hm well. No arguments meant. But in conclusion, the mentality of a true follower of Christ should be pretty flexible to possibilities. Sometimes things won't go our way, and we shouldn't be wishing them to. We should always just seek for them to go God's way, meaning that in everything we did He was glorified. After all, the only things we were really promised is that we have been forgiven of our sins, we will be with Him for all eternity, and lastly that He has good works prepared for us before the foundation of time that we would walk in them. Tomorrow is not promised for anyone so why stress about it. Personally, I want my mentality of the now to stay focused on just obeying, serving, following, and trusting God. Anything that goes the opposite direction of those will just make it harder for Him to use me.
Is Being Single Tougher For Guys Than For Girls?
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Just wanted to add a caveat to my earlier statement that IN GENERAL being single is worse for women than for men... that being that for men there can be ongoing brutality that when you are a man if you don't figure it out for yourself you can be single for a very long time. I don't think it is so much about support but the simple reality that men are the chasers and women the chasees. You can be a great looking guy, charming, have good job prospects, and what not and still be relegated to a life of singledom because you just don't get the idea of how to chase women. Meanwhile, even ugly girls get hit on in bars.
I keep forgetting there are some really hurt and depressed people on here because somehow my own mindset reached some strange equilibrium of not caring about anything years ago. If my younger self could have seen what I would become he would have been so angry he'd have blown his brains out. Yet here I be wondering sometimes if this isn't the absolute best times of my life. Don't have a single female prospect anywhere in my life, pretty sure if I did I would rank as a perfect zero to her anyhow given female wish lists and yet it all doesn't really matter. In fact I'll end this post with a ponder--- why is it exactly that all of the women out there so dedicated to finding a man in their lives just sit there completely passively letting great guys progress into complete non-catches like I became???
I keep forgetting there are some really hurt and depressed people on here because somehow my own mindset reached some strange equilibrium of not caring about anything years ago. If my younger self could have seen what I would become he would have been so angry he'd have blown his brains out. Yet here I be wondering sometimes if this isn't the absolute best times of my life. Don't have a single female prospect anywhere in my life, pretty sure if I did I would rank as a perfect zero to her anyhow given female wish lists and yet it all doesn't really matter. In fact I'll end this post with a ponder--- why is it exactly that all of the women out there so dedicated to finding a man in their lives just sit there completely passively letting great guys progress into complete non-catches like I became???
well I can't speak for anyone else, but I've found that its easy to forget I'm alone and not even think about it when I don't have everyone and everything around me harping on about relationships and sex. Which means in this day and age, its like torture.
You get to hear about all the great and wonderful things it looks like you will never have. there are days when I'd like nothing more than to punch someones head in just to make them shut up. now as for whether its tougher on guys than girls I can' really speak to that.
You get to hear about all the great and wonderful things it looks like you will never have. there are days when I'd like nothing more than to punch someones head in just to make them shut up. now as for whether its tougher on guys than girls I can' really speak to that.
Really? That's how you see it? I can come across the most beautiful woman and my mind wraps around the facts that despite her feminine wiles inevitably she will just burden me with trips to the mall, dinners with her unlikable parents and friends, and if long term the shackles of kids, financial servitude, and her ever expanding butt and other effects of gravity.
I think you're supposed to get married when you're young and dumb and definitely before you come across seeing an old crush drooping around with a stack of kids or start meeting the girls who think it a right to commit themselves to bar hopping whoredom until they see the first sign of aging and then think it a "responsibility" of the type of guy not into one night stands to slap a ring on their finger and let them drain you like modern day vampires.
I think you're supposed to get married when you're young and dumb and definitely before you come across seeing an old crush drooping around with a stack of kids or start meeting the girls who think it a right to commit themselves to bar hopping whoredom until they see the first sign of aging and then think it a "responsibility" of the type of guy not into one night stands to slap a ring on their finger and let them drain you like modern day vampires.
well I'm sorry that is the type of relationships you have seen. I'm not denying that that sort of woman is out there, but I've seen enough women who aren't like that to have some hope. If there's one there's bound to be more.
yeah I keep hearing guys going on about how great it is to have kids and so on. they do admit that its alot of work and a great deal of frustration at times, but everytime I hear them speak about their children it makes me realize that unless something changes soon, I'm not going to ever find out for myself the joy of holding your own child for the first time. That sort of thing.
yeah I keep hearing guys going on about how great it is to have kids and so on. they do admit that its alot of work and a great deal of frustration at times, but everytime I hear them speak about their children it makes me realize that unless something changes soon, I'm not going to ever find out for myself the joy of holding your own child for the first time. That sort of thing.
J
Again with the donuts!!!! 
(grabbing that raspberry filled before Viola gets it)
I don't really know that one gender is more lonely than another, unless we take into consideration that there are probably more women in the world than men, so... I think it would be people of whatever gender who are either at the stage of their lives when they really want a family or who have difficulty dating who might tend to be more lonely than those who are content with the lives they have, whether they have a bf/gf or not.
But after reading some posts, I'm thinking I'd better get a move on before gravity has its way with me! haha Maybe I should re-think the donut and go work out some more.
(grabbing that raspberry filled before Viola gets it)I don't really know that one gender is more lonely than another, unless we take into consideration that there are probably more women in the world than men, so... I think it would be people of whatever gender who are either at the stage of their lives when they really want a family or who have difficulty dating who might tend to be more lonely than those who are content with the lives they have, whether they have a bf/gf or not.
But after reading some posts, I'm thinking I'd better get a move on before gravity has its way with me! haha Maybe I should re-think the donut and go work out some more.
V
Again with the donuts!!!! (grabbing that raspberry filled before Viola gets it)
I don't really know that one gender is more lonely than another, unless we take into consideration that there are probably more women in the world than men, so... I think it would be people of whatever gender who are either at the stage of their lives when they really want a family or who have difficulty dating who might tend to be more lonely than those who are content with the lives they have, whether they have a bf/gf or not.
But after reading some posts, I'm thinking I'd better get a move on before gravity has its way with me! haha Maybe I should re-think the donut and go work out some more.
(grabbing that raspberry filled before Viola gets it)I don't really know that one gender is more lonely than another, unless we take into consideration that there are probably more women in the world than men, so... I think it would be people of whatever gender who are either at the stage of their lives when they really want a family or who have difficulty dating who might tend to be more lonely than those who are content with the lives they have, whether they have a bf/gf or not.
But after reading some posts, I'm thinking I'd better get a move on before gravity has its way with me! haha Maybe I should re-think the donut and go work out some more.
T
who says being attracted to women is walking in flesh?? do you even know what walking in flesh is?
my answer is: it depends on if the person had a relationship before, if he/she did, than is tough. If it went as far as to having sexual relationships then it would be close to impossible...nothing is impossible to God though
my answer is: it depends on if the person had a relationship before, if he/she did, than is tough. If it went as far as to having sexual relationships then it would be close to impossible...nothing is impossible to God though
It is not the attracting part of it. Man should naturally be attracted to women. It is the part where you make it a burden on yourself. An unnecessary longing that can become emotionally destructive, to the point where it hurts you to be alone and you become discontent in the state that you are. THAT is a sin.
I never said I was ugly. I said I was a complete zero. There is a big difference. I think I could be a great bar guy, but marrying stock? haha.... that was taken care of years ago. I think its actually great that myself and your gender have mutual animosities towards anything long term between us. Just waiting for God to give me a special one night stand pass since its clearly the situation he's desgined me for.
You have designed your mind by your experience and opinion to think that way. Every human being has the potential to do anything, including changing their attitudes towards anything, change their behavior, and change their ideas. Not all are called to be married, but God will by no means call you to have a one night stand. Not you, not anyone else. I don't know where you get that from.