Pet Peeves with other Christians, including myself

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Subhumanoidal

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It seems pretty common many Christian's believe a personal experience with God equates to doctrine that is mandatory for all. Time and time again I've seen God deal with a person and that person believes that how things happened with them is the only way God functions and if your experience isn't the same, it's not if God.

Christian's doing the same with subjective views. Some things are clearly stated as sin, while others are subjective to the person's conscience. Yet many Christian's believe what they have a problem with in their own conscience is the only truth and must apply to everyone.
Really quite a lot of self importance in these two examples.

Commonly Christian's love to Talk about being loving, yet rarely express it in any meaningful way. And one of the best examples is the average reaction to people seeking help or answers. Typically what you see is Christian's picking from a list of prefabricated answers and finding the one that most closely fits the situation. Usually it's something that sounds like they read it on a bumper sticker. Add in a "sorry you're going through that" and that is all they have to offer. Nothing personal. No connection. Just automated responses and walking away.
Or the alternative is spamming scripture at people.
Lastly just telling them "pray and read your bible and everything will work out".
And if that person ever uses the word religion, forget their problems, there will be a stream of people that chime in only to correct them that "it's a relationship not a religion" while ignoring the person's problem. Though no one ever stops to think how telling someone it's a relationship while ignoring their problems works.

"It's a relationship not a religion". While the basic notion of the idea is understood it is so overused to the point of shoving it down peoples throats (as mentioned above). And not 100% true. Christianity is a religion. Like it or not, that's a fact. Worry less about if someone says the word religion and more about their needs. I've seen many people express how frustrated they are because Christian's focus on things like this rather than helping a person with their needs.

Christian's have developed a reputation for being arrogant and condescending among many in the secular community. But good luck getting a Christian to understand that.
Rather than recognizing the flaw in how they approach people, they find the fault in the unsaved, misapplying scripture to say that the Real problem is that they are blind to the truth. So they continue in the same off putting behaviors while wondering why their witness is so ineffective and wondering why support for churches are diminishing.
As the old saying goes "why should I change if I'm just like you?"
 

CharliRenee

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It seems pretty common many Christian's believe a personal experience with God equates to doctrine that is mandatory for all. Time and time again I've seen God deal with a person and that person believes that how things happened with them is the only way God functions and if your experience isn't the same, it's not if God.

Christian's doing the same with subjective views. Some things are clearly stated as sin, while others are subjective to the person's conscience. Yet many Christian's believe what they have a problem with in their own conscience is the only truth and must apply to everyone.
Really quite a lot of self importance in these two examples.

Commonly Christian's love to Talk about being loving, yet rarely express it in any meaningful way. And one of the best examples is the average reaction to people seeking help or answers. Typically what you see is Christian's picking from a list of prefabricated answers and finding the one that most closely fits the situation. Usually it's something that sounds like they read it on a bumper sticker. Add in a "sorry you're going through that" and that is all they have to offer. Nothing personal. No connection. Just automated responses and walking away.
Or the alternative is spamming scripture at people.
Lastly just telling them "pray and read your bible and everything will work out".
And if that person ever uses the word religion, forget their problems, there will be a stream of people that chime in only to correct them that "it's a relationship not a religion" while ignoring the person's problem. Though no one ever stops to think how telling someone it's a relationship while ignoring their problems works.

"It's a relationship not a religion". While the basic notion of the idea is understood it is so overused to the point of shoving it down peoples throats (as mentioned above). And not 100% true. Christianity is a religion. Like it or not, that's a fact. Worry less about if someone says the word religion and more about their needs. I've seen many people express how frustrated they are because Christian's focus on things like this rather than helping a person with their needs.

Christian's have developed a reputation for being arrogant and condescending among many in the secular community. But good luck getting a Christian to understand that.
Rather than recognizing the flaw in how they approach people, they find the fault in the unsaved, misapplying scripture to say that the Real problem is that they are blind to the truth. So they continue in the same off putting behaviors while wondering why their witness is so ineffective and wondering why support for churches are diminishing.
As the old saying goes "why should I change if I'm just like you?"
BAM!!! Well said Sub!! Treating others with genuine concern and mercy, with a sincerity to care from our hearts would be most reasonable approach as a Christian, huh?
 

melita916

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I just realized I never commented on this thread, and I have pet peeves for people all over! lol :(
 

melita916

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well, pet peeves with Christians? well.. probably my biggest one, and I mean this towards myself FIRST, is when I make assumptions about a believer because they do/believe something a little different.

now, pet peeves for people in general? well... let's start with when people don't use their turning signals!!!!! lol
 

cinder

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Let's see in my recent experience:

Having an elaborate theory or theology based on a couple hard to understand (if you haven't decided what they already mean) verses of scripture that you make a major point of your doctrine.

Not defining what those jargonish Biblical terms mean in actual real basic everyday plain speech that means something (and that' s part of why I will not be back to visit last Sunday's church again... a sermon about how important it is to bear fruit and know you're bearing fruit should spend more than 1 sentence at the end defining what bearing fruit means)

Misquoting or quoting out of context the Bible, trying to make it say something it doesn't really say.
 

cinder

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And going back through the thread, apparently my pet peeves haven't changed too much in a year.
 

Solemateleft

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Wow... self-peeve... looking back on my comments it would appear that I had deeper and more articulate ah-ha thoughts a year ago... Maybe I should begin to journal ...
 

Deade

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Let's see in my recent experience:

Having an elaborate theory or theology based on a couple hard to understand (if you haven't decided what they already mean) verses of scripture that you make a major point of your doctrine.

Not defining what those jargonish Biblical terms mean in actual real basic everyday plain speech that means something (and that' s part of why I will not be back to visit last Sunday's church again... a sermon about how important it is to bear fruit and know you're bearing fruit should spend more than 1 sentence at the end defining what bearing fruit means)

Misquoting or quoting out of context the Bible, trying to make it say something it doesn't really say.
You cinder, have hit the nail right on the head with this assessment. If some of us would just hold off making decisions about some poetic or very figurative prophecy, we might even open ourselves to some instruction.

Then too, there just might be two or three messages in some instances. The best way to handle some scriptures is just read, and catalog them and wait on the Lord. A good hunger for the truth works also. 5thumbsup.gif
 

CharliRenee

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Wow... self-peeve... looking back on my comments it would appear that I had deeper and more articulate ah-ha thoughts a year ago... Maybe I should begin to journal ...
I agree that you so should journal.