Wearing a ring, when you are not married. Happily unmarried.

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kinda

kinda

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So, is there a moral and religious dilemma, if you wear a wedding ring, when you are not married?

I don't know what it is, but lately I'm starting to think this is the solution. It seems like it's lying and even if I was married, I wouldn't wear a ring.

I don't believe in wearing jewelry, but this is an emergency.

Basically, what are the ramifications of wearing a wedding ring, when you are not married? Is it wrong? Discuss.

Maybe I should just say, I have a serious girlfriend. Ask a girl to take a picture with me and then tell everyone we are in love.

Does wearing a wedding ring say, leave me alone, or does it bring up more problems?

Not to sound arrogant, but I grow tired of single woman (flirting), and relationships.

Happily unmarried, thank you very much!





 
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kinda said:
So, is there a moral and religious dilemma, if you wear a wedding ring, when you are not married?

I don't know what it is, but lately I'm starting to think this is the solution. It seems like it's lying and even if I was married, I wouldn't wear a ring.

I don't believe in wearing jewelry, but this is an emergency.

Basically, what are the ramifications of wearing a wedding ring, when you are not married? Is it wrong? Discuss.

Maybe I should just say, I have a serious girlfriend. Ask a girl to take a picture with me and then tell everyone we are in love.

Does wearing a wedding ring say, leave me alone, or does it bring up more problems?

Not to sound arrogant, but I grow tired of single woman (flirting), and relationships.

Happily unmarried, thank you very much!





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That might discourage people from flirting with you if that's what you want. Personally I'd be worried about the awkward conversations that follow.

Like if you're suddenly wearing a wedding band then people who know you might be curious.

Are you comfortable with explaining to anyone who asks that you're not really married, but just want to deter flirty people?
 
G00WZ

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Whether or not you have a ring on some women will try you especially if your content, positive, and in tune with yourself and not really looking for anything. I remember with my dad women would try him all the time even when he did have his wedding ring on. Even in his 70's his masculine swag still continues as they still try and flirt with him. So i'm saying all of that to say, if you got it like that there really isn't much you can do about it but accept it for what it is.

In my opinion that's one of those good problems, it means you have options. Like with me for example my credit score is basically maxed out and i keep getting offers for loans or credit cards that i don't even need, i don't accept any of them but they are still cool to look at when i get them in the mail. Seeing them all piled up in the bin is a reminder that i must be doing something right, and if i want one i can have it.
 
Subhumanoidal

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So you don't want to lie by wearing a wedding ring to insinuate that you're married. But you're guilt free about taking a picture of a fake girlfriend and verbally lying about that? 🤔

Also is this such an "emergency" that you're willing to compromise your conscience to do so?
If this is your idea of an emergency, enjoy your easy life.

And, no, wedding rings won't stop women. Some women, yes, but others are actually attracted to married men.
 
cinder

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G00WZ said:
Like with me for example my credit score is basically maxed out and i keep getting offers for loans or credit cards that i don't even need, i don't accept any of them but they are still cool to look at when i get them in the mail. Seeing them all piled up in the bin is a reminder that i must be doing something right, and if i want one i can have it.
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Receiving multiple credit offers doesn't mean much. At least in the US, lenders do things like scour the public records to find people who've recently filed bankruptcy and send them credit offers. Debt is one of the most aggressively marketed products out there and often for most people all it takes to keep from going deeper into debt is self denial, discipline, and patience (seriously you can think of the interest rate as an impatience fee).
 
cinder

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kinda said:
So, is there a moral and religious dilemma, if you wear a wedding ring, when you are not married?

I don't know what it is, but lately I'm starting to think this is the solution. It seems like it's lying and even if I was married, I wouldn't wear a ring.

I don't believe in wearing jewelry, but this is an emergency.

Basically, what are the ramifications of wearing a wedding ring, when you are not married? Is it wrong? Discuss.

Maybe I should just say, I have a serious girlfriend. Ask a girl to take a picture with me and then tell everyone we are in love.

Does wearing a wedding ring say, leave me alone, or does it bring up more problems?

Not to sound arrogant, but I grow tired of single woman (flirting), and relationships.

Happily unmarried, thank you very much!
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Why is this an emergency? Just going to say that if this is a particular woman that won't take no for an answer and you can't avoid, then truth is women can sexually harass men. I don't think it's reported much but it is possible. Otherwise your best strategy is probably to learn to give people a contemptuous death glare when you want them to go away; or become a hermit, you'd be surprised at how many people you don't have to interact with if you never go out.

I'm thinking the ring isn't the problem; those who would respect it will respect you saying no and it would make no difference to those who wouldn't respect it.

Maybe we could start a T-shirt line.... or you could just get this shirt for days you really don't want to be bothered: 1619141401980.png


(it was one of the few I could find quick on google that seemed cc appropriate)
 
G00WZ

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cinder said:
Receiving multiple credit offers doesn't mean much. At least in the US, lenders do things like scour the public records to find people who've recently filed bankruptcy and send them credit offers. Debt is one of the most aggressively marketed products out there and often for most people all it takes to keep from going deeper into debt is self denial, discipline, and patience (seriously you can think of the interest rate as an impatience fee).
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Depending on how much you make and the scores you get the quality of them is different. I don't mess with credit or loans though, and yea it isn't for irresponsible impulsive people.
 
Kireina

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I don't wear jewelries except a silver watch...but if ever I'll get married in the future I'll wear one to let them know that I am married I am taken and I am committed to my husband so back off lol


Women and men who are single wearing a ring maybe they do it for fashion and style...

But wearing one helps to let them know you are married? Yeah, I guess but that doesn't stop some men and women to try to flirt with you... or come to you...

Ring can be lost and be stolen... You can wear them or you can decide to not wear them but always wear in your heart and mind the commitment you made to your husband or wife before God in any situation and in any circumstances. So that you and your husband will live happily married together ❤
 
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Deception is a lie, and is wrong. Period.

If you "toy" with it, it will "haunt" you.

You reap what you sow.

Whatever your situation, you must deal with it honestly.
 
Lanolin

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I dont think a ring would solve anything, but if you can afford one I suppose you might want to wear one but it would be dishonest to say you are married when you arent if people are nosy enough to enquire. It would just be a ring.

And I am sure unmarried people do wear rings anyway. I dont really look closely at peoples fingers.

A lot of married people dont wear rings, my dad doesnt. Not sure why not some people arent ring people but its obvious hes married cos he'd talk about his wife.

I think more obvious would be to wear a t shirt. My friend wore one when she got married. Its black and says with white lettering just to make it really obvious JUST MARRIED.


Better would be to keep yourself to yourself. I know its a drag when others try and be all flirty when you are single but its something you need to put up with or just say sorry not interested! I love you as a brother sis or something along those lines.
 
Lanolin

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also having a beard (or fake gf) would just bite you in the butt. To be blunt. Its not nice for your fake gf to have to pretend either and go along with the ruse. Dont think anyone would appreciate having their photo taken and then ppl assume that you are together with them as well?!
 
kinda

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Thanks for the responses.

I don't think I'm much of a catch to be honest, but lately it feels like I need to carry some mace or something.

Not gonna wear the ring, that doesn't seem right, just gonna have to figure it out.
 
Dino246

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GaryA said:
Deception is a lie, and is wrong. Period.

If you "toy" with it, it will "haunt" you.

You reap what you sow.

Whatever your situation, you must deal with it honestly.
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I would encourage you to read the story of Micaiah and Ahab.
 
Lynx

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Lol!

Or King Saul, David and Jonathan.

Or Rahab.
 
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I was going thru old photos and forgot a gf from years ago wore a wedding ring. I remember she did because working in sales having stunning features men would ask her out or hit on her incessantly. The girls at my local gas station have them and hit on me every day im pretty sure they are single and just wear it for defense. Then forget. Idk if jewelry means your married. Most men do not wear their rings if they do labor so their finger doesnt get ripped off. When i was married i only wore it when we went out.
 
Dino246

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GaryA said:
Okay. And...?

What does this have to do with what I said?

What I said was intended/meant for man.

God can do whatever He wants to do.
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My point is that your statement, "Deception is a lie, and is wrong. Period" is not actually supported by Scripture.
 
melita916

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I used to wear a silver ring on my left ring finger because that’s where it fit best. My friends told me I was sending the wrong message to guys. But I said it didn’t look like a wedding band. Then patients at work would ask about my husband. I would tell them I wasn’t married. “But you have a ring!”

I then switched it to the other hand lol.
 
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