Are people who are dating single?

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Lanolin

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One earring means gay or been around the world
two earrings means you a slave to someone
four earrings means you are rich and love jewellery so probably dont need any more

no earrings means you either dont like jewellery or nobody rich loves you.

otherwise, why are people even caring about stuff like this? Put your good works on display, not your silverware.
 

JesusLives

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The word 'single' is a 'marital status' term that literally means 'never married' or 'uncoupled'.

Therefore:

1) Until a person is married, they are single.

2) After a person marries, they are never 'single' again. They may be separated, divorced, or widowed - but, never again 'single'.

Some people like to use the word 'single' to mean 'unmarried' - allowing for them to think of someone who is unmarried as being 'single'. this is technically correct, and causes confusion - but, people insist upon using the term that way anyway.

Again - 'single' is a 'marital status' term. It is a different usage than 'available', 'dating', etc.

In the context of 'marital status', once you are 'coupled' you cannot be considered as 'uncoupled'.
So if I am not single again after a divorce does that mean I can still claim two on my tax return? Asking for a friend.
 

Lanolin

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your friend needs to sort out his or her own tax, ideally.
Tax really depends on your income, not whether you are single or married. This is why most people hate tax collectors.
 

GaryA

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#44
Its between me and God and the person I invite into my life :)
'tis true...

However, it may also have an affect on others - especially those who look up to you.

Who are you teaching that it is 'okay' to disregard the ways of God to have what you want?
 

GaryA

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#45
Are people who are dating single? 🤔 For me ... Yes and no 😊


Yes they are still single , because they are not married yet.


No, because I don't date more than 1 man at the same time...I exclusively date one person at a time. If it didn't work out that's the only time I'll date again... I'll commit myself to you if it doesn't work out..then you know bye and thank you 😊


So, if someone will ask me about my relationship status, for example,if I am Single and currently dating my answer will be...


"Yes, I am single but I am taken, meaning I am exclusively dating someone with a hope of marrying him someday and spend the rest of my life with him " 😊
Again - 'single' and 'available' are two different things - whether 'available' or 'unavailable' - you are 'single' if you have yet to be married.

You can be 'single' and 'available' or you can be 'single' and 'unavailable'. In either case, you are still 'single'.

So - what you say is correct: "single but taken"

That is the correct way to say it. (y)
 

GaryA

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#46
People (society) have confused and conflated 'single' (as a marital status) and "not dating anyone right now"...
 

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your friend needs to sort out his or her own tax, ideally.
Tax really depends on your income, not whether you are single or married. This is why most people hate tax collectors.
That may be the case in NZ, but in the US or at least in NY, and several other states, your marital status can affect your taxes. Married people (especially with kids) pay markedly less tax proportionally.
 

GaryA

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Nobody, I suppose - but, that is beside the point. Reality is honest.

If you asked someone about their marital status, would you want them to hide 'separated' or 'divorced' behind the word 'single'?

People need to own up to the truth about their marital status - to not do so is deception.
Interesting assumptions you make. Deception? The devil's game?

In a court of law you would be required to provide proof of intent to deceive. Can you prove that a divorced person who calls himself "single" is doing so in an effort to deceive someone?

Do you assume the divorced person intends to hide a past marriage right up until he is married again, or just until he has a dating relationship? Either way, how would you prove this intent?

(Mind you, I don't have any skin in this game. I've never even been on a date. But I think your assumptions are rather odd and I'm interested in how you will back them up.)
I think you may have misunderstood the intent of my post above.

Whether actually intentional or not - a 'separated' or 'divorced' marital status is hidden by the word 'single' - and, it is deception.

This "ought not be" according to the will and ways of God.

Honesty should rule in [all of] our communications.

Clear communications make for a clear conscience - and, never having to say "But, I thought..." or having questions and doubts arise concerning disloyalty or [even] duplicity.
 

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Whether actually intentional or not - a 'separated' or 'divorced' marital status is hidden by the word 'single' - and, it is deception.
Have you ever considered that whether or not someone is divorced or widowed is not really anyone else's business? Unless you're getting involved with that person, why would you need to know- unless you want to smack people with the pre-conceived ideas about divorced/widowed people?
 

GaryA

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The devil's game?
My reference to "the devil's game" is talking about "the game that the devil plays" - meaning - the things he does to try to get us to do things his way and not God's way.

For us to "play" or "take part in" [what I am calling] "the devil's game" means that we are "going along with" the devil (whether we realize it or not) - that we are doing things his way instead of God's way - that we have allowed him to deceive us into thinking something is completely harmless when in reality it is not, for example.
 

GaryA

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#51
I think Garys defintion is workable
Thank you but it is not my definition - it is the accepted definition of 'yesteryear' before Satan changed the use of it into what is carelessly used today.
 

Lanolin

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That may be the case in NZ, but in the US or at least in NY, and several other states, your marital status can affect your taxes. Married people (especially with kids) pay markedly less tax proportionally.
still depends on your income.
and how much property you own. In nz you dont need to be married to own property. If your name isnt on the title though, techinically you dont own it and dont have to pay taxes on something you dont own.

insurance though is another matter.
also, just because you may pay less tax doesnt mean other costs dont add up for other things.

In NZ we have GST and everyone pays that whenever you buy something. Doesnt matter if you are married, single, or a child paying for something with pocket money.
 

Lanolin

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GST -- Goods and Services Tax

usually 15 Percent
 

Lanolin

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Thank you but it is not my definition - it is the accepted definition of 'yesteryear' before Satan changed the use of it into what is carelessly used today.
its like 'friend' before advent of facebook

I now have no 'friends' because Im not on facebook lol
 

GaryA

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#55
Too many labels in this world. Take away most of the labels and you get back to the person.
Is he a divorced man or is he looking for someone special and his former marriage is something that doesnt define him.
Is she separated or is she open to finding love and wants to move from a relationship that had irreconcilable differences?
He is divorced - his marital status. She is separated - her marital status.

Don't you see how Satan's effort to "totally screw up" your thinking has had great success? You now confuse marital status with the intent and worth of a person.

If you would accept the definition as it really is - the only thing it would say about a person is their 'marital status'. (Talk about simplicity!)

Instead, all of this other 'crap' has become "attached" to the word 'single' and has totally confused the thing...

Do you see just how much of a master of deceit Satan really is...???

If you want less labels - accept the one true meaning of the word 'single' (in the context of 'marital status') and there is instantly less/no confusion.

It really is that simple.
 

Lanolin

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In the Bible it just talks about married and unmarried
also talks about virgins and widows

whether you got along with your spouse or not was between you and your spouse, even if you got separated, you would still be married to them unless you or they died, or got a divorce, which is a ketuba or official document saying that that spouse is dead to you. They then dont have to live with you and can be kicked out or whatever.,,usually in those instances they went back to live with their parents. Then you could marry someone else, or, what usually happened was the men wouldnt do that they would just take another concubine.
 

Lanolin

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actually the ketubah is like a prenup. If the marriage doesnt work out the husband can pay the wife in compensation (for his being horrible to live with? I dunno)
 

GaryA

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Before I say anything else in this thread, I want to try to make sure you understand what I am saying and what am not saying...

When playing a tennis match - you may have a 'singles' match or a 'doubles' match.

The use of 'singles' and 'doubles' in this context refer to how many players are on a team.

The word 'single' in this context has nothing whatsoever to do with the martial status of any player.

In the context of the thread topic and discussion, the word 'single' in my discussion of the topic is with specific regard to marital status and nothing else.

I am not trying to judge anyone by saying "single means single"; rather, I am only making a statement of fact about "what is" - believe it or not.

Anything else is-or-may-be judged in its own context.
 

Lanolin

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married people can date each other, so..its not like thats not allowed or they dont do that.

I have not heard of single people dating themselves usually they date other people. there is also double dating.

and group dates and play dates,...so it depends, I think if you have enough money you can organise as many dates as you want if you are paying for it! (also you would have a pretty full social calendar)
 

GaryA

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So if I am not single again after a divorce does that mean I can still claim two on my tax return? Asking for a friend.
You are "not single again" the moment you are first married.

Is it not true that what decides that on a tax return is whether or not your marital status is 'married' rather than whether or not your marital status is 'single'?

Did it occur to you when you decided to ask this question that the governmental tax agency you refer to is "all in" to playing "the devil's game"...??? (Just wondering.)