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J
I suppose since I asked the question, I should be the first to spill my guts. I'm probably single because I have mixed feelings about being married at this time in my life, which is undergoing many changes. I don't feel that it would be right to bring someone else into the mix right now. If I truly wanted to be married right now, I would be. The opportunities have been there with some pretty fantastic guys that I chose to avoid, so I have no right to whine about it on rainy nights when I'm comforted only by my quilt and my dogs. 
I will probably marry again eventually and it will probably be one of those fantastic guys I referred to unless God clearly has other plans. Timing is important.
Next?
I will probably marry again eventually and it will probably be one of those fantastic guys I referred to unless God clearly has other plans. Timing is important.
Next?
I don't know who to date. And living in my home town has meant that the stakes are incredibly high. I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression. I don't want to lead anyone on unnecessarily. I can't afford to burn any bridges. I only play for keeps. With so much hanging in the balance I have to be very thorough in not only who I choose to date but, how to go about doing it.
N
Why im usually single... well
My mom tells me its because im cold.
My sister says thats not true, its really because im mean
But if you ask both of my dads one will tell you its because i have no feelings, the other will say.. Wait.. i have a daughter?!
My brother says he doesnt get why im not married, he thinks im cool.
So im gonna stick with his answer and say... i have noooo idea
My mom tells me its because im cold.
My sister says thats not true, its really because im mean
But if you ask both of my dads one will tell you its because i have no feelings, the other will say.. Wait.. i have a daughter?!
My brother says he doesnt get why im not married, he thinks im cool.
So im gonna stick with his answer and say... i have noooo idea
T
Sorry this is way longer than I originally intended and my grammarand punctuation is always bad. Hahahahahaha
You know how people say "be careful of what you wish for"
Well, a few years ago I was having a long chat with my Heavenly Father and I told Him that I really just wanted to meet the one and get it over with. I didn't really want to deal with all the drama of dating, liking or possibly falling in love with someone to later find out that it wasn't right, and besides I had been dating for nearly 10 years and it hadnt really gotten me anywhere.
Well in the past few years I have been lonely because I want companionship and feel like I am ready to spend my life with someone. Ready to love and be loved. Motivate, encourage, listen, follow instead of lead all the time. It just seemes like the next logical step after school is finished career is going. Thats just what you do.
And then a few months ago I finally realized what I had asked God to do for me, protect me from potential posers, conterfeit spouses. You know the ones who look good but are bad. Or the ones who are good but just not good for you, cause they are for somomne else. Or that partial love, Love that encompasses certain things but not everything God wants it to be. I think when I realized that, I was released from the idea of "being in love with the idea of love"
Even more recently I began praying prayer specifically about the releasing of myself and my partner so that we can be with each other. I truely feel that God is not going to let me get involoved with anyone unless we are both ready for each other.
And because I try to look at everything as a learning situation I hope I am taking things in that will help me live and deal with a spouse. There are little things that we forget about that can make or break us.
My two major things are sharing space and leadership. I know, thos eare big ones there when it comes to letting the husband be the lead.
I have lived alone for about 7 years and I cant imagine someone invading my space with their junk. But guess what I will have a roommate soon for about a month. (heloing out a neighbor in a weird situation) I definitely think that is orchastrated by God so I can ler\arn how to live with people again.
I am a natural leader. Its hard for me to bite my tongue when I think ideas are ridiculous and there is a better way. But with my job, thats just how it is and I am now active in a Church that really only lets people lead if they have been there for many years, so I just have to be a follower. even in the singles group all the Ldies are natural leaders and I am definitely learning how to let others be incharge.
Maybe these are the reasons why I feel it will happen soon. My big issues are being dealt with and I feel relief from relinquishing so much control. Well check back with me when I get my roommate in a few weeks. hehehehehe
You know how people say "be careful of what you wish for"
Well, a few years ago I was having a long chat with my Heavenly Father and I told Him that I really just wanted to meet the one and get it over with. I didn't really want to deal with all the drama of dating, liking or possibly falling in love with someone to later find out that it wasn't right, and besides I had been dating for nearly 10 years and it hadnt really gotten me anywhere.
Well in the past few years I have been lonely because I want companionship and feel like I am ready to spend my life with someone. Ready to love and be loved. Motivate, encourage, listen, follow instead of lead all the time. It just seemes like the next logical step after school is finished career is going. Thats just what you do.
And then a few months ago I finally realized what I had asked God to do for me, protect me from potential posers, conterfeit spouses. You know the ones who look good but are bad. Or the ones who are good but just not good for you, cause they are for somomne else. Or that partial love, Love that encompasses certain things but not everything God wants it to be. I think when I realized that, I was released from the idea of "being in love with the idea of love"
Even more recently I began praying prayer specifically about the releasing of myself and my partner so that we can be with each other. I truely feel that God is not going to let me get involoved with anyone unless we are both ready for each other.
And because I try to look at everything as a learning situation I hope I am taking things in that will help me live and deal with a spouse. There are little things that we forget about that can make or break us.
My two major things are sharing space and leadership. I know, thos eare big ones there when it comes to letting the husband be the lead.
I have lived alone for about 7 years and I cant imagine someone invading my space with their junk. But guess what I will have a roommate soon for about a month. (heloing out a neighbor in a weird situation) I definitely think that is orchastrated by God so I can ler\arn how to live with people again.
I am a natural leader. Its hard for me to bite my tongue when I think ideas are ridiculous and there is a better way. But with my job, thats just how it is and I am now active in a Church that really only lets people lead if they have been there for many years, so I just have to be a follower. even in the singles group all the Ldies are natural leaders and I am definitely learning how to let others be incharge.
Maybe these are the reasons why I feel it will happen soon. My big issues are being dealt with and I feel relief from relinquishing so much control. Well check back with me when I get my roommate in a few weeks. hehehehehe
K
I am very loyal to my small family. I am currently looking after my grandmother's house and I'm trying my best to pay the bills and keep my brother/cousin (Grew up with the guy) and his girlfriend happy. And when it comes to me, I highly doubt any woman would want a sick boyfriend. Besides, being single makes it easier for me to serve others. It isn't just my brother I give too, but also my sisters.
Besides, being single makes it easier for me to serve others. It isn't just my brother I give too, but also my sisters.
W
Some days I think it's my fault that I'm single now. Others, it's because I'm not worth it. Who would want to date someone with such a rough past like mine? I'm a package deal. Not very many people can handle that. Someone once asked me why I get tattoos... it took me a while to figure out another reason for "Just because." I then realized that the reason I get them is I want someone to love me for me and not for what I look like. I could be totally inked out and they would still love me for the way I am on the inside... not for the way I look. I get a lot of people who only like me for my looks. Mainly my red hair. Once they find out how complicated my life is, then tend to drop me like yesterday's news and run the other way. Leaving pieces of me to clean back up.
I don't know (and I'm beginning to think) if God wants me to get married. The last relationship I was in I swore he was the one... but it just ended in tragedy.
To sum up a rant: I don't know.
I don't know (and I'm beginning to think) if God wants me to get married. The last relationship I was in I swore he was the one... but it just ended in tragedy.
To sum up a rant: I don't know.
G
Because I am a prehistoric dinosaur who still opens doors for ladies, pulls out thier chair for vthem, stands up when they get up from the table, and places his jacket over thier shoulders when they are cold. The liberated women of today don't want that. Add to that fact I am poor and overweight and there you go. I'm undateable. I have a good heart however it does me little good when noone bothers to look past the exterior to see it.
A
Why am I single? The people in the area I live in still use the word "housewife" seriously and I can't even type it without having an involuntary shiver. So, not going to happen till I move. Probably.
I'm in graduate school, I also tell myself I am too busy. I work a lot and study a lot. It is a nice thing to tell myself at night.
So I don't know the answer really. The answers really are straw man arguments if examined too closely.
I'm in graduate school, I also tell myself I am too busy. I work a lot and study a lot. It is a nice thing to tell myself at night.
So I don't know the answer really. The answers really are straw man arguments if examined too closely.
A
Yes, Julianna, most guys do not seem to understand. It is exhausting. But it is a tired I brought on myself. I am self employed on top of that, so I think many people think I can just do whatever I want.
Meh. The lack of understand is rampant.
Congrats to you for finishing. It is a tough road I am finding.
Meh. The lack of understand is rampant.
Congrats to you for finishing. It is a tough road I am finding.
J
I know I am mainly to blame for my singleness. I did date a lot at one time but then it got old going out with the wrong guys so I kind of gave up. In the mix of all that my mom had a stroke 3 years ago and my dad isn't doing well so most of my free time is spent taking care of them. So it is hard to find time to date. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents but it makes it kind of rough for a single girl.
S
I'm single by choice. It it's not on my priority list right now . I want to concentrate on school for the most part. Other reasons is i want to be a lil more physically fit i mean i dont look like i have extra baggage but i could lose 10 or so more pounds 5'11 198 - _ - and when i date somebody i would like for them to have the same idea of physical fitness. Also the majority of people around my area dont really appeal to me cause of their lack or nonexistence of religion in their life and their idea of ''fun''. Met some pretty awesome people on here but they are too darn far away haha.
. I want to concentrate on school for the most part. Other reasons is i want to be a lil more physically fit i mean i dont look like i have extra baggage but i could lose 10 or so more pounds 5'11 198 - _ - and when i date somebody i would like for them to have the same idea of physical fitness. Also the majority of people around my area dont really appeal to me cause of their lack or nonexistence of religion in their life and their idea of ''fun''. Met some pretty awesome people on here but they are too darn far away haha.