The 5 ways we like to receive love. POLL!!

[Liamson]

1. Words of Affirmation

If this is your primary love language, the way you receive love that speaks the loudest (no pun intended), then the sincere words “I love you” mean a lot. If you receive a note from someone—a thank-you or words of encouragement, praise or appreciation—this will have a bigger impact on you than if someone tried to express love in one of the other ways.

2. Quality Time

Nothing speaks love to you more than one-on-one, undivided attention. Just being together says that you are loved and appreciated by this person more than any other action ever could.

3. Gifts

Ah-h-h! I love this one. Yes, this is one of my primary ways to receive love. I don’t expect you to spend a lot of money; it really is the thought that counts here. Knowing that someone went out of his or her way to pick something up for me, speaks louder than any of the other basic ways to communicate love.

4. Acts of Service

This is one of my primary ways of expressing love. This can be big or small acts of service—washing someone’s car, preparing a meal when a friend is sick, painting a room together, or helping someone with the moving process. Whether big or small, you can show people you love them by serving them.

5. Physical Touch

This could be a pat on the back or a hug. This is an effective way to communicate that you really care for people of every age: especially babies, children, and the elderly who seem to crave this closeness. Even in the work place an appropriate touch for the person whose primary love language is touch will go a long way.

 

[Liamson]

To every form of shown love there are always those people who don't appreciate each other's languages.

1. (Words of affection) "He says he likes me but, he's kinda all talk, and text, and Voice-mail, and Email."

2. (Quality Time) "He just hangs around like my personal barnacle. I need more ME time and less US time, like FOR REAL."

3. (Gifts) "What do I look like, the Salvation Army gift repository? Are you trying to buy my love?"

4. (Acts of Service) "Quit being such a Martha, all the time flying around making me sandwiches. Are you trying to make me fat?"

5. (Physical Touch) "I'm sorry but I don't have any Morse Code Tattoos anywhere, really, you can believe me."

 

[allforfun]

5. (Physical Touch) "I'm sorry but I don't have any Morse Code Tattoos anywhere, really, you can believe me."

I'm going to bed soon, but thank you for that. I needed a laugh. And my tattoo's thankfully aren't written in Morse Code

I do love this book and I think it can help every dynamic of relationships, not just marriage specifically.

If a man has the oil changed in my car whenever that needs to be done and texts every so often to let me know he's alive? I'm good. I am a pretty simple woman to please.

 

[evelina]

well , i choosed :

1st Acts of service...and .... 2nd Quality Time

i dont trust ppl right aways... so i am probably the kind of person who don't appreciate each others languages
the guy has to show me his love (or prove it ) well thats sounds so *cough*, *cough* lol

well i guess it depense all how long you know him/her !!!

4. (Acts of Service) "Quit being such a Martha, all the time flying around making me sandwiches. Are you trying to make me fat?" (i like this one, made me laugh out loud)

 

[zeroturbulence]

You forgot "All of the above"

 

[seoulsearch]

You forgot "All of the above"

This would definitely be my vote as well... though it's been so long since I've had romantic feelings toward someone, I might need to take a class... "Affection 101"...

 

[rainacorn]

I don't think you really can have 'all of the above.'

All of those things are nice, but the purpose of this is to do a real self assessment and figure out your love language. It will help you communicate with others, giving and receiving love. This is an invaluable asset for anyone in a relationship or that hopes to be in one. My husband and I got a book about this for our wedding and I cannot tell you how useful it's been! I've learned a lot about what I need from him and what he needs from me.

 

[Chennae91]

Numbers 1 & 5.

 

[Jullianna]

I chose quality time and physical touch. I'm independant in many ways and definitely need my quiet time. I can easily feel smothered. But the times when I'm simply alone with the person I love, not having to say anything while just listening to the sound of their voice and being with them in precious moments is what I need. That's intimacy.

Words of affirmation are nice, but I'm more of an actions speak louder than words kinda person.

As far as gifts, things don't mean much to me other than for sentimental reasons, though a handmade gift is a very precious thing because it takes more of a time/emotional investment than slapping down a credit card.

Acts of Service - It seems like most of the men who have been in and out of my life think this is what every woman expects of them. I'm going to be absolutely honest and say that I like to do most things myself because I have OCD leanings, but knowing that guys DO these things because they are trying to make us happy is enough to cause me to smile and say, "Thank you, Baby", followed by a hug.

Great post, Liamson.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I chose quality time and physical touch. I'm independant in many ways and definitely need my quiet time. I can easily feel smothered. But the times when I'm simply alone with the person I love, not having to say anything while just listening to the sound of their voice and being with them in precious moments is what I need. That's intimacy.

Words of affirmation are nice, but I'm more of an actions speak louder than words kinda person.

As far as gifts, things don't mean much to me other than for sentimental reasons, though a handmade gift is a very precious thing because it takes more of a time/emotional investment than slapping down a credit card.

Acts of Service - It seems like most of the men who have been in and out of my life think this is what every woman expects of them. I'm going to be absolutely honest and say that I like to do most things myself because I have OCD leanings, but knowing that guys DO these things because they are trying to make us happy is enough to cause me to smile and say, "Thank you, Baby", followed by a hug.

Great post, Liamson.

When i was younger mine used to be physical touch, however with age i realize i dont like people getting in my personal space, and just like jules said, i can also feel smothered quite easily.

I mean im all for quality time, but then again sometimes i just wanna be left alone, and im not a huge talker. So if we spend a lot of time alone together that means im gonna have to talk, and sometimes i just dont wanna, i just want to sit in front of the t.v. and zone out.

Jules i love what you said here: Words of affirmation are nice, but I'm more of an actions speak louder than words kinda person.

That is me exactly. I dont want to hear anything, unless the person is gonna back it up. If there is one thing i've learned, its that people can talk a lot of crap, but they can rarely prove what there saying.

So i guess that would be words of affirmation and acts of service.

 

[Megatron]

we are a bunch of touchy feely people.

But im one of them. So yeah quality time and touch...

 

[thimsrebma]

I love all kinds of love.

I think there are two sides to this though. What you like to recieve and what you like to give.

What says love to me is when someone wants to spend time with me and physical affirmations like hugs.

The other day a coworker was not feeling well. I checked his temperature, gave him some vitamin C and coddled him a bit. And it felt so good. It felt so good to nurture someone and help them feel better. Sometimes I feel like a childless mommy. I am a natural nurturer with out anyone to nurture. Maybe thats why I foster dogs.

 

[violakat]

2. Quality Time: Nothing speaks love to you more than one-on-one, undivided attention. Just being together says that you are loved and appreciated by this person more than any other action ever could.

I took the love language test before, and mine apparently is quality time, follow distantly by Acts of Service.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I prefer my love medium rare with a side of mashed poatoes and onion rings. Mmmm mmm good!

 

[rainacorn]

I think it's funny that so few people have responded 'gifts.'

You don't feel loved when you get a present from somebody??? It's not my primary love language, but I love it when someone surprises me with a gift. It lets me know they were thinking about me when I wasn't around.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Platnium is the only present that says i love you

Silver says i like you

and quebic zerconian says you suck but my mom made me buy you something

 

[Liz01]

Platnium is the only present that says i love you

Silver says i like you

and quebic zerconian says you suck but my mom made me buy you something

you missed diamonds.....

 

[christiancollegegirl]

Mine have to be quality time and physical touch and if I could pick a third, it would be words of affirmation. I like hugs and kisses and being held. For me, that says that he cares about me and wants to keep me safe and talking on the phone and texting is ok, but not as good as being in the same room together. As far as the others, those are nice but not the most impotant. Sure I like being surprised with a gift every now and then (especially flowers), but it's not a requirement. And a guy doesn't have to do everything for me to prove that he loves me. Saying it and meaning it is fine too.

 

[Liamson]

I guess for me, the words of affirmation is kind of big. I need to be told that they will be there, that they trust me, that they genuinely like me. If I don't, I begin to question their motives.


I want to be with someone that I can't wait to see everyday. If it means doing nothing or saying nothing I'm okay with that. I just sometimes need to exist in the same room and breath the same air. Even if its only for a while, it makes me feel understood and valued.


I don't mind being touched. Especially casually, like if I tell a joke and she is laughing and she touches me, that is really great. Or if she asks me a question and she touches me, that is really great too. Its all about the small stuff. I'm not much of a hugger or a cuddler, I guess you could say I'm a toucher and a brusher.

Gifts can be good too. Depends on the gift though. A mixed CD or a cookbook or Rosetta Stone or a Guitar, makes me feel valued. But if its something generic, like a gift card, I feel more as if I'm an obligation.

Acts of Service can be so many things. I like when people push me to workout with them. I consider that an act of service. I like when people take the time to teach me how to do things, that is really important to me because I'm always learning.

 

[Jullianna]

When a guy begins to open up and tell me what's on his mind or asks what I think about something (and I don't have to ask because he already knows I care), THAT's my affirmation that he trusts me and thinks of me as something other than shiny arm candy.

Silence can be perfect when you're with the right person. And deafening when they're gone.

*perk* Rosetta Stone I was just thinking yesterday about wanting to get french (to brush up) and something new ......something exotic. My french is pretty sad these days...