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Jullianna

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Have you ever been with someone who may very well have been the right one, but you walked away (for reasons unrelated to that person) and have lived to regret it?
 
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hotfudge

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Well..for the first part yes..but the regret part, no..not really.
 
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1still_waters

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No ma'am. I never regret walking away from an erupting volcano.
 
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Have you ever been with someone who may very well have been the right one, but you walked away (for reasons unrelated to that person) and have lived to regret it?
Yes yes yes. The very first crush I ever had was my best friend's older sister. She was the same age as me, our birthdays were only 2 weeks apart, we were in our early teens and I had a feeling she liked me too. We used to be kind of flirty and we almost kissed once while holding hands underwater in someone's pool one summer, but we were just a couple of giggly kids and I was too scared to kiss her for some reason even though in my mind I didn't want to ever be with anyone but her. Ok, I can't believe I am writing this on a public forum. See what you did, Julianna! :p

So anyway, fast forward to today... she still looks great, has kept her figure through ballet dancing, is a single mom of a young girl, has a college degree and I'm sure guys still find her very attractive. I, on the other hand, am pretty pathetic and would go to extremes to make sure she doesn't see me how I am now. Her mom is one of my friends on facebook, so I am living on the edge here! lol.

On a sad note, my best friend passed away several years ago before his 30th birthday. His mom and I sometimes talk about him through facebook.
 
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seoulsearch

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No ma'am. I never regret walking away from an erupting volcano.
Man, you can't compete with this for a post, that's for sure. LOL!!!


Actually, Jullianna, you're right on target--I'd been thinking about this too and had thought of writing a thread entitled, "The One That Got Away." ;)

Several years ago I met a very nice guy online--to be honest, I'd completely forgotten about him except for a few years ago... have no idea what reminded me about him, but I remember at the time I knew him, his story had really touched my heart. I was in my early 20's then, so we were kind of in that transition phase between letting go of high school and embracing full independent adulthood...

This guy was the exact opposite of me--if I'm fully honest, I'm pretty much a big nerd at heart and always will be, but he was a high school jock... football star. However, he'd been through some pretty traumatic things and he talked about how hard it was to find real, true friends among the "beautiful"crowd. He was an honest, sincere guy with a beautiful heart. He even called me once that I can remember, which is more than what I can say about the other guys I was around (usually, I had to pay for any calls.) We were just friends, though I look back now and kind of kick myself because I'm not sure if he liked me and I don't know where it could have gone. Out of mutual respect, we lost touch after I became engaged.

You see, at the time, I was completely infatuated with and was wearing full-spectrum blinders for the guy I eventually married... and I have often asked God, "Did I miss the person you had for me all along?! Was he sitting right there, and I walked right past him?!" Oh, the torture of hindsight.

I actually did try to find this person online some time ago, but he has a very common name... And, when I prayed about it, I stopped looking because I just believe in my heart that somewhere out there, he's married to a wonderful girl and has a family and probably some very beautiful kids. I wish him all the best.

But I hope, if there is a next time for me, I'll be more in tune with what God is trying to show me if I was indeed wrong.
 
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Jullianna

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There was someone a couple of years ago... He made me laugh, made me think, challenged me, loved learning/trying new things, wasn't afraid to tell me when I was wrong, and it seemed that we could talk about anything and everything. To me, that's the perfect guy.

BUT.... he works for the government (non-military) and his job takes him all over the world for extended periods of time. I would either have had to be alone for long periods of time or move every couple of years. I would have been okay with that...but I didn't know how that life would affect my son (since I'd been a military kid), so I said no. Sometimes I question my choice.
 
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NukePooch

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It's more the reverse for me...I actually had a few special someones that walked away from me for various reasons and after seeing how they ended up, now I am SO glad they did!
 

Hommer

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Jules I smell what your steppin in..............and I can also understand where the Pooch is coming from
 

Liamson

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Yes, it was the perfect storm.

I was with someone about 5 years ago and she was a little older than me. She was everything that anyone who had two eyes and a brain could want. We were on the verge of really going forward, it was almost inevitable.

I was really given a choice, to stay in the Military to pay off my car or to leave, sell my car and face the great unknown with her. It is not often that choices become so black and white but, my pride won out and I stayed in the military for the security that comes from that.

About 2 years after I moved across the country she got married and is currently living happily ever after.

I don't know if Regret is the word because every relationship is different. Sometimes when you have something amazing you don't think about what not having it really means. I just assumed that because a woman like her and the girls I grew up with existed, that somehow they would be more common. I could not have been more wrong.
 
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Jullianna

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Yeah..I guess "regret" isn't really the word to describe the feeling. I know I did the right thing, but it sure wasn't easy. Still isn't.

I suppose if the special people in our lives were common, they wouldn't be special; but hopefully they aren't as rare as they sometimes seem. :)
 

Liamson

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Hope, can be a wonderful breath of fresh air. :)
 

sweetnshy

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YES! Mine dates all the way back to when I was 14. I liked this guy toward the end of 8th grade and found out he liked me too, and my friends were really eager to play matchmaker. At first I was all for it, but then I found out he was moving away, so I told them not to. I felt like it would have been a different situation if we would end up going to high school together, but knowing that he would only be here for a few months made me decide not to pursue it beyond a few phone calls. At the time I had no regrets because I was only 14 and figured there would be lots of other guys and lots of other chances, and it wasn't a huge deal. Then I ended up going through high school, and college, and now several years after college...and still no boyfriends, no dates, absolutely nothing. There has never been another guy that I liked who liked me back since that one guy in 8th grade. And if I had known back then that he was it, and that there weren't going to be other guys or other chances, I would have handled that situation completely differently. I would have done all I could to see him and be with him, even if it was for just a few months, knowing that there was never going to be another opportunity. I still to this day regret that I let him go.
 
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There was once a guy. He was perfect for me. My father was the sultan of agraba, and he was just a street rat. I was so in love with him, but jafar was jealous of us and tried to kill him!!



Isnt he handsome! I'll never get over him!
 
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Vinifera

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I've never been able to forget him... I think I have a headache. I need to close my eyes and have a rest for a while...
 
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Vinifera

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"I sleep, but my heart is awake;...................................................................................................................................I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, if you find my beloved, that you tell him I am lovesick! Song of Solomon 5:2-8
 
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There was once a guy. He was perfect for me. My father was the sultan of agraba, and he was just a street rat. I was so in love with him, but jafar was jealous of us and tried to kill him!!



Isnt he handsome! I'll never get over him!
We will forever wonder what that was a pic of :(
 
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thimsrebma

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Have you ever been with someone who may very well have been the right one, but you walked away (for reasons unrelated to that person) and have lived to regret it?

No

I like to think I am the one that got away. It helps my self esteem.