Need prayers for marriage reconciliation

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bluewriter

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I've asked many people in my church and circle of church friends to pray for my marriage to be reconciled. I'm now asking my larger church family.

My wife and I have had a strenuous marriage mostly in part due to her autistic stepson (whom I love and consider my own son) and our other combined children. She recently left me through a series of hateful and vindictive actions that have put me in a very tough situation.

I love my wife with all my heart. True love. It was a shame we argued so much about everything and said and did the hurtful things we did to each other out of our frustrations. I'm ready and willing to work it out, but she hasn't really spoken to me in 36 days.

I don't want our kids to go through another divorce. I want them to see that God can work powerfully to reconcile marriages even through hard times. My wife and I are devout Christians (although she doesn't really live out the fruits of the Spirit regarding kindness, love, peace, etc.) My prayer request is that God would open up her heart to His will and see that IT IS HIS WILL that we work these things out and move forward together.

I don't see either of us having an affair and I will not file for divorce. I think she wants me to file so that she can say I divorced her - that's not going to happen. I'm here to honor the marriage covenant until it's finished. I will be obedient to the Lord Jesus Christ in my marriage until the end.

Please pray for us (Jon and Diana) and thank you and God bless you prayer warriors.
 
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I will pray for God's will and desire to be accomplished Jon in your marriage to Diana. I commend you also for staying the course in this troubled marriage. You still have a rough road ahead but please know that God will neither leave you or forsake you.
 
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Hi Jon. I am sorry for the pain that both of you are feeling. Holding onto the framework, the legality of marriage, will not be enough to have a successful marriage. It sounds like you two need to spend a lot of time in counselling and then together working on the issues that brought you this place. It is not about blame. It is hard, but release the urge to be in defensive mode and try and hear her. Yes you need the same from her, but you can only start with yourself. What is behind her behaviour? See if you can help her heal what is broken in her so that she can hopefully do the same for you. If you go forward with humility and gentleness you have the best chance of getting her to lower her guard. It won't help you to be pointing a finger and calling out the woman you say you want as your life partner. I pray that the part of the marriage vows about cherishing and respecting can find its way into both of your hearts. You say "The hurtful things that we did,..", so for your part there may need to be apologies and then some listening. I am not trying to be unfair. I do not wish the two of you in an empty, broken and loveless marriage. That is no prize. I wish a marriage that is even better than it was in the beginning but that will take time and work. As I said, I am truly sorry for the pain.
 
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bluewriter

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tourist said:
I will pray for God's will and desire to be accomplished Jon in your marriage to Diana. I commend you also for staying the course in this troubled marriage. You still have a rough road ahead but please know that God will neither leave you or forsake you.
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Thank you so much.


laughingheart said:
Hi Jon. I am sorry for the pain that both of you are feeling. Holding onto the framework, the legality of marriage, will not be enough to have a successful marriage. It sounds like you two need to spend a lot of time in counselling and then together working on the issues that brought you this place. It is not about blame. It is hard, but release the urge to be in defensive mode and try and hear her. Yes you need the same from her, but you can only start with yourself. What is behind her behaviour? See if you can help her heal what is broken in her so that she can hopefully do the same for you. If you go forward with humility and gentleness you have the best chance of getting her to lower her guard. It won't help you to be pointing a finger and calling out the woman you say you want as your life partner. I pray that the part of the marriage vows about cherishing and respecting can find its way into both of your hearts. You say "The hurtful things that we did,..", so for your part there may need to be apologies and then some listening. I am not trying to be unfair. I do not wish the two of you in an empty, broken and loveless marriage. That is no prize. I wish a marriage that is even better than it was in the beginning but that will take time and work. As I said, I am truly sorry for the pain.
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She did me very wrong, yet I have nothing but grace and forgiveness for her. I have no desire to point fingers or blame her for anything. I want only to reassure her that I love her and I want to make her feel loved. I realize my faults in the marriage and I'm longing for the opportunity to show her I'm changed as this time has given me time to reflect.
 
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bluewriter said:
Thank you so much.






She did me very wrong, yet I have nothing but grace and forgiveness for her. I have no desire to point fingers or blame her for anything. I want only to reassure her that I love her and I want to make her feel loved. I realize my faults in the marriage and I'm longing for the opportunity to show her I'm changed as this time has given me time to reflect.
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All the best to both of you. I mean that sincerely. That sort of betrayal cuts deep. I misunderstood one of your comments. I am sorry that you are going through this. I know the pain.
 
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"I pray the Lord's 'presence' comes upon this family, and that all concerned
may come to a mutual understanding, that there be peace and a bond of love.
I pray this family is somehow guiding by God, and, attitudes and behavior become compatibly ."
'Amen'
'Praise God'

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bluewriter

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Bingo said:
"I pray the Lord's 'presence' comes upon this family, and that all concerned
may come to a mutual understanding, that there be peace and a bond of love.
I pray this family is somehow guiding by God, and, attitudes and behavior become compatibly ."
'Amen'
'Praise God'

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Thank you and God bless you for your prayers. Each one means the world to me.
 
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Lord we bring this prayer to you and pray, Lord reconcile bluewriter's marriage. Please heal and bless this marriage. Help Jon and Diana, to love and care one another. Lord bless this marriage with your peace, joy happiness and you be glorified. Lord bless this prayer request, in Jesus mighty name, Amen!
 
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bluewriter

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levi85 said:
Lord we bring this prayer to you and pray, Lord reconcile bluewriter's marriage. Please heal and bless this marriage. Help Jon and Diana, to love and care one another. Lord bless this marriage with your peace, joy happiness and you be glorified. Lord bless this prayer request, in Jesus mighty name, Amen!
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Thank you so much. Everyone's prayers move my heart so much. I wait patiently on the Lord for His powerful hand to restore me.

God bless you and each one that prays for this broken man and broken family.
 
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bluewriter

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It's been 75 days since we've talked. I'm still hoping and believing that God will heal our marriage. I haven't given up on love.

Please continue to pray for us!
 
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bluewriter

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It's been 86 days since she spoke to me. She filed for divorce, but the thought of signing a paper and walking away from my wife and stepsons whom I love is unthinkable to me.

I know that God has restored marriages worse than this. I'm still being faithful and praying God will restore my marriage as a powerful testimony of His glory. I haven't stopped loving her and I have committed myself to the Lord, but this battle has been long and sorrowful. I will fight for this marriage to the end - whatever that may be.
 
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bluewriter

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Today is 100 days. I saw her yesterday driving and pulled up alongside her on a two lane one way. I honked and waved and mouthed "hi". When I honked, I realized she knew who was honking because I could see her stifle a smile on the side of her face. She finally acknowledged me and smiled and waved. She still won't talk to me though. That has made the past day very difficult.

I'm still trusting in God to restore my marriage and I'm standing on that. I have a court date scheduled for July 29th. I hired an attorney to file a motion to vacate the order of protection she has against me, so I'm praying for a victory in the Lord on that. If that happens, I'll be able to finally go home after 100 days and I'll be able to talk to my wife again. Then I'll get to tell her how much I love her and the concessions I'm willing to make to save our marriage. The battle is the Lord's and I'm trusting in Him.

I want my marriage to be restored as a testimony to God's greatness, glory, and His love for us and as a testimony to others to NEVER give up on their marriages - no matter what! To stay the course for God's namesake and to be obedient through the storm. To trust that God answers prayers and God honors faithfulness. I want to be a witness and a testimony for God's deliverance. I want to be with the love of my life and my stepsons again. Pray for victory at court and pray for mine and Diana's marriage and STAND WITH ME IN FAITH!
 
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Prycejosh1987

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bluewriter said:
My wife and I have had a strenuous marriage mostly in part due to her autistic stepson (whom I love and consider my own son) and our other combined children. She recently left me through a series of hateful and vindictive actions that have put me in a very tough situation.

I love my wife with all my heart. True love. It was a shame we argued so much about everything and said and did the hurtful things we did to each other out of our frustrations. I'm ready and willing to work it out, but she hasn't really spoken to me in 36 days.
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I think you need to sit her down and have open and honest communication with her, Good luck, i am praying for you.
 
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