It's a funny thing. Now days, it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, people are going to talk, and usually seem to enjoy believing the worst about others.
I had a job a while back in which I worked odd hours (so most of the staff there was male), and there was really only one guy I talked to much at all. It wasn't because I was trying to be a snob, it was because all the others were either goofing around not getting anything done, and/or, they were high.
The guy I used to stop and talk to briefly every now and then was someone who seemed like he was actually in his right mind and was always working.
After I left that job, my own boss texted me to ask if I was sleeping with him, because apparently that's what he was telling everyone once I was gone. I was shocked and saddened, most especially that my boss might actually believe that about me because we had spent a lot of time talking bout our lives.
Unfortunately, the store was located in an area where that's what pretty much everyone did, so people just expected it. Fortunately, I had moved on to a place where this person's lies would not affect my career, but I was also pretty upset that I couldn't go back and set the record straight--not that it would have done any good.
Once upon a time, I made almost all my friends through work--now days, I'm a bit cautious.
There's another guy I sometimes say hi to and several people have asked if we're dating (no, and we've never talked or spent time together outside of work, either.)
I'd love to be able to socialize with people outside of work again someday if the opportunity arose (because sometimes that used to involve inviting co-workers to church.) I had an accomplice at another job and one Sunday we rounded up about 6 co-workers who all went to visit our boss's church.
However, the past few years, I've been waiting for God to open doors that will hopefully be "safe", though I've come to accept that people are going to talk no matter how careful you are, and eventually, you have to leave people's own worst thoughts between them and God.
I will, however, always choose to defend myself and state the truth of the matter if I am given the chance.
I had a job a while back in which I worked odd hours (so most of the staff there was male), and there was really only one guy I talked to much at all. It wasn't because I was trying to be a snob, it was because all the others were either goofing around not getting anything done, and/or, they were high.
The guy I used to stop and talk to briefly every now and then was someone who seemed like he was actually in his right mind and was always working.
After I left that job, my own boss texted me to ask if I was sleeping with him, because apparently that's what he was telling everyone once I was gone. I was shocked and saddened, most especially that my boss might actually believe that about me because we had spent a lot of time talking bout our lives.
Unfortunately, the store was located in an area where that's what pretty much everyone did, so people just expected it. Fortunately, I had moved on to a place where this person's lies would not affect my career, but I was also pretty upset that I couldn't go back and set the record straight--not that it would have done any good.
Once upon a time, I made almost all my friends through work--now days, I'm a bit cautious.
There's another guy I sometimes say hi to and several people have asked if we're dating (no, and we've never talked or spent time together outside of work, either.)
I'd love to be able to socialize with people outside of work again someday if the opportunity arose (because sometimes that used to involve inviting co-workers to church.) I had an accomplice at another job and one Sunday we rounded up about 6 co-workers who all went to visit our boss's church.
However, the past few years, I've been waiting for God to open doors that will hopefully be "safe", though I've come to accept that people are going to talk no matter how careful you are, and eventually, you have to leave people's own worst thoughts between them and God.
I will, however, always choose to defend myself and state the truth of the matter if I am given the chance.
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