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StuartColeman

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Hello everyone I am new on here.
I have a question. Is it wrong to have a photo of my fiance's ex who was murdered on her apartment wall ?
 
StuartColeman said:
Hello everyone I am new on here.
I have a question. Is it wrong to have a photo of my fiance's ex who was murdered on her apartment wall ?
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What does your fiancé say? I don't see how it is wrong however. Glad to have you onboard with us. Welcome to CC.
 
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Nice to meet you there in Ireland and welcome to CC! Although can understand the emotion of having a pic of her ex on the wall, I myself would not be comfortable if I was in your spot. I think it should be part of the past and not a reminder of a sad memory. I pray you both work it out, God bless you!
 
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StuartColeman said:
Hello everyone I am new on here.
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Hello! A warn welcome to CC, brother Stuwart. :):coffee:

StuartColeman said:
I have a question. Is it wrong to have a photo of my fiance's ex who was murdered on her apartment wall ?
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I think it is nice that she still loves Him.
How would you like her to have remembered you if you had been the murdered husband?
She sounds like the kind who will be just as faithful and loving to you if you should decide to marry.
 
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oyster67 said:
Hello! A warn welcome to CC, brother Stuwart. :):coffee:


I think it is nice that she still loves Him.
How would you like her to have remembered you if you had been the murdered husband?
She sounds like the kind who will be just as faithful and loving to you if you should decide to marry.
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Thanks for your reply. The thing is he was a very bad person who did evil things, it kinda freaks me out. I am only new to Christianity since October 2020 but something in me says it's wrong for his reminder to be there.
I dunno how to as approach this?
 
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Thanks for your reply. The thing is he was a very bad person who did evil things, it kinda freaks me out. I am only new to Christianity since October 2020 but something in me says it's wrong for his reminder to be there.
I dunno how to as approach this?
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Say that to her then.

Communication is important. Pray together. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Don't get married until you feel comfortable doing this.
I will pray also.
God bless you, much beloved brother.
 
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oyster67 said:
Say that to her then.

Communication is important. Pray together. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Don't get married until you feel comfortable doing this.
I will pray also.
God bless you, much beloved brother.
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Thank you brother
I've been thinking about it the past few weeks and I will say it to her. I do pray daily but not about this matter.
God has delivered me from so much in the past 2 years so I will put my trust in Him to help me how to deal with this. I am so glad I was directed here by the Holy Spirit.
God truly bless you this day.
Stuart
 
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Thank you brother
I've been thinking about it the past few weeks and I will say it to her. I do pray daily but not about this matter.
God has delivered me from so much in the past 2 years so I will put my trust in Him to help me how to deal with this. I am so glad I was directed here by the Holy Spirit.
God truly bless you this day.
Stuart
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He was a part of her life. She can't surgically remove him from her life. She wouldn't be who she is without her relationship with him. And where she tells you all the bad stuff about him...she isn't exactly telling you what she found attractive about him.

And if I was you I would ask.

Because women aren't direct.

A guy I know has learned how to fly airplanes. From what I've heard he actually is a very good pilot. His wife found an excuse and refuses to fly with him. Because he had an affair. It's her way of saying that she doesn't trust him without saying exactly that.

Women are not direct with messages...but they say them thinking that they work. Guys tend to be clueless.
 
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It makes me think of how much higher God is than us little crud balls He gave His only begotten Son for. Try to forgive that dead man his trespasses just as God has forgiven us.

Matthew
6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
 
Thanks for all your guidance and support. Problem solved. I asked her if it was ok to take it down and she agreed. She said she didn't like looking at it anyway.
She's going to give it to her son.
Communication is key in all relationships, I know this I just didn't know how to approach this matter.
Thanks again everyone.
StuyC
 
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