Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42
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I would say you have all the possibilities in the world. You sound like a good guy. Are you going to church? That would be a great place to meet a lovely woman.
You aren't too old. Gosh, I'm old as dirt now ... But I remember my 40s as being one of the best decades of my life! Embrace your age and just be the best, godly man you can be. Believe me, there are so many wonderful ladies who are hoping to meet just such a man.
You aren't too old. Gosh, I'm old as dirt now ... But I remember my 40s as being one of the best decades of my life! Embrace your age and just be the best, godly man you can be. Believe me, there are so many wonderful ladies who are hoping to meet just such a man.
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Thank you everyone! Thank you Birdinmypalm for sending me the Hope! I feel good when I read what you wrote guys, to be honest, right now my fingers are shaking a little bit, but I like this good emotion. Please forgive me for my poor English, I learned it only by listening ( I am part of huge community, we create and expand a free radio communication group around the world).
I am christian, but I am open to learn from the other religions too (used to live with people from different countries), in our foundations we are all the same. We need love, home, family and people to love and hug, to take care for.
I will be glad to meet people and the best is to find somewhere my soulmate. My biggest dreams are the kids, my own or kids of my soulmate. To teach them what I know, to play with them, to learn from them too. May be all this sound easy, but for me this is something huge. I am born to take care for the community, to leave something good behind me.
Once again, thank you for sharing your time with me. Probably at few months I will move to Florida, if you need help or anything, just let me know.
I am christian, but I am open to learn from the other religions too (used to live with people from different countries), in our foundations we are all the same. We need love, home, family and people to love and hug, to take care for.
I will be glad to meet people and the best is to find somewhere my soulmate. My biggest dreams are the kids, my own or kids of my soulmate. To teach them what I know, to play with them, to learn from them too. May be all this sound easy, but for me this is something huge. I am born to take care for the community, to leave something good behind me.
Once again, thank you for sharing your time with me. Probably at few months I will move to Florida, if you need help or anything, just let me know.
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Statistically speaking yeah the odds are in your favor for guys at your age. As well your age demographic you have I believe it is like 4-6 women to chose from. Women's peak desirability tops out statistically speaking at the age of 32 where it tops out for men at the age of 50.
I agree you do want to find someone like minded and shares the same values so you will want to stick to Christian gals. So would put myself in a position of going to church or single Christian groups and etc.
When women are asked what can a guy do to attract a woman, a good portion will answer just be themselves. This is absolute truth. Reason being is women know what men don't. Women as far as initially attraction goes can be attracted to everything from A-Z.
Such as in your case you are a technician, so you show stability. Other women are attracted to a man that has a pet cause that shows responsibility. They conclude if you have a pet you are responsible because after you get off of work you have to go home and let it out and feed and water it. So shows them you are responsible. Women can be attracted to your hands, your eyes, the way you smile, that you are shy, can handle yourself in social gatherings. It really is from A-Z what can initially attract a woman. So be yourself cause fact is if you be yourself they will do all the work of eliminating you are choosing you for a possible partner.
Which now this gets to the two important things in my honest opinion. Pick from the ones who have already predetermined you are what they want to chose. A well as use other women in your life to point them out.
Any woman that is interested in you she will make it easy for you. Cause she has already determined you are worth her time and energy and she wants to get to know you. So they will make it easy for you but as guys we don't pick up on the subtle hints of her showing she is making it easy.
They can come talk to you or stand a couple of people away from when you are talking. Cause they have the ability to be in a conversation a couple people away from you yet hear everything you are saying in your conversation. They are excellent at gathering data that they to use to determine how interested they are in you. They notice a lot of small things that we as men don't ever catch.
So if they are interested they will make it easy for you and place themselves in positions to be noticed by you cause they do want you to come talk to them. Problem is we don't notice these subtle hints. So use the women in your life. A mother a friend, a sister or a cousin.
Those women can really let ya know what gals are picking you. They may say something like I think so and so may like you. Or if you say wow I can't find a gal they may say hey did ya ever think about talking to so and so. They notice other women's subtle hints and can be a real good affirmation and assurance.
So I would place myself in any opportunity to be noticed and seen by women going to church, single groups and etc. Then let them do the work of preselecting you. Then just talk to other women in your life who you trust. Then let them know hey so and so always sits by me, right next to me or a seat in front or back of me. Or so and so is always so cool to bring me a cup of coffee in singles group. Or so and so always laughs at my jokes even the bad ones. Or so and so I forgot my ink pen once so they keep coming up to me and teasing me did I remember my pen this time.
Can be so many ways they are making it easy for you to talk to them cause they are already interested in you. So talk to other women in your life who can point out the gals who are interested, then start talking to those and get to know them and find the one you really just click with.
As well as you may not even need to ask a female ya trust by just putting yourself in positions to be noticed by gals. Cause I have found time and time again the gals that are interested in you really do make it easy to talk them by giving you opportunities to do so. Just have to notice the hints.
I agree you do want to find someone like minded and shares the same values so you will want to stick to Christian gals. So would put myself in a position of going to church or single Christian groups and etc.
When women are asked what can a guy do to attract a woman, a good portion will answer just be themselves. This is absolute truth. Reason being is women know what men don't. Women as far as initially attraction goes can be attracted to everything from A-Z.
Such as in your case you are a technician, so you show stability. Other women are attracted to a man that has a pet cause that shows responsibility. They conclude if you have a pet you are responsible because after you get off of work you have to go home and let it out and feed and water it. So shows them you are responsible. Women can be attracted to your hands, your eyes, the way you smile, that you are shy, can handle yourself in social gatherings. It really is from A-Z what can initially attract a woman. So be yourself cause fact is if you be yourself they will do all the work of eliminating you are choosing you for a possible partner.
Which now this gets to the two important things in my honest opinion. Pick from the ones who have already predetermined you are what they want to chose. A well as use other women in your life to point them out.
Any woman that is interested in you she will make it easy for you. Cause she has already determined you are worth her time and energy and she wants to get to know you. So they will make it easy for you but as guys we don't pick up on the subtle hints of her showing she is making it easy.
They can come talk to you or stand a couple of people away from when you are talking. Cause they have the ability to be in a conversation a couple people away from you yet hear everything you are saying in your conversation. They are excellent at gathering data that they to use to determine how interested they are in you. They notice a lot of small things that we as men don't ever catch.
So if they are interested they will make it easy for you and place themselves in positions to be noticed by you cause they do want you to come talk to them. Problem is we don't notice these subtle hints. So use the women in your life. A mother a friend, a sister or a cousin.
Those women can really let ya know what gals are picking you. They may say something like I think so and so may like you. Or if you say wow I can't find a gal they may say hey did ya ever think about talking to so and so. They notice other women's subtle hints and can be a real good affirmation and assurance.
So I would place myself in any opportunity to be noticed and seen by women going to church, single groups and etc. Then let them do the work of preselecting you. Then just talk to other women in your life who you trust. Then let them know hey so and so always sits by me, right next to me or a seat in front or back of me. Or so and so is always so cool to bring me a cup of coffee in singles group. Or so and so always laughs at my jokes even the bad ones. Or so and so I forgot my ink pen once so they keep coming up to me and teasing me did I remember my pen this time.
Can be so many ways they are making it easy for you to talk to them cause they are already interested in you. So talk to other women in your life who can point out the gals who are interested, then start talking to those and get to know them and find the one you really just click with.
As well as you may not even need to ask a female ya trust by just putting yourself in positions to be noticed by gals. Cause I have found time and time again the gals that are interested in you really do make it easy to talk them by giving you opportunities to do so. Just have to notice the hints.
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After my divorce in 1984 it wasn't until 2002 that I remarried. Remarried again at age of 59 after the death of my late second wife. I would say that you have a very good chance of finding a partner at your age. I am rather shy too and a bit of an introvert. Having a romantic soul should make it easier to find the woman of your heart's desire. I wish you well in this endeavor. Glad to have you onboard with us. Welcome to CC.
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Mario . . . meet Birdinmypalm. 
Mario, once I started playing congas on the Worship Team at church, I started meeting everyone. If you join in and let them get to know you, you'll be surrounded by friends.
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NO chance at all. None. Zip. Sometimes you just have to face the facts! lol O.k., I'm kidding.
I think Rush Limbaugh said it best, life begins at age 40. By age 40, you know who you are, and you are probably not gonna change to much at this age from a personality perspective. Also, you probably a little better off financially speaking, than compared to where you were at in your 20's.
The bigger question is, why do want a partner? You have gotten this far without one, so why risk your financial, emotional, and mental well being for a sake of a relationship? Marriage has about 50% divorce rate, when woman typically start 80% of the divorces. Things to think about.
One last bit, if you do start a relationship with a woman in her child bearing age, she will most likely want to start a family, so I hope you are ready to have far less personal time, freedom, and disposable money, if that is the case.
With all that said, the best of luck to you in your que$t of a partner.
I think Rush Limbaugh said it best, life begins at age 40. By age 40, you know who you are, and you are probably not gonna change to much at this age from a personality perspective. Also, you probably a little better off financially speaking, than compared to where you were at in your 20's.
The bigger question is, why do want a partner? You have gotten this far without one, so why risk your financial, emotional, and mental well being for a sake of a relationship? Marriage has about 50% divorce rate, when woman typically start 80% of the divorces. Things to think about.
One last bit, if you do start a relationship with a woman in her child bearing age, she will most likely want to start a family, so I hope you are ready to have far less personal time, freedom, and disposable money, if that is the case.
With all that said, the best of luck to you in your que$t of a partner.
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Hey man it all comes down to looks and that's about it if you have had a hard time getting girls when you were younger then the chances look very very slim, contrary to the popular opinion personality,confidence and other invisible traits mean nothing to women. I understand how you feel i am an adult and I've never even had a kiss due to my extremely poor looks. I doubt you are as bad off as me but id try the real world rather than online even though they are the same shyness is a death sentence in dating try get over it i am a shy guy too its hard but you have to really really try.
But in my opinion women are a bit of a distraction most of them are whores with kids with absent fathers, and they themselves are riddled with mental illness.
But in my opinion women are a bit of a distraction most of them are whores with kids with absent fathers, and they themselves are riddled with mental illness.
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