....wait...21?? lol I'm thinking about my kids and 21 seems so young!!
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Yes I agree it’s at the current age that anyone would think from.
as for me when I was 28 I probably wouldn’t have swung more than a year or two. now that I’m older and have never been married or have kids, the door may swing a little wider
Yes, the youngest woman I would consider dating if I was the age of 28 would be 21. I got remarried at the age of 59 and my wife is 17 days older than I am. I would have to say that my acceptable age for dating at the age of 59 would be 54-63. I have a 39 year old married daughter and 5 grandchildren with an age range of 3 - 19.....wait...21?? lol I'm thinking about my kids and 21 seems so young!!
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Ok. I’ll come out with it. There is a gentleman at church who is 20 years older than me who is showing me a lot of attention and trying to get to know me. I’ve never even considered someone that much older than me, but it got me thinking about the age gap. Hence the creation of this thread. Thoughts peeps?
There is a gentleman at church who is 20 years older than me who is showing me a lot of attention and trying to get to know me. I’ve never even considered someone that much older than me, but it got me thinking about the age gap. Hence the creation of this thread. Thoughts peeps?That is a big gap, and for me a huge red flag.
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And he is not like other men at church who I am acquainted with. They are all mostly married, and it’s more just quick, polite interaction with them. This is him pursuing to know me on a different level.
Ok. I’ll come out with it.
Women usually live longer and he’s already 20 years older. What will his energy level be when he is 70s and you 50s?
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Yes. I’ve thought about this. He is definitely in great shape for his age, but more than anything, it caught me off guard. I’ve seen him around for probably 3 years now, and never gave him a second thought until he made it a point to come introduce himself and start inquiring about me.
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Seems to be. I’m a front rower and he has started to sit next to me the past few Sundays with some seats in between us, and I’m pretty sure he has been looking at me during worship.
Haha.
Well something you should definitely pray about and if you have peace give him a chance.
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MegMarch
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20 years though! Haha! I don’t know man. That would definitely give people something to talk about.
20 years though! Haha! I don’t know man. That would definitely give people something to talk about.
Of course you wouldn’t do it for the attention
IF you decide to let him pursue you. You’re right though... I don’t know man. Lol
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Haha. I do not desire that kind of attention in my life at this point. My friend just laughed at me when I told her, and said I definitely don’t live a boring life.Of course you wouldn’t do it for the attention
But I just want a godly, quiet, stable life with a few adventures thrown in there. Is that too much to ask?
Without knowing either you or the gentleman its hard to say. Do you like him? Its always flattering to have someone pursue you obviously, and the fact that you're undecided suggests you're at least intrigued. Relationships are difficult...and the rules society imposes can sometimes make it even harder, men are typically expected to be the pursuer....so if a man doesn't make his interest known....I don't know.
If he stopped making that extra effort would you be upset or relieved?
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He seems like a nice person, but I don’t think I would say I like him without knowing him better.
That’s a good question. I’d probably just like to keep it cordial at this point, so my feeling would be neutral. Neither upset nor relieved.
Haha. I do not desire that kind of attention in my life at this point. My friend just laughed at me when I told her, and said I definitely don’t live a boring life.
But I just want a godly, quiet, stable life with a few adventures thrown in there. Is that too much to ask?
Not at all, most of us do!
Pray lolOk. I’ll come out with it.
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Very good question to ask yourself!