Pronoun Change as Christian?

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Starlitmess

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Hello! My apologies if this is the wrong forum, please point me to the right one if it’s not.
Okay, I‘ve read a lot on here and the Internet in general about using other’s gender pronouns. For example, if a friend asks you to refer to them as “she/her” rather then “he/him” I understand the multiple options on this, so I’m not really asking about that, but maybe the two are intertwined, I don’t know.

My question is, what about a Christian choosing their own pronouns?
I’ve never felt comfortable being refered to as “she/her”(no, I’m not changing my gender because I do believe God knew what my gender was when He made me) and I‘ve been thinking of changing to “she/they” for a long time. I want to honour God but I really am annoyed by “she/her”, and “she/they”(in my opinion) keeps my female identity. Advice?
 
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Are you a Christian?
 
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Starlitmess

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Blackpowderduelist said:
When you say you are a Christian, what exactly to you mean? What exactly defines a Christian to you?
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I believe Jesus died on the cross. By doing so, He took the punishment for my sins and went to hell in my place. His death is significant because He is the only one who could walk out, and He did.
If I don’t believe(or accept) that, I’m taking my sins back, and paying for them myself and I can’t walk out of that.

I‘m asking the pronoun question because I don’t want to be going against God but I haven’t found a straight answer
 
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Blackpowderduelist

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Starlitmess said:
I believe Jesus died on the cross. By doing so, He took the punishment for my sins and went to hell in my place. His death is significant because He is the only one who could walk out, and He did.
If I don’t believe(or accept) that, I’m taking my sins back, and paying for them myself and I can’t walk out of that.

I‘m asking the pronoun question because I don’t want to be going against God but I haven’t found a straight answer
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So you want a simple straight answer?
Why would you reject accurate language? Honesty is one of the expectations of God.
 
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Starlitmess

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Blackpowderduelist said:
So you want a simple straight answer?
Why would you reject accurate language?
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I’m not sure. I’ve had a few Christian friends do it and they’re comfortable with it, but I don’t want to change just because they did. That line of thinking can go south very fast.

The pronouns have bothered me for a while and I feel like it shouldn’t, maybe I’m being picky.
 
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Hello and Welcome to CC...
It's good that you believe in Jesus, and recognize God's sovereignty regarding your gender. With regard to pronouns though, I would encourage you to think through this carefully. By asking others to use specific pronouns, you are expecting them to acquiesce to your views. You have a name; just use that. Choose not to be offended if people use a term is not your preference. You may find that many people will ask which you prefer; be thankful for those people, and don't worry about the rest. :)
 
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Starlitmess said:
I’m not sure. I’ve had a few Christian friends do it and they’re comfortable with it, but I don’t want to change just because they did. That line of thinking can go south very fast.

The pronouns have bothered me for a while and I feel like it shouldn’t, maybe I’m being picky.
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Obfuscating the truth is dishonesty. As a Christian we have an obligation to the truth.
 
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Blackpowderduelist

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Part of the call in christianity is that we sacrifice ourselves for others.
 
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Starlitmess said:
Hello! My apologies if this is the wrong forum, please point me to the right one if it’s not.
Okay, I‘ve read a lot on here and the Internet in general about using other’s gender pronouns. For example, if a friend asks you to refer to them as “she/her” rather then “he/him” I understand the multiple options on this, so I’m not really asking about that, but maybe the two are intertwined, I don’t know.

My question is, what about a Christian choosing their own pronouns?
I’ve never felt comfortable being refered to as “she/her”(no, I’m not changing my gender because I do believe God knew what my gender was when He made me) and I‘ve been thinking of changing to “she/they” for a long time. I want to honour God but I really am annoyed by “she/her”, and “she/they”(in my opinion) keeps my female identity. Advice?
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as a Christian your complete identity should be found in the gospel. When we look into the gospel it’s like we are looking into a mirror seeing who we are meant to be.

if you believe the gospel you are a child of God one of the things about us is that we make a point to not look for offense . Things like this seem to invite offense a person might refer to you as she , but how you take it is where the offense lies

if a meet a female Christian she is my sister , to refer to her as she or sister or female in my heart is not offensive but a title of respect , identifying them as a sister in Christ who I am bound to love . Acknowledging that she as well as I equally belong to Christ

in Christ it’s about people regardless of gender. And the truth is that makes can’t exist without females and females can’t exist without males that either side of our lives are offensive seems to take away from the complete man whether male or female .

I think your identity should be a child of God who looks higher than a pronoun
 
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Starlitmess

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Blackpowderduelist said:
What's wrong with "her" if you are ok with she?
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Honestly, it’s the same issue, but I don’t want to change to non-binary pronouns because I know God made me the right gender. If I was supposed to be male, He would have made me male. By using “she/they”, I feel that I’m keeping my female identity but not being tied so closely to it. And yes, as I was typing, I realised how backwards that sounds
 
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Pilgrimshope said:
I think your identity should be a child of God who looks higher than a pronoun
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Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
 
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oyster67 said:
Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
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“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭3:18‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.

For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female:

for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.”
‭‭Galatians‬ ‭3:26-29‬ ‭KJV‬‬
 
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