Sounds like she's need prayer. To have so much hate in your heart towards any human being is a shame. Ill rather continue to live in pureness, and not live a lie. Ill rather be able to speak proudly about my trials and tribulations instead of covering up bits and pieces. Hate is something ill NEVER carry in my heart for the rest of my life.
It sounds to me like you have passed the "test the spirits" concept that Paul wrote about. In other words, it sounds like you are a True Child of God. What happened to you? This is what happened to you . . .
Colossians 2:11-13 NLT - "When you came to Christ, you were "circumcised," but not by a physical procedure. Christ performed a spiritual circumcision--the cutting away of your sinful nature. 12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead. 13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins."
You have been given a new Heart, Pureness. You are rare!