It has been said that grace is unmerited favor, and this is true. But while we understand unmerited, we do not have a firm grasp on favor. Look at it like this and see if it does bring conviction; we are approaching Majesty on high, the Almighty Creator, the Father of Jesus Christ, the One who sits on the throne from whence comes lightnings and thunders and smoke and flame. Ezekiel saw things that are in His persence that no one has yet understood, wheels within wheels with eyes all around and many other things besides. These things are just the barest glomer of the trappings of our God, and this is Who we are drawing near to.
Grace, His favor, is that He allows us to draw near, into His presence. Awe inspiring does not do Him justice.
But we have another level of grace, so misunderstood and abused, grieved. This same God sends His Spirit, Who is truly His heart, to live in our hearts and commune with us. He earnestly desires the Spirit that He has put in us. This too is grace.
I know that grace is not taught this way, but search the scriptures and your heart and the Spirit. See what He says.
In Christ,