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TheWriter

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It is pretty bad that when I explain something to my ol lady that she does not believe me until someone else says the same thing.
My brother had the same issue with a ex of his. Why is that? She is kinda stuck on her past to where she acts the way she did with him. Telling me every single move she makes. It does get old of course, I really do not need to know everything, every detail of her life. I told her this more than 20 times already, now her excuse is that she is talking to herself.

LOL so when she showers does she say? Ok now, I am shampooing my hair.

Sigh, idk.

She controls the tv, but when I get annoyed at watching cop junk, and murder junk on investigation discovery its like I have no right to say anything but I DO call her out on alot then its always my fault.

So, IDK

lol then she says she loves me just to see if i say it back lol right....
 
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She does get a bit controlling even at work. When I am working her line she yells at me to get chicken off the floor then gets upset when I dont wanna stick next to her. it SURE does sound she has some trust issues. Even after she told me i hafta be around her 24/7 lol NO THANKS! That is not a life, that is slavery to me.

HEr way, or she gets upset. Spend money, or she gets upset. LOL one time she said she better get the money if I die. Sorry girl I changed that too.
 
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TheWriter said:
She does get a bit controlling even at work. When I am working her line she yells at me to get chicken off the floor then gets upset when I dont wanna stick next to her. it SURE does sound she has some trust issues. Even after she told me i hafta be around her 24/7 lol NO THANKS! That is not a life, that is slavery to me.

HEr way, or she gets upset. Spend money, or she gets upset. LOL one time she said she better get the money if I die. Sorry girl I changed that too.
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Sounds like you need a new girlfriend. One who isn't bossy, controlling, jealous, greedy or entitled..
 
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Your "Ol' Lady"? Sounds like you have neither a girlfriend nor a wife, JB. I think you may just be "playing house" until one or both of you gets tired of the other and starts looking elsewhere.
 
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THIS IN THE WRONG FORUM! ha ha Just kidding brother, hang in there.
 
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TheWriter said:
She does get a bit controlling even at work. When I am working her line she yells at me to get chicken off the floor then gets upset when I dont wanna stick next to her. it SURE does sound she has some trust issues. Even after she told me i hafta be around her 24/7 lol NO THANKS! That is not a life, that is slavery to me.

HEr way, or she gets upset. Spend money, or she gets upset. LOL one time she said she better get the money if I die. Sorry girl I changed that too.
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She is using you like a doormat because you let her. Being a victim is a state of mind. It sounds like you are trying to stay out of a major fight, so you let things ride. It is better to have that fight and stand up for your rights.

Also tell her that it annoys you to hear her talk constantly. Resolve this or you'll never be happy together. :)
 
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THIS IN THE WRONG FORUM! ha ha Just kidding brother, hang in there.
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Eli? is that you? *whipes eyes to clears them to see better* lol how u been.

Anyway,

I have told her over, and over about it. She tends to get very snappy when she is sick, or dont get enough sleep. I used to be in good mood alot, now its like I snap a lot myself.

I tell her something must change, and if she snapps at me cuz of tired, or sick again im done. She is really not good with money, so she asks me to manage it.

She wants 130$ in merchandise that was about The Nightmare BEfore Christmas. I told her no, she said "well you got money on your card." LOL So yeah she went there, I explained to her to embarass her just like she did me in the store in front of the clerk. "If I allow you to run with this, we would not eat all week."

She demanded her new phone, then she sees a new one she likes, I shut her down fast. "You got a new one, you do not need another one."

Trust me, she WILL not like southern living. NOT that much money, like it is here.

Her whole ordeal is that she is upset about something in which I can not express here. I get it, I understand it. But to treat me like I am an enemy even when I told her what would happen and it did? LOL I had her sit down on the bed I told her if she would simply just listen to my advice that she would not be in this situation.

So... yeah let her learn the hard way. TOUGH LOVE *head bangs to the song love stinks* lol jp
 
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Ghoti2 said:
Your "Ol' Lady"? Sounds like you have neither a girlfriend nor a wife, JB. I think you may just be "playing house" until one or both of you gets tired of the other and starts looking elsewhere.
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lol its a term we use here. In my old town we call our gfs ol lady, as they call us old men.
 
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blue_ladybug said:
Sounds like you need a new girlfriend. One who isn't bossy, controlling, jealous, greedy or entitled..
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Very possible ladybug. I think this is strange, but funny and off topic a sec. I dont recall I ever told anyone but, I adopted a dog from the shelter. lol she a pest, but she all mine. Anyway, they named her "ladybug".

I look at your screen name, im like dang that is strange. Even when my brother calls himself junebug lol



Just needed to clear my mind with something else thats all. She is SPOILED
 

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I agree with Blue and Deade,you need to shake loose from this relationship and move on!
We cannot help someone who refuses to accept their own major flaws,especially if they don't HELP THEMSELVES!

IS SHE A BORN AGAIN FOLLOWER OF JESUS?
 
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TheWriter said:
Very possible ladybug. I think this is strange, but funny and off topic a sec. I dont recall I ever told anyone but, I adopted a dog from the shelter. lol she a pest, but she all mine. Anyway, they named her "ladybug".

I look at your screen name, im like dang that is strange. Even when my brother calls himself junebug lol



Just needed to clear my mind with something else thats all. She is SPOILED
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Your GIRLFRIEND is the one who is spoiled, as well as selfish and greedy. There's no "possibly" about it. SHE IS SELFISH.
 
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TheWriter said:
Well family, I must go. I got to do laundry, then on to game stop :D TYpical nerd who loves mario games :p
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You mentioned going to Game Stop but arguing with your girl about her spending $130 on "The Nightmare Before Christmas" merchandise that she wanted...

I'm just curious, do you each of some kind of entertainment/shopping budget that you decide on and then hold each other accountable for sticking to?
 
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seoulsearch said:
You mentioned going to Game Stop but arguing with your girl about her spending $130 on "The Nightmare Before Christmas" merchandise that she wanted...

I'm just curious, do you each of some kind of entertainment/shopping budget that you decide on and then hold each other accountable for sticking to?
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budget? that sounds complicated.....................
 
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seoulsearch said:
You mentioned going to Game Stop but arguing with your girl about her spending $130 on "The Nightmare Before Christmas" merchandise that she wanted...

I'm just curious, do you each of some kind of entertainment/shopping budget that you decide on and then hold each other accountable for sticking to?
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i went to gamestop to trade in. if there are extra funds then no problem as long it dont affect home and food.

at that time we were low on funds so of course i said no.

i sacraficed my game system to ensure we have money till we get paid. lol theres more than i care to share of course.

i explain to her that to save money for what u want is better than going broke in one trip without food ect.

i no issue with her wanting its the manor of spending which is the problem.

i sold my system and got her a pair of jeans she needed. and dinner. just her and me and we got money for the most important things. food and gas till wednesday
 
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TheWriter

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the budget we set is by how it should not affect what is needed.

gadgets ect is last until needs are met.
 
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IFOLLOWHIM said:
I agree with Blue and Deade,you need to shake loose from this relationship and move on!
We cannot help someone who refuses to accept their own major flaws,especially if they don't HELP THEMSELVES!

IS SHE A BORN AGAIN FOLLOWER OF JESUS?
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yes she is born again just not used to being told no lol
 
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yes she is born again just not used to being told no lol
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Your love must be great for her,but you are also an enabler!
There is " tough love".
She needs to grow up and grow in Christ Jesus!
How tired you must be..............
1Cor.13:11 When I WAS a child,I spake as a child,I understood as a child,BUT WHEN I BECAME A MAN,I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS.

Blessings on your journey!
 
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