Please Pray for my Dad’s family

[SarahUmbreon]

I’m visiting my Dad right now, I last saw all of them in May, my family is sadly a divorced family, so my Dad is about 4 and 1/2 hours away, cause I live with my Mom right now.

So I came in, because my Dad had his birthday on Wednesday this week, September 30th, I couldn’t be in on that day, but I’m here now. His household is very...chaotic to be honest. You see, his household is my Dad, my stepmom, my two stepbrothers (One in the 10th grade, the other already graduated but didn’t go to College, yet he is thinking about it now), my 7 year old half sister, my stepmom’s mom, 2 dogs, and 3 cats cause they added to 3 month old cat siblings to the house.

My Stepmom’s mom condition seems to be a lot more worse, she has Parkinson’s, and my stepmom is having a lot of trouble taking care of her mom. The mom doesn’t really word things nice, it’s more like “I need this now” rather than “Can I please have this now”, and my stepmom gets stressed out and lashes out in anger, which I know is not right, but she is stressed out. It was awkward trying to talk to my Dad when you can hear my stepmom and her mom arguing. It also clearly effects everyone else in the house, as my dad had to explain to the older stepbrother why his mom loses her cool and yells.

My Dad is thinking of putting my Stepmom’s mom in a home, because my stepmom has thrown out her back 3 times trying to help her own mother, my dad said it causes him stress, stress to even his marriage. Apparently, the siblings of my Stepmom’s mom are very against her going into a nursing home, saying: “If she is put in one, she will die”. My Dad is about done, he said he just might put the mom in a nursing home regardless. Apparently those same siblings don’t even thank my Dad or my stepmom for taking care of their sibling. My Dad said they forget because of being old, but it still sounds so awful.

It’s just given me so much perspective on the “Should I put my parents into a nursing home?” debate.

Another issue I would say needs prayer is my half sister, she is 7 years old, she’s a good kid but it’s hard for me to deal with her, I sometimes lose my cool, I don’t yell, I just sometimes struggle with kids. It’s something I need to be praying about. But it was just like, I made plans for me and my Dad to eat lunch together, but my half sister kept begging to go. It just seems like she doesn’t understand my situation, the last time I saw my Dad was in May, she sees him everyday, and she just seems to struggle with listening and she plays a lot of online games. I was actually watching her play Roblox today, and for some reason, I honestly don’t know, she covered the screen for a bit, and last night, she lied about brushing her teeth.

Not saying I’m perfect, and I know I probably did some of that stuff as a kid, I just can’t help but worry, cause I thought about it, when she is 27, my Dad will be 70 and most people in the family she knows will most likely be in their 40s-30s, I will be 45, 20 years from now. I just want her to grow up as a good kid, and I just don’t like seeing her being a brat, so now that I think about it, this is more of a me problem. I love my half sister, she just gets too energetic and hard for me to handle.

So pray would be nice, if you pray, even for one of the two problems mentioned above, thank you so much ^_^

 

[Encouragement]

I’m visiting my Dad right now, I last saw all of them in May, my family is sadly a divorced family, so my Dad is about 4 and 1/2 hours away, cause I live with my Mom right now.

So I came in, because my Dad had his birthday on Wednesday this week, September 30th, I couldn’t be in on that day, but I’m here now. His household is very...chaotic to be honest. You see, his household is my Dad, my stepmom, my two stepbrothers (One in the 10th grade, the other already graduated but didn’t go to College, yet he is thinking about it now), my 7 year old half sister, my stepmom’s mom, 2 dogs, and 3 cats cause they added to 3 month old cat siblings to the house.

My Stepmom’s mom condition seems to be a lot more worse, she has Parkinson’s, and my stepmom is having a lot of trouble taking care of her mom. The mom doesn’t really word things nice, it’s more like “I need this now” rather than “Can I please have this now”, and my stepmom gets stressed out and lashes out in anger, which I know is not right, but she is stressed out. It was awkward trying to talk to my Dad when you can hear my stepmom and her mom arguing. It also clearly effects everyone else in the house, as my dad had to explain to the older stepbrother why his mom loses her cool and yells.

My Dad is thinking of putting my Stepmom’s mom in a home, because my stepmom has thrown out her back 3 times trying to help her own mother, my dad said it causes him stress, stress to even his marriage. Apparently, the siblings of my Stepmom’s mom are very against her going into a nursing home, saying: “If she is put in one, she will die”. My Dad is about done, he said he just might put the mom in a nursing home regardless. Apparently those same siblings don’t even thank my Dad or my stepmom for taking care of their sibling. My Dad said they forget because of being old, but it still sounds so awful.

It’s just given me so much perspective on the “Should I put my parents into a nursing home?” debate.

Another issue I would say needs prayer is my half sister, she is 7 years old, she’s a good kid but it’s hard for me to deal with her, I sometimes lose my cool, I don’t yell, I just sometimes struggle with kids. It’s something I need to be praying about. But it was just like, I made plans for me and my Dad to eat lunch together, but my half sister kept begging to go. It just seems like she doesn’t understand my situation, the last time I saw my Dad was in May, she sees him everyday, and she just seems to struggle with listening and she plays a lot of online games. I was actually watching her play Roblox today, and for some reason, I honestly don’t know, she covered the screen for a bit, and last night, she lied about brushing her teeth.

Not saying I’m perfect, and I know I probably did some of that stuff as a kid, I just can’t help but worry, cause I thought about it, when she is 27, my Dad will be 70 and most people in the family she knows will most likely be in their 40s-30s, I will be 45, 20 years from now. I just want her to grow up as a good kid, and I just don’t like seeing her being a brat, so now that I think about it, this is more of a me problem. I love my half sister, she just gets too energetic and hard for me to handle.

So pray would be nice, if you pray, even for one of the two problems mentioned above, thank you so much ^_^

Hi yes of course I will pray and I will type a proper message shorty

 

[stepbystep]

Will pray for your father and his family. May God make His presence known within their lives, and touch their hearts to seek Him.

 

[SarahUmbreon]

Will pray for your father and his family. May God make His presence known within their lives, and touch their hearts to seek Him.

Thanks, my Dad’s family is definitely Christian (I don’t if you said seek him as they don’t know God, or to seek him for help as they already know God is good, everyone from time to time just need reminders, sorry if I misunderstood your intent with “seek him”, that’s a problem with online communication, the voice tone really does help what the speaker is trying to say) I would say I don’t know if my stepbrothers, they go church sometimes, but I’m honestly not sure.

My dad has taught me a lot of great Christian lessons and morals, he is very much an influence on my Christian views.

But yeah, I could tell everyone in that house is going through pain, and is stressing everyone out. I believe the more prayers they can get, the better, for their situation really needs it.

 

[Encouragement]

I’m visiting my Dad right now, I last saw all of them in May, my family is sadly a divorced family, so my Dad is about 4 and 1/2 hours away, cause I live with my Mom right now.

So I came in, because my Dad had his birthday on Wednesday this week, September 30th, I couldn’t be in on that day, but I’m here now. His household is very...chaotic to be honest. You see, his household is my Dad, my stepmom, my two stepbrothers (One in the 10th grade, the other already graduated but didn’t go to College, yet he is thinking about it now), my 7 year old half sister, my stepmom’s mom, 2 dogs, and 3 cats cause they added to 3 month old cat siblings to the house.

My Stepmom’s mom condition seems to be a lot more worse, she has Parkinson’s, and my stepmom is having a lot of trouble taking care of her mom. The mom doesn’t really word things nice, it’s more like “I need this now” rather than “Can I please have this now”, and my stepmom gets stressed out and lashes out in anger, which I know is not right, but she is stressed out. It was awkward trying to talk to my Dad when you can hear my stepmom and her mom arguing. It also clearly effects everyone else in the house, as my dad had to explain to the older stepbrother why his mom loses her cool and yells.

My Dad is thinking of putting my Stepmom’s mom in a home, because my stepmom has thrown out her back 3 times trying to help her own mother, my dad said it causes him stress, stress to even his marriage. Apparently, the siblings of my Stepmom’s mom are very against her going into a nursing home, saying: “If she is put in one, she will die”. My Dad is about done, he said he just might put the mom in a nursing home regardless. Apparently those same siblings don’t even thank my Dad or my stepmom for taking care of their sibling. My Dad said they forget because of being old, but it still sounds so awful.

It’s just given me so much perspective on the “Should I put my parents into a nursing home?” debate.

Another issue I would say needs prayer is my half sister, she is 7 years old, she’s a good kid but it’s hard for me to deal with her, I sometimes lose my cool, I don’t yell, I just sometimes struggle with kids. It’s something I need to be praying about. But it was just like, I made plans for me and my Dad to eat lunch together, but my half sister kept begging to go. It just seems like she doesn’t understand my situation, the last time I saw my Dad was in May, she sees him everyday, and she just seems to struggle with listening and she plays a lot of online games. I was actually watching her play Roblox today, and for some reason, I honestly don’t know, she covered the screen for a bit, and last night, she lied about brushing her teeth.

Not saying I’m perfect, and I know I probably did some of that stuff as a kid, I just can’t help but worry, cause I thought about it, when she is 27, my Dad will be 70 and most people in the family she knows will most likely be in their 40s-30s, I will be 45, 20 years from now. I just want her to grow up as a good kid, and I just don’t like seeing her being a brat, so now that I think about it, this is more of a me problem. I love my half sister, she just gets too energetic and hard for me to handle.

So pray would be nice, if you pray, even for one of the two problems mentioned above, thank you so much ^_^

HI thanks for typing out your prayer request details and for explaining the situation.Yes I can see that with so many individuals in one home there are going to different dynamics going on.
Most people do feel that if they place an elderly family member into a care home that person will deteriorate mostly due to a lack of care from the staff and because it happens so often nowadays it's an understandable concern.There are chrstian run care homes in England and I am wandering if there are any over where you are?
At some point a decision may have to be made as to what to do and i am sure your dad wants best for her too.Spending time prayerfully about this helps with mental anguish of where she could go....staying there and trying to manage her may become much harder as time goes on and I am sure she is dearly loved by all.
Your half sister is still very young and still has a lot of growing up to do..I am curious as to why she hid her screen from you?
Kids will be a bit mischievous at times...I remember lying about having a bad arm just so I don't go to school as a kid..The main thing is to protect her from online stuff and from copying behavioural traits from others.Yes she needs to understand that you wanna have some quality time with your dad a you don't see him as often as she does.Possibility that with so much going there she may not get enough quality time either as such...(obviously on a different level to yours)
Sometimes family members can be thankless at times unfortunately....But their views doesnr define the value of your dad's efforts...
Yes a stressful time for many reasons and I pray God gives wisdom about the long term plans for this dear last with Parkinson's as this is one the key issues that needs a revolution at some point.
Has there been any options for additional support for your stepmother and dad regarding looking after her at home?

 

[SarahUmbreon]

HI thanks for typing out your prayer request details and for explaining the situation.Yes I can see that with so many individuals in one home there are going to different dynamics going on.
Most people do feel that if they place an elderly family member into a care home that person will deteriorate mostly due to a lack of care from the staff and because it happens so often nowadays it's an understandable concern.There are chrstian run care homes in England and I am wandering if there are any over where you are?
At some point a decision may have to be made as to what to do and i am sure your dad wants best for her too.Spending time prayerfully about this helps with mental anguish of where she could go....staying there and trying to manage her may become much harder as time goes on and I am sure she is dearly loved by all.
Your half sister is still very young and still has a lot of growing up to do..I am curious as to why she hid her screen from you?
Kids will be a bit mischievous at times...I remember lying about having a bad arm just so I don't go to school as a kid..The main thing is to protect her from online stuff and from copying behavioural traits from others.Yes she needs to understand that you wanna have some quality time with your dad a you don't see him as often as she does.Possibility that with so much going there she may not get enough quality time either as such...(obviously on a different level to yours)
Sometimes family members can be thankless at times unfortunately....But their views doesnr define the value of your dad's efforts...
Yes a stressful time for many reasons and I pray God gives wisdom about the long term plans for this dear last with Parkinson's as this is one the key issues that needs a revolution at some point.
Has there been any options for additional support for your stepmother and dad regarding looking after her at home?

I honestly don’t know, but I’ll ask my Dad, didn’t know there were Christian care homes, but if you think about it, I think it makes sense if they exist.

I think she might have hid the screen, cause I was looking over her shoulder, not with permission. But she seems to struggle with remembering stuff, getting hyper, and getting emotional. I was on my computer last night, and I could hear my Dad and my half-sister playing Mario Party, she started crying, from what I heard, when she was losing, and she has a hard time putting down her IPad. She is a great kid, she is always happy to see me, and she hugs me. I think she has helped me to see the pros of having children, but also the cons, lol just being honest, but I still can’t help but worry, cause I’ve seen kids when I was in High School act like brats, I don’t want that for her. Plus, it just seems like my Dad gives in a bit. Like he does discipline, and he is trying to treat her better in raising, he still yells but it’s when it seems nothing else is working. But when he said he had to go to the grocery store, he asked if I wanted to go, I said sure and then my half sister said she wanted to go, my dad said no and for her to help her mom, but she cried and got upset, my Dad gave in and let her go with us, which I guess irritated me cause I was like “Forget it, I’m not going”, but my Dad convinced me it would be fun, which it was but I guess I just struggle with that. I like to joke if I have kids, they would probably hate me because I will discipline, probably not spank, but probably not allowing them something even if they throw a fit. But who am I to judge, I haven’t raised my own kids, or even have kids right now. I dunno, it’s hard, I know sometimes if I help too much, my Dad doesn’t like that, cause he’s the parent, not me, so it’s difficult situation.

So this is what I know on my Stepmom’s mom, we do actually have a caretaker come over, but it’s only for a few hours, when the caretaker is not here, it’s my stepmom having to help. My dad even helped once with getting her mom to bed to see if it was as bad as my stepmom said it was, it turns out my stepmom was right according to my dad, cause her mom is like “my pillow is off/out of position”, when it’s in the same position from last night. My stepmom has two other siblings, her mom was at her brother’s house for a week, and he gave up. Her mom was at my stepmom’s sister’s house for 3 days, cause the stress taking care of the mom caused a mental breakdown in my stepmom’s sister. This was before her condition got worse. So my Dad wants to do what is best for everyone, everyone in the house does love my stepmom’s mom, she even moved with her husband from Florida to Texas about I wanna say when my half sister was 3, maybe 4. The husband isn’t alive anymore, he passed away last year. I even share my opinion to my Dad, and he said everyone is different and how some people can have their parents in their hone to take care of. He brought up his mom, and how even in her last days, she tried to do stuff and was very kind, of course this is coming from my Dad, but it shows if my stepmom’s mom were nicer, we wouldn’t mind having her in our house.

 

[tourist]

I am saying a prayer for your family situation as there seems to be a lot of real hard things happening. My late second wife was very sick so I have an understanding regarding being a caregiver and nursing homes. You simply do the best that you can do for as long as you can. I would not be so hard on Dad. My younger brother was born Sept 30 too.

 

[SarahUmbreon]

I am saying a prayer for your family situation as there seems to be a lot of real hard things happening. My late second wife was very sick so I have an understanding regarding being a caregiver and nursing homes. You simply do the best that you can do for as long as you can. I would not be so hard on Dad. My younger brother was born Sept 30 too.

That’s cool, yeah I’m trying not to be hard, and to be honest, I’m not over all the time, so I don’t know what the day to day life is like here. I actually got to eat with my Dad, just me and him, and using what my therapist told me, I told him I really wanted him to visit me where I live, cause he said he would in 2019, and 2020 is almost over. He said we can plan it out for 2021, and when talking of the past, I realized my Dad did take a lot of effort to visit me, I just remembered some of it wrong, he told me he didn’t know I was hurting from him not visiting me. So it has given me new perspective overall. That sometimes people are not aware of what their actions cause, I know I probably caused someone hurt, not even realizing I did.

Thanks for your prayer and response, yeah I need to remember my Dad is human, and makes mistakes, like everyone does.

 

[kittycat7]

Who should not revere you, O King of the nations? This is your due. Among all the wise men of the nations and in all their kingdoms, there is no one like you.
—Jeremiah 10:7

 

[levi85]

Lord bless, SarahUmbreon, and this prayer request. Lord let you be the head of SarahUmbreon's dad 's family, bless every member and let your name be lifted higher and higher, in this family. In Jesus mighty name, Amen!