Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42

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Just out of curiosity, are/were your parents happily married for a lifetime? If so, what is/was their secret to a happy, lasting marriage?

And if not, were you raised by your single mother or father?

Or neither?

I'm just interested in what led you to such a broad, sweeping, and extremely negative conclusion.

(By the way, I'm single and don't have any kids. As for my mental state, well, I never hide the fact that I've had a lifelong struggle with depression, so if you count that as being "riddled with mental illness," maybe I still fit into at least one part of your stereotype after all.)
what does my upbringing have to do with this ? anyways my parents were horrible drug addicts that hit me they stuck together for a little while they were never married and my mum was young when she had me.
 
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#42
Are you kidding me? What a hateful thing to say.
Perhaps you haven't quite grasped the concept of Christian Chat.
its not that hateful i never said i hated anyone i just wouldn't feel right telling this guy its all about confidence and personality which is an obvious lie
 
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#43
I'm wondering if this is the pickup line you use with women.

You know, something like, "Hey, you mentally ill whore with kids!!! Why won't you go out with me??? I've never even been kissed... So stop judging me for my extremely poor looks and give a guy a chance, already!!!"

:oops::eek::rolleyes:
i dont beg women to date me i am nothing but polite, even though it doesn't matter ill express my real feelings online.
 

seoulsearch

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what does my upbringing have to do with this ? anyways my parents were horrible drug addicts that hit me they stuck together for a little while they were never married and my mum was young when she had me.
I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Thank you for being honest.

It gives a lot of insight into why you think the way you do.
 

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I think you can find. partner at any age, is no barrier but most countrys laws say you have to be over 18 to marry.
 
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#46
I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Thank you for being honest.

It gives a lot of insight into why you think the way you do.
not really its easy to blame it on my own upbringing and it never did anything to me it was just a gateway to learn about female nature
 

seoulsearch

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not really its easy to blame it on my own upbringing and it never did anything to me it was just a gateway to learn about female nature
Which is exactly why I asked you what I did.

You said you believe most women are mentally ill whores who have kids with absent fathers.

I am sorry that this belief was apparently ingrained upon you from the very beginning, as it sounds like it began with the way you saw your own mother.
 

Lanolin

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i think if you are male or female it doesnt really matter in Christ.
It only seems to matter if you want to have sex. To put it bluntly.
 

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hmm

ok

some women are actually sane and have dads. Yea theres a few that still do.

Though dads might be there, I admit that sometimes they can be absent minded even when sitting across the table from you, going on about cricket scores....as my dad does...
 

Lynx

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its easy to lie and say you like confident guys the truth is you would turn away ugly and or short guys dont lie to me
Yeah, you're gonna be real popular here. :rolleyes:

Get to know people before you call them liars. You don't know anything about her.

She might be like me. Some of the prettiest women I know have homely faces, but beautiful attitudes. She might see guys the same way.
 
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Yeah, you're gonna be real popular here. :rolleyes:

Get to know people before you call them liars. You don't know anything about her.

She might be like me. Some of the prettiest women I know have homely faces, but beautiful attitudes. She might see guys the same way.
you strike me as the type of guy that believes women can do no wrong i wont take your word on anything it doesn't matter if you know gl women with nice personalities
men like you are the problem why defend random women and only women stop being a cuck
 

Lynx

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you strike me as the type of guy that believes women can do no wrong i wont take your word on anything it doesn't matter if you know gl women with nice personalities
men like you are the problem why defend random women and only women stop being a cuck
First time I've ever been called a cuck. I think I'll add it to my achievements on Steam. :cool:

I never said women can do no wrong. But you should get to know individuals, even individual women, before you judge them.

Case in point, you judged me as a cuck and I am no such thing. You don't know who I am because you didn't take any time at all to get to know me. You just blazed in here and started firing random insults at people.
 
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First time I've ever been called a cuck. I think I'll add it to my achievements on Steam. :cool:

I never said women can do no wrong. But you should get to know individuals, even individual women, before you judge them.

Case in point, you judged me as a cuck and I am no such thing. You don't know who I am because you didn't take any time at all to get to know me. You just blazed in here and started firing random insults at people.
i never insulted random people you replied to me i replied back its not random, why would i spend time getting to know people if i dont want to ? lying is an easy thing to do and its used a lot they were obviously lying and I pointed it out.
 

Lynx

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i never insulted random people you replied to me i replied back its not random, why would i spend time getting to know people if i dont want to ? lying is an easy thing to do and its used a lot they were obviously lying and I pointed it out.
Actually they were not lying. Spend some time reading their posts (not just in this thread, in other threads on this forum) and you'd get a better idea of the kind of people they are.

You never insulted random people? You accused them of lying without knowing anything other than they are women. That's an insult. It's random because you don't know anything about those women.

I guess you could claim it wasn't random because it was targeted AT women...
 

Lynx

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its easy to lie and say you like confident guys the truth is you would turn away ugly and or short guys dont lie to me
So about this accusation...

Do you automatically assume she is lying because you believe all women lie?

Or do you automatically assume all women go for men who are tall and handsome, that none of them would EVER value personality over physical appearance, so she must be lying if she claims otherwise?
 
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I guess you could claim it wasn't random because it was targeted AT women...
so its not random its targeted i can provide proof on how women are trashy here are some sources.

Women commit about half of domestic violence. Source: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1359178911000620
Men’s’ and women’s’ brains are wired differently. Source: http://www.uphs.upenn.edu/news/News_Releases/2013/12/verma/
Gender differences in the West are the result of free choices made by innately different men and women. Source: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/faculty/mariacharles/documents/charles_ARS2011.pdf
40% of women with more than 20 sex partners have an STD. Source: http://s3.amazonaws.com/thf_media/2003/pdf/Bookofcharts.pdf#page=19

i can add more
 
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So about this accusation...

Do you automatically assume she is lying because you believe all women lie?

Or do you automatically assume all women go for men who are tall and handsome, that none of them would EVER value personality over physical appearance, so she must be lying if she claims otherwise?
i am saying that its easy to say you value and or would date x y z but in reality it wont happen so its a lie
 

Lynx

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i am saying that its easy to say you value and or would date x y z but in reality it wont happen so its a lie
So you assume she's lying because what she said contradicts what you believe about women. Now we're getting somewhere.

You're wrong. More than half (so, the majority) of the women I know are not like what you think they are like.

If most of the women you know fit what you believe of women, I invite you to move down here to southwest Tennessee. We got plenty room down here. And if most women wherever you are act like you believe they act, you might need to get out of there. :eek: