How often do you feel attractive?

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How often do you feel attractive?

  • Always

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Often, but not always

    Votes: 7 35.0%

  • I feel attractive about half the time

    Votes: 3 15.0%

  • Sometimes, but not rarely

    Votes: 2 10.0%

  • Rarely

    Votes: 4 20.0%

  • Never

    Votes: 3 15.0%

  • Other (please explain)

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • Total voters
    20
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violakat

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#21
#21
I know how Seoul feels. Most times, I feel like I'm looked over by others, as if since I'm not a super model, that I'm not beautiful enough for others, or in the past, I felt like guys were to intimidated by my height. But more than likely it's because I'm really quiet around people I don't really know.
 
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evelina

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#22
#22
everyone is beautiful but, not everyone sees it!!! if u want to be loved, love yourself!!!!
 
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evelina

Guest
#23
#23
be + you + tiful = beautiful :D
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
#24
May 23, 2009
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Jullianna said:
Seoulsearch, you are absolutely GORGEOUS! You have beautiful hair and skin, and a smile that lights up these threads. Whatcha talking about????? :)

And we've seen Nuke dressed up. He looks pretty good, huh? :)
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Obviously, the answer to my lack-of-social-life is that I need to find a MALE version of Jullianna... (Then again, maybe God knows I'd grow the biggest head this side of Texas if I had someone complimenting me like that all the time.)

The funny thing is, much about me is "artificial"--my hair is fine, flat, and dead-straight, so I have to get perms... (major investments of time and money, so I only get one a year); and I know guys hate makeup, but I need at least a thin coat to hide old acne scars. I also had a ton of work done on my teeth--the front six are actually porcelain.

A very out-going black girl I used to work with once asked me, in front of everyone if I had (chest) implants... And I was like, "No, no, that's one (well, maybe two :D) thing(s) I have that are actually natural..."

NukePooch said:
You may have seen the pics of me in the monkey suit, and I would have dressed up and gone with Seoul, but, she would have been rather unhappy with me when I headed for the door about 5 minutes into the reception...See you later, Kim. I'll be out in the parking lot.
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Parking lot or not, Nuke--you are still going to do the chicken dance. It's not an option. Actually, it might be even MORE entertaining to see you do the chicken dance out in the parking lot rather than in the hall...

And we can't leave the reception until I get some food. Most importantly, the cake. I find cakes to be VERY attractive!!!

P.S. I also agree that everyone here is beautiful :) and had very unique things to offer others!!
 
grace

grace

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It truly is a matter of perspective....but there are events, or people from out lives that can have a STRONG affect on that perspective.

When people do *ugly* things to you, or treat you in *ugly* ways....you begin to feel *ugly*. I think this is where I am with my opinion of what I look like physically. I guess what it comes down to sometimes is that one person who takes the time and effort to show you consistantly through their actions and words etc that you central to their life in EVERY way. That their feelings for you are not measurable on any scale. (and that goes for how they view you on the inside AND outside.)

Its a shame that others and actions and words can be hurtful and carry such long affects....but it does happen.
 
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See_KING_Truth

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#26
#26
I don't always see myself as attractive. I always have my mom tellin me that I am the most handsome young man, lol which gives me a little boost. I haven't always felt comfortable in my skin either....

Growing up I was the largest kid in my class all the way thru gradeschool and junior high. One advantage is nobody messed with me or my friends because they were obviously intimidated by my size. Although, when I was in the 1st grade I walked to school every day, which was only a couple blocks. Every day though this 5th grader would follow me to school on his bike and insult me about my weight with names like "Big Mac" and "Bacon Boy" this tore my self-esteem down almost completely. This went on months before I told my teachers about it and they dealt with him. My weight peaked at 264 pounds in my junior year of highschool.

I had always been the "just a friend" type to all the girls I interacted with. Looking back I am kind of glad that I never got involved in relationships at such an early age. I made some drastic changes to my diet and weigh in at about 185 pounds today. Today, I am content with my appearance and don't care a whole lot about how I appeal to others because I am happy with the way I look.

This is just my opinion, I think that if you don't see yourself as attractive or as a person that somebody else would find attractive then your body and actions portray that somehow. Your inward feelings can show thru to the the outside and we aren't even aware that people can see this...I guess you could call it a lack of confidence or self-esteem showing. Idk just a thought...
 
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See_KING_Truth

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#27
#27
Isn't my avatar totally charming?!
 
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NukePooch

Guest
#28
#28
seoulsearch said:
Parking lot or not, Nuke--you are still going to do the chicken dance. It's not an option. Actually, it might be even MORE entertaining to see you do the chicken dance out in the parking lot rather than in the hall...

And we can't leave the reception until I get some food. Most importantly, the cake. I find cakes to be VERY attractive!!!
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As much as I'd like to entertain you, there will be no dancing from the Pooch. None. As in...none. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Un-dancified. Without dance. Sans swing. Uber wallflower. Nil. Nought. Negative. Never.
If you need more clarification, let me know.


As far as food? I'll swing thru McD's drive thru on the way home, k? You'd probably get better food anyways.
 
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Liz01

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#29
#29
zeroturbulence said:
OMGosh that is horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. :( Something kind of similar happened to me so I know how it can really affect your self image. There were several years when I felt attractive too when I was younger, but now I have gotten badly out of shape and I know how hurtful people can be. I'm trying to get back in shape too.
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thanks Zero,
i think that the ppl that really loves us will see us beautiful ;)
 
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nanabean

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#31
#31
NukePooch said:
As much as I'd like to entertain you, there will be no dancing from the Pooch. None. As in...none. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Un-dancified. Without dance. Sans swing. Uber wallflower. Nil. Nought. Negative. Never.
If you need more clarification, let me know.


AWwwww NukePooch.......are you SURE????????? I think I hear a slight give to your tone...I mean you didn't even say absolutly, positively, certain-sure!!! :)


As far as food? I'll swing thru McD's drive thru on the way home, k? You'd probably get better food anyways.
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Liz01 said:
thanks Zero,
i think that the ppl that really loves us will see us beautiful ;)
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Amen....this is soooooooo true!!
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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#32
May 23, 2009
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#32
NukePooch said:
As much as I'd like to entertain you, there will be no dancing from the Pooch. None. As in...none. Nada. Zilch. Zero. Un-dancified. Without dance. Sans swing. Uber wallflower. Nil. Nought. Negative. Never.
If you need more clarification, let me know.

SO... It's totally on, then. Nuke is completely open-minded to swing dancing, line dancing, chicken dancing, and the Macarena... Can't wait!! This ought to be good!! I think chicken dancing is attractive... when it's other people besides me who are doing it.


As far as food? I'll swing thru McD's drive thru on the way home, k? You'd probably get better food anyways.
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You're on--McD's rules... day or night (morning--Big Breakfast or Bacon Egg and Cheese Biscuit Meal; evening--Quarter Pounder with Cheese Meal... Chocolate shake. After all, I need the ice cream to go with the cake.)
 
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Jullianna

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#33
#33
seoulsearch said:
Obviously, the answer to my lack-of-social-life is that I need to find a MALE version of Jullianna... (Then again, maybe God knows I'd grow the biggest head this side of Texas if I had someone complimenting me like that all the time.)

The funny thing is, much about me is "artificial"--my hair is fine, flat, and dead-straight, so I have to get perms... (major investments of time and money, so I only get one a year); and I know guys hate makeup, but I need at least a thin coat to hide old acne scars. I also had a ton of work done on my teeth--the front six are actually porcelain.

A very out-going black girl I used to work with once asked me, in front of everyone if I had (chest) implants... And I was like, "No, no, that's one (well, maybe two :D) thing(s) I have that are actually natural..."



Parking lot or not, Nuke--you are still going to do the chicken dance. It's not an option. Actually, it might be even MORE entertaining to see you do the chicken dance out in the parking lot rather than in the hall...

And we can't leave the reception until I get some food. Most importantly, the cake. I find cakes to be VERY attractive!!!

P.S. I also agree that everyone here is beautiful :) and had very unique things to offer others!!
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Nothing about you is artificial. You're as real as they come. Perming your hair, wearing makeup, having work done on your teeth is no different from wearing a pretty dress, shoes, getting a tan or working out. If it makes you feel good about you, go for it. :)
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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Jullianna said:
Nothing about you is artificial. You're as real as they come. Perming your hair, wearing makeup, having work done on your teeth is no different from wearing a pretty dress, shoes, getting a tan or working out. If it makes you feel good about you, go for it. :)
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Just no botox or plastic surgery now, you hear! ;)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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#36
#36
When Saturn aligns with Uranus... Thats when im at my most attractivenss....
 
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Hethr

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#40
#40
I picked rarely.. Most of my friends, when we go out, get hit on. Not me. MIND YOU I don't WANT to get hit on especially at a karaoke bar.. but it still stings a little.. I don't date, admittedly I'm picky but I've not had the option of turning anyone down either. I have never been thrilled with how I look and I'm also one that has to work at it. When you feel insecure about how you look and nobody tells you any different, well it's hard to change that opinion.
I was watching Oprah one day and there was a lady who was in a fire.. her whole face was badly scarred but she had a terrific attitude about herself. I felt remorseful instantly and prayed to God, how could I think of myself so poorly, I'm lucky, so many people are worse off than me. I told God I would stop my bad attitude.. now this is hard to do and I slip up but I remember what I promised God and then I ask for forgiveness.
 
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