Which life scenario sounds better to you?

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Which sounds more ideal to you?

  • You have one or several close friends for life, but you would never find love.

    Votes: 2 33.3%
  • You find your partner for life, but you would never have any friends.

    Votes: 2 33.3%
  • Neither option sounds good to me.

    Votes: 2 33.3%

  • Total voters
    6

Going_Nowhere

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Nov 10, 2019
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#1
I can think of pros and cons to either scenario.


Personally, I'd go with having lifelong friends over finding love. What about you?
 

Lanolin

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Dec 15, 2018
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#3
er. why the doom and gloom?

I wonder if people think its mutually exclusive to have friends and a partner?
Wasnt Abraham called a friend of God? And isnt God eternal so he kinda had it all? Does having God for a friend mean you dont have any other friends? hmm

after all friendship with the world is enmity with God. I dont know if God is actually that possesive. Surely He wants us to have friends that also believe in Him too.
 

laughingheart

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Sep 21, 2016
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#5
For someone to be a true partner they would need to be your best friend. Real friendship requires respect, communication and enjoying their company. Sometimes people forget these things when they talk about romantic love. The person is seen from the viewpoint of a shopper, rather than embraced as the person as they are. The love creates a home rather than insists on the standards of a show home. Real love must have all the aspects that make for enduring friendships. It is not enough to say that you are in love with someone. You must also like them, want their best and not see them only in terms of what you can get out of them. Please don't misunderstand me. Romantic love can paint the heart in the most beautiful colours but without the deeper commitment of friendship, the colours will fade.
 

kinda

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Jun 26, 2013
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#6
I can think of pros and cons to either scenario.


Personally, I'd go with having lifelong friends over finding love. What about you?
I went with option C. Friends let you down and spouses have been known to let you down. Where ever God leads. Lately, it has been with very few friends, and no wife. Looking back at it, God is good!
 
Mar 4, 2020
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#7
I voted to go with having good friends rather than a single loving spouse. A loving spouse would be great, but I don't think I could tolerate seeing the same person and no one else ever again.

With the first option, you can have numerous friends, still have good company, and still have love.

To be honest, neither option is entirely ideal and I strongly considered voting that neither option sounds good to me.
 

Peaceful1z

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Oct 12, 2018
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#8
For someone to be a true partner they would need to be your best friend. Real friendship requires respect, communication and enjoying their company. Sometimes people forget these things when they talk about romantic love. The person is seen from the viewpoint of a shopper, rather than embraced as the person as they are. The love creates a home rather than insists on the standards of a show home. Real love must have all the aspects that make for enduring friendships. It is not enough to say that you are in love with someone. You must also like them, want their best and not see them only in terms of what you can get out of them. Please don't misunderstand me. Romantic love can paint the heart in the most beautiful colours but without the deeper commitment of friendship, the colours will fade.
So true, and so necessary to have the friendship bond in a spouse!
 

Prycejosh1987

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Jul 19, 2020
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#9
Interesting how its even, i agree, it all depending on the person, people have different tastes. Some like being surrounded by many, other like being alone, and that can break out into relationships the person has. If i was married then my wife would be my friend and the kids support systems and friends. That is the reason for my choice.