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I would never want to be the one to decide. I could never have peace being in a situation that was not completely of the Lord's careful planning and making. I would never seek a divorce. I would always blame myself for not seeking God's perfect will.
Psalms 127:1
“Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.”
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Psalms 127:1
“Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.”
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Paul was telling them not to be deceived into thinking it was ok to commit fornication with temple prostitutes.
And he extends the point to any other kind of fleshly lusts that they used to do before they got saved but they don't do anymore.
He is reminding them that if they listen to these deceivers and practice fornication with the temple prostitutes they will not inherit the kingdom of heaven.
He is discussing "what if they did that and then they repented and planned to never do it again." He is not saying that they won't be restored. That is not even the point.
He is saying if they live in the deception that they can do these things (not repent) and still be saved they will not be.
And I am glad it is in the Bible because God knew we would be dealing with this lie as we do today.
If you ask two young people who claim to be Christian why they are living together in fornication they will say that it is not fornication and they will give you their various reasons why. If you ask them if they think they are still saved they will give you a teaching that was told them using scriptures misapplied as to why they believe they are still going to inherit the kingdom of heaven.
If you ask someone who claims to be a Christian who was sober for years after getting saved and then started drinking again why they drink a 12 pack of beer on Saturday they will tell you an unconvincing reason why they don't get drunk and therefore are not guilty of being a drunkard.
What is all this? DECEPTION. So Paul inspired by the Holy Spirit told the Corinthians and all other churches and believers that would come after that "BROTHERS don't be deceived" because those who fall to this deception and stay in it will wake up in hell with eternal regret.
There is no one telling Christians who fall into a sin that they can't be saved, or can't find true repentance and restoration. That is not any kind of wide spread deception we are having to combat today.
We are combating the same lie that Paul did today. Everywhere people are saying "I can't be lost" while fornicating and getting drunk among other things. This is the same deception Paul combated and we can use this same scripture to help the deceived or those about to fall to stop themselves and not indulge in the old sins thinking that "after all, I can't be lost"
I realize that it is very likely that many who do this are not saved yet. But I also know that many who are saved are under attack to indulge and telling them that it is no big deal is not what Paul said. He said DON"T BE DECEIVE, if you do these things you will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Which is a must better word of advice to give people.
My version "you might wake up in hell with eternal regret" because you were lying to yourself thinking God would overlook willful presumption when all the while the Word is clear on this matter. BE NOT DECEIVED.
And he extends the point to any other kind of fleshly lusts that they used to do before they got saved but they don't do anymore.
He is reminding them that if they listen to these deceivers and practice fornication with the temple prostitutes they will not inherit the kingdom of heaven.
He is discussing "what if they did that and then they repented and planned to never do it again." He is not saying that they won't be restored. That is not even the point.
He is saying if they live in the deception that they can do these things (not repent) and still be saved they will not be.
And I am glad it is in the Bible because God knew we would be dealing with this lie as we do today.
If you ask two young people who claim to be Christian why they are living together in fornication they will say that it is not fornication and they will give you their various reasons why. If you ask them if they think they are still saved they will give you a teaching that was told them using scriptures misapplied as to why they believe they are still going to inherit the kingdom of heaven.
If you ask someone who claims to be a Christian who was sober for years after getting saved and then started drinking again why they drink a 12 pack of beer on Saturday they will tell you an unconvincing reason why they don't get drunk and therefore are not guilty of being a drunkard.
What is all this? DECEPTION. So Paul inspired by the Holy Spirit told the Corinthians and all other churches and believers that would come after that "BROTHERS don't be deceived" because those who fall to this deception and stay in it will wake up in hell with eternal regret.
There is no one telling Christians who fall into a sin that they can't be saved, or can't find true repentance and restoration. That is not any kind of wide spread deception we are having to combat today.
We are combating the same lie that Paul did today. Everywhere people are saying "I can't be lost" while fornicating and getting drunk among other things. This is the same deception Paul combated and we can use this same scripture to help the deceived or those about to fall to stop themselves and not indulge in the old sins thinking that "after all, I can't be lost"
I realize that it is very likely that many who do this are not saved yet. But I also know that many who are saved are under attack to indulge and telling them that it is no big deal is not what Paul said. He said DON"T BE DECEIVE, if you do these things you will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. Which is a must better word of advice to give people.
My version "you might wake up in hell with eternal regret" because you were lying to yourself thinking God would overlook willful presumption when all the while the Word is clear on this matter. BE NOT DECEIVED.
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Paul was very clear on this, they way to avoid it is to get married young. Your desires for bonding are much stronger when you're young, in your 20's. That is why in Jesus time people got married in their teens. It wasn't because their life times were shorter. Paul is very clear, it's control the sex drive.
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Don't believe the lie that people in the time of Jesus got married young because they didn't live that long. Paul did not advise people to marry because they might die soon. He told them "It is better to marry than to burn" He was very clear you marry to stop the fornication. Will it work in every case? Of course not. But it will make a difference to most.
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• Gen 2:18 . .The Lord God said: It's not good for Adam to be solitary; I will
make a fitting helper for him.
The Hebrew word translated "helper" is from 'ezer (ay'-zer) which means:
aid.
Note that aid isn't spelled with an "e" as in aide; so that Eve wasn't meant to
be the man's Girl Friday, rather; someone to strengthen him. In other
words: woman's true role is a supporting role rather than a leading role; i.e.
domineering women are out of sync with humanity's creator. The same goes
for masculine women-- so called strong women.
In making a statement like Gen 2:18; God made it very clear right from the
beginning that human beings were not intended to live a celibate life. If male
human life was packaged in a box of software, one of its system
requirements would be Female Companion.
Woman's potential for companionship is the primary reason that God made
her— not for her sensual appeal nor for her reproductive value; no, for a
man's companionship; which is commonly expressed by cordiality,
friendliness, friendship, goodwill, kindness, civility, concord, harmony,
rapport, charity, generosity, compassion, empathy, sympathy, chumminess,
intimacy, affection, devotion, loyalty, fondness, and love.
From all that, I think we can safely conclude that a woman who tears her
man down instead of building him up is a broken woman; i.e. maladjusted.
* In Dr. Laura's book "Ten Stupid Things That Men Do To Mess Up Their
Lives" she lists trying to fix a broken woman. Well; if the girl that a guy is
thinking about marrying needs repairs, then I strongly suggest that he keep
looking, i.e. get out now; while he still can.
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• Gen 2:18 . .The Lord God said: It's not good for Adam to be solitary; I will
make a fitting helper for him.
The Hebrew word translated "helper" is from 'ezer (ay'-zer) which means:
aid.
Note that aid isn't spelled with an "e" as in aide; so that Eve wasn't meant to
be the man's Girl Friday, rather; someone to strengthen him. In other
words: woman's true role is a supporting role rather than a leading role; i.e.
domineering women are out of sync with humanity's creator. The same goes
for masculine women-- so called strong women.
In making a statement like Gen 2:18; God made it very clear right from the
beginning that human beings were not intended to live a celibate life. If male
human life was packaged in a box of software, one of its system
requirements would be Female Companion.
Woman's potential for companionship is the primary reason that God made
her— not for her sensual appeal nor for her reproductive value; no, for a
man's companionship; which is commonly expressed by cordiality,
friendliness, friendship, goodwill, kindness, civility, concord, harmony,
rapport, charity, generosity, compassion, empathy, sympathy, chumminess,
intimacy, affection, devotion, loyalty, fondness, and love.
From all that, I think we can safely conclude that a woman who tears her
man down instead of building him up is a broken woman; i.e. maladjusted.
* In Dr. Laura's book "Ten Stupid Things That Men Do To Mess Up Their
Lives" she lists trying to fix a broken woman. Well; if the girl that a guy is
thinking about marrying needs repairs, then I strongly suggest that he keep
looking, i.e. get out now; while he still can.
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First Corinthians 7:8–9 says, “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” Paul addresses the distinction between the married and the unmarried and states that sexual fulfillment is a primary reason for marriage: “Now for the matters you wrote about: ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.’ But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.” Marriage is God’s plan for the fulfilment of sexual desires, and any sexual expression outside of marriage is sin
not sure what the problem is.
are you not advising couples to marry in your church, I think for many, marriage is too expensive and that is why they fornicate. (used to be called living in sin) although christians would probably just fornicate with one person only, not several.
Not sure what the solution may be other than make it easier for couples to marry each other? Or at least get their own room/bed
are you not advising couples to marry in your church, I think for many, marriage is too expensive and that is why they fornicate. (used to be called living in sin) although christians would probably just fornicate with one person only, not several.
Not sure what the solution may be other than make it easier for couples to marry each other? Or at least get their own room/bed
Have you noticed it's mostly married people pushing the dating rules on singles. They pust rules they never followed. They're married, enjoying each other, yet telling singles YOU have to stay pure. No touching, no one on one dating. They talk about putting Jesus first, when you're single. I tell them, I guess Jesus wasn't enough for you, you got married.
do they?
I dont know, maybe its only in america. How old do you need to be married in the US? Girls usually statrt menstruating round 9-14 years old. So they can start having babies then but its not advisable. Boys into men sort of develop around 13 years old.
You want these young adults marrying as soon as they start fornicating?
I dont know, maybe its only in america. How old do you need to be married in the US? Girls usually statrt menstruating round 9-14 years old. So they can start having babies then but its not advisable. Boys into men sort of develop around 13 years old.
You want these young adults marrying as soon as they start fornicating?
Absolutely, by all means take advantage of any resources available. Actually, the process of getting married is only as expensive as you allow it to be. The real expense is setting up the household. Even if you decide to forego the marriage and live together instead you will still have the same expenses. Without commitment the relationship will probably eventually deteriorate leaving broken lives in the process. By commitment, I mean a life-long commitment. Do not enter into a marriage with the idea that you can simply get a divorce if things don't work out.
Initially or if you are a teen, but a relationship must develope so after a few dates with friends you have alone dates. I don't recommend movies because you don't talk, but dinner, hobbies, festivals (like ren fest) those carnivals with the ferris wheels and such. Do the things she or he likes to do. Its gonna get rough if she dont like fishing but you do. Or horses or what ever.
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