What are some of your biggest turnoffs?

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Belka

Belka

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Someone who always wants to find the easy way out... without having to make an effort/put in the hard work
Irresponsible, who doesn't want to work, lazy
Uncommunicative or overly talkative
Rigid, controlling... "My way or the highway", "I know better because X, Y, Z..."
Unhappy / depressed / complaining / unforgiving...
Indecisive, lacking initiative (I'm indecisive enough for the both of us ._.)
Immaturity of all kind

And most of all: someone who isn't close to the Spirit of the Lord, someone who doesn't know God's heart and nature...
There are many believers who believe in Jesus and who love Him but they don't truly know Him... they don't walk in the Spirit but in their own understanding (not saying that -I- know Him perfectly, but I do know some of Him, I believe).

Directly related to the point above: someone who doesn't bear the fruit of the Spirit... who lacks patience, love, kindness, faithfulness, peace and joy. Who lacks faith and hope. Lukewarm spiritually.

And finally, someone who has a "holier than thou" attitude... who condemns by the letter instead of giving life by the Spirit... Spiritual arrogance (and arrogance in general) is a huge turn-off.

(Looking at that list, I feel like I myself have some work to do, haha.)

May the Lord help us to know Him more so we can become more like Him & be like the people we want to be with.
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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workaholic AND lazy?

what about drunk. Its also a bit of a paradox as drunk people often find everyone else around them immediately attractive.
 
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I'm gonna go with... bad breathe... it's stanky, brush your teeth and tounge too=it helps be closer to one another!
 
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She_is_Legendary

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I'm gonna go with... bad breathe... it's stanky, brush your teeth and tounge too=it helps be closer to one another!
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it also varies. I don’t like it if the guy doesn’t shower... at least 3-4 times A week. Some guys hardly Shower at all, and THAT is gross.
 
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She_is_Legendary said:
it also varies. I don’t like it if the guy doesn’t shower... at least 3-4 times A week. Some guys hardly Shower at all, and THAT is gross.
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enjoying my new freshly scented shower gel, feel refreshing and no not telling what scent it is... OK, since your pulling my arm, it's in the vannila category 😉

like ur new profile avatar sig... amen!!
 
Lanolin

Lanolin

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I think a REAL turn off like aside from all the hygiene ones that CAN be remedied and taught - - a man can scrub up just as a lady can put on a nice dress and make up

is men who are impatient. If they cant wait maybe five or ten minutes without losing it imagine how they will be everyday and if you are not on time for anything.

and what will they be like driving ---shudder---
 
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theLastEndWatcher

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Modern day feminism and other SJW nonsense.
Constant accusations of cheating when I want to hang out with friends one night.
Threatening to break up with me and then throwing a crying fit or victim fit when she doesn't get her way.
Women who do not take care of their body. You don't need to be a photoshopped model, but please, make some effort (but to be fair I'm actually working on this area myself).
Women who think I owe them something because they are female.
Voting for Obama or the Democratic party (anything other than them. Green, Independent, Libertarian, Republican, I don't care. Anyone but the Dems).
Women who do not understand that chivalry is something to be appreciated, and is not something they are entitled to, and appreciate it.
Women who do not understand that a nice personality does not necessarily make them attractive beyond the friend zone. I am not obligated to date someone just because they are nice, smart or funny. Attraction is different for everyone.
A woman who I"d marry and then would starve me sexually and then get mad that I might look at other women. (not saying women owe anything, but if it's not a good match there and I'm restricted on who I can sleep with, is it really a good idea to marry a woman whom you aren't compatible with in that area too?). Before I returned to Christ, this was definitely an area I had to deal with when dating. Strangely she and I fixed this issue after a year apart, and ironically most of her issues were gone when we got back together.

And finally a woman who does not understand that the above issues are all PARTS of a relationship, and that stating things that I like or don't like is not saying "be all end all".
 
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