommy379

Tommy379

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I'm sorry for anyone in a wheelchair, but that is something most people just can't handle. It puts a lot of limits on life, and a lot of limits on what a potential mate could do also. I don't think it has anything to do with prejudice or discrimination.
 
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