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seoulsearch

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You are a wise practical lady, Seoulsearch. You know your psychology... if a guy proposes with a 'temp' ring that's a traditional diamond of medium expense, that he can take back to the 'store', with the intention of asking her what she really wants, regarding a ring on a permanent basis, after the proposal... would the vast majority of women get 'counterproductively' emotionally attached or feel obligated to that specific ring? And if so, is that a minor consideration compared to the possible negativity of proposing without a ring?
Hey Sculpt, thanks for the nod to practicality.

I can't take any credit for it, I just grew up in a family that promoted fairness whenever possible. If one of us needed or ask for something, my parents/grandparents would split what they had amongst us or, if someone was in immediate need and they could help, they would then save up to do something of similar value for the others later on.

So to me it just makes sense that if some guy were to spend huge honking amounts on a ring and fancy dinner, I'd need to do something of fairly equal value in return. I'm not into sports, but I always figured if he was, I could do something like get him tickets to a game he'd like to and be able to take his best friend (I would go if he insisted, but sports really aren't my thing.) Just like the ring would depend upon the woman, whatever gift I would get for the man would depend upon his personal tastes, etc.

That's a really good idea about getting a "temp" ring if the couple wanted to save up for something different later on. I can't speak for all women but I would most certainly think the woman would become attached to that ring as well, because it was something special that he took the time and money to get for her. I know all my female friends would definitely value something like that very highly.

Some would even choose just to keep that ring and not want another, and even if they did get another ring, they would still save that first one as something treasured and precious forever.
 
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Godsgirl83

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#84
Now that is impressive....cause that's a BIG ole' jug of gas...:love:
yeah and at the rate gas prices are increasing pretty soon it will be more valuable than some silly ol' ring.
 

stilllearning

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Yep and nothing says I love ya like a half a tank of gas, :unsure:o_O, Right? :p
Oh goodness, I was curious what a perfect date for you maybe. Now I know it is the guy that says hey lets meet up at the Conoco.....LOL
 

1ofthem

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#87
Oh goodness, I was curious what a perfect date for you maybe. Now I know it is the guy that says hey lets meet up at the Conoco.....LOL
LOL….

Normally if anyone asked me what a perfect date would be I’d quote a line from a Will Smith song and say just cruising…”where baby, where baby, I don’t care as long as you take me there…Just Cruising”:giggle:

Now though, I’m like that is way too pricey. That really would be asking a lot of a guy to fork over that kind of gas money…especially if it was only a first date…:p
 

Butterflyyy

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#88
For me...I would want him to take me to the most beautiful beach...all on our own... and on one knee present me with a beautiful diamond ring 😍🥰🤗...lol I had to be honest x
 
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TheIndianGirl

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I would definitely want an engagement ring; the value of the ring should be considered somewhat expensive for the guy to show that he sacrificed. So obviously a guy who makes a lower wage would present a cheaper ring than a person who makes a higher wage. It is the thought that counts, not the ring itself. I personally do not like rings so it would go in the closet after the initial period. Similarly I would not marry a guy who makes a good wage but is cheap. I want to marry a generous person, not a stingy person. It is not about income, but about the person's heart. If a guy truly cannot afford an engagement ring, that is a different story.
 

stilllearning

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#90
LOL….

Normally if anyone asked me what a perfect date would be I’d quote a line from a Will Smith song and say just cruising…”where baby, where baby, I don’t care as long as you take me there…Just Cruising”:giggle:

Now though, I’m like that is way too pricey. That really would be asking a lot of a guy to fork over that kind of gas money…especially if it was only a first date…:p
Hmmmm a hour and a half later and still trying to think of my reply.........LOL
 

1ofthem

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Hmmmm a hour and a half later and still trying to think of my reply.........LOL
I know...

Tell, me about...

I've been sitting here patiently waiting all this time...

And still, ya got nothing...Come on, I know you can do better than that...:rolleyes: :ROFL:

LOL....:p
 

Lanolin

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#92
marriage customs differ round the world
I think it was the Romans who started the whole wedding ring/diamaond tradition which is why I referred to it as 'western'.

I think some people just get their ears or noses pierced but I do know that in the Pacific Islands its the flower over the ear.

I think I prefer the flowers. You need to pick a new one every day though.
 

Lanolin

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#93
I read in the US that their tradtions is you get 'pinned' but not sure if this is like a badge or what.
 
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Godsgirl83

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the only time I've heard of "pinned" is when something is referring to placing or saving on Pinterest
 

Lanolin

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the only time I've heard of "pinned" is when something is referring to placing or saving on Pinterest
apparently was something that college students did in the 1940-50s america

they also called it 'going steady' like it was exclusive dating each other. Dont know if it worked though. The pin was like a tiny badge frat houses had
 

Lanolin

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#97
this article explains it
http://goodguyswag.com/7-characteristics-of-going-steady/

I grew up with hearing 1950s american music all the time and they all sang about stuff like this till was coming out my ears. I blame Dad, had no choice what he played in the car...! mostly sap about foolish teenage relationships, seems everyone was super horny back in the day
 

Lanolin

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#98
1950s songs were super cheesy

My favourite song was

'If I knew you were coming I'd have baked a cake'

Like housewives spent their whole day baking just in case they had visitors. You couldnt just buy a packet of biscuits or order pizza.