It's the Singles Forum Oldies/Newbies Mingle! (How can we best blend the old user/new user crowd?)

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Didymous

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Same Josie Brother Didymous, remember I sent u away with my "hellos"? And it really took u long to come back, lol
Now that you are back I can't risk losing u with a "hi", CC.com & folks here need you

You could never lose me, dear lady-especially with that beautiful smile! That's a Jesus light for sure!
 

Didymous

Senior Member
Feb 22, 2018
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Hey Everyone!

Something I've been thinking about lately is that we have a lot of new faces (well, avatars :)) on the forum and I've been wondering... What is the best way to blend our CC Singles Forum crowd?

* How can we introduce ourselves to each other and get everyone talking back and forth?

* How can we help make people more comfortable sharing posts and replying to/joking with other users?

* If you're someone who's been here for a while, what helped you make the leap from silent observer to active forum participant?

* If you're someone new, welcome! What things would make you feel like diving into the discussions?

I always see a lot of great people I'd love to try to banter and joke with in the forum, but if someone is new or I don't know them that well, I tend to refrain because I don't want them to feel like they're being picked on. What are your thoughts on how we can bridge the gap?

I admit that I'm slower than a tortoise when it comes to meeting people here. I'll generally become familiar with their posts over several months, then maybe have the chance to drop them a PM and get to know them, but that can take several more weeks or months. Usually when I'm here, I have a limited amount of time, so I will often choose to use it to write a post I've been thinking about and have to write out before I lose the thought. Unfortunately, I'm only able to get to know one or two people at a time this way.

How can we change this, and for everyone here, so that we're all meeting new people and talking?

What ideas do you have for helping our CC Singles crowd get to know each other better, or even at all?

Hey Seoulsearch, in case I never told you, I love the awesome threads you post!
 

melita916

Senior Member
Aug 12, 2011
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fine. i'll bring ice cream to the party.

but the mint chocolate chip ice cream is all mine. yous can have the other flavors. lol
 
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Wild

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Been married to work lately and didn't get a chance to respond to some funny comments. This is a good thread :)
 

KC7NOA

New member
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Interesting. I just came from the middle of nowhere, and I was quite happy there.
I was dumped there ... like garbage by my wife who is now my X. She had started an afair -- our marriage was troubled ... and the affair was much more fun than her marriage was really sucks because it would have been easy for a marriage to be fun and enjoyable but she made it what she did. He was an occasional friend --- one that came around when it was convenient to him. I can't believe that she would want somebody around who selfish enough to not care about somebody else's marriage especially his friend without at least trying to help her, to help me make our marriage better but instead he ( Josh S ) took advantage of it.

She divorced me, took the kids and even claimed that I didn't want them --- when I was a stay-at-home dad for more than 10 years!!
what kind of Agony could I possibly be in right now .... in the middle of nowhere, all alone.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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I was dumped there ... like garbage by my wife who is now my X. She had started an afair -- our marriage was troubled ... and the affair was much more fun than her marriage was really sucks because it would have been easy for a marriage to be fun and enjoyable but she made it what she did. He was an occasional friend --- one that came around when it was convenient to him. I can't believe that she would want somebody around who selfish enough to not care about somebody else's marriage especially his friend without at least trying to help her, to help me make our marriage better but instead he ( Josh S ) took advantage of it.

She divorced me, took the kids and even claimed that I didn't want them --- when I was a stay-at-home dad for more than 10 years!!
what kind of Agony could I possibly be in right now .... in the middle of nowhere, all alone.
Hey KC7,

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. Many of the members here have been through a myriad of troubles and I hope you'll find people you can connect with and relate to. Several of us here can relate to being dumped by a spouse and left for dead.

If you haven't already, you might also want to check out the Family Forum because many people have gone through, or are going through, similar situations as yours.

I hope you find this site to be of some help, and may God bless and comfort you.
 

Didymous

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Feb 22, 2018
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I was dumped there ... like garbage by my wife who is now my X. She had started an afair -- our marriage was troubled ... and the affair was much more fun than her marriage was really sucks because it would have been easy for a marriage to be fun and enjoyable but she made it what she did. He was an occasional friend --- one that came around when it was convenient to him. I can't believe that she would want somebody around who selfish enough to not care about somebody else's marriage especially his friend without at least trying to help her, to help me make our marriage better but instead he ( Josh S ) took advantage of it.

She divorced me, took the kids and even claimed that I didn't want them --- when I was a stay-at-home dad for more than 10 years!!
what kind of Agony could I possibly be in right now .... in the middle of nowhere, all alone.
I'm sorry to hear all that. I see now you meant a different middle of nowhere than I did. I was living 30 miles from the nearest town, by myself, and my wife had left a couple years before that. I prayed for you, and will continue to do so.
 
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AuntieAnt

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I was dumped there ... like garbage by my wife who is now my X. She had started an afair -- our marriage was troubled ... and the affair was much more fun than her marriage was really sucks because it would have been easy for a marriage to be fun and enjoyable but she made it what she did. He was an occasional friend --- one that came around when it was convenient to him. I can't believe that she would want somebody around who selfish enough to not care about somebody else's marriage especially his friend without at least trying to help her, to help me make our marriage better but instead he ( Josh S ) took advantage of it.

She divorced me, took the kids and even claimed that I didn't want them --- when I was a stay-at-home dad for more than 10 years!!
what kind of Agony could I possibly be in right now .... in the middle of nowhere, all alone.
I'm so sorry to hear of your grief, KC7NOA. Divorce is certainly bad for one's health. My oldest son went through a disastrous divorce several years ago and the toxicity took its toll on him. He ultimately found a good counselor to work through all the chaotic emotions of grief, depression, anger, fear, etc. It took him months to finally let go of all the turmoil. He is doing much, much better now. In fact, he's remarried to a young lady who had gone to his high school and he tells me this is the happiest he's ever been. Perhaps you can find a good counselor and get all your heartbreaking emotions out. It's not good to let them all bottle up inside you, that's for sure. I pray in Jesus' name you be guided to a wonderful Christian counselor and that your heart would begin to mend.
 

Dino246

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Hey, what was that? Men’s age vs women’s age? You mean like if I’m 42 (which I am), I’m more like 62, and a 42 year old man is like 32??? Lol
Isn't 42 the new 32, which means you can date men who are 22? ;)
 

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
Aug 13, 2014
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fine. i'll bring ice cream to the party.

but the mint chocolate chip ice cream is all mine. yous can have the other flavors. lol
*Lynx flexes his claws...

We'll see about that. This might be a good opportunity to practice my martial arts on a live opponent. I follow a style called Silat Ken-Cat-Su.
 

Mel85

Daughter of the True King
Mar 28, 2018
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I guess I try and use humour as a gateway to interact with new and current members.

Most of the time, it works.

The other times, I just ‘let it go’ like Elsa.
 

Didymous

Senior Member
Feb 22, 2018
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I guess I try and use humour as a gateway to interact with new and current members.

Most of the time, it works.

The other times, I just ‘let it go’ like Elsa.
Who's Elsa?