True, shittim.
I try to practice the fruit of the Holy Spirit in my daily life, with varying degrees of success, and that requires focusing on others. It is pretty much impossible to honestly offer others healing, when you are virtually certain that the Holy Spirit isn't with you. It is hard to tell someone honestly that God will never leave them or forsake them if you are nine tenths convinced that Jesus rejected you from the get go. It is hard to encourage hope and joy when you are almost too depressed to stand up. Even the physical help that I can give is limited, because I am the guy who can't do anything right.
When I was talking with my pastor, I was focused on my problems, because that's why I went to see him.
When I joined Christian Chat, it was in the hope of gaining new and understandable information that would help throw off the burden of doubt and fear. I don't honestly know what I can offer in return.