There’s some historic rules around that CC is not a dating site - yet we know many successful couples met on here.
It brings me to think and ask what is holding one back from getting to know each other?
Then I have another question, do some of the women here expect to be courted by a man? Are they waiting for them to make the move? Or for the men, are you too shy or timid to speak up and tell her? Are you scared of rejection?
This is my third time through here, and, off the top of my head, I'd say that there have probably only been three (maybe four) women who I've encountered here that I was ever truly attracted to or truly interested in.
In every case, I waited to see if the woman was similarly attracted to me before "making my move"...although I really don't like that terminology. I'd rather say "before showing her a side of me that others here haven't seen".
It's definitely not a matter of timidity or fear of rejection with me. Instead, I truly am a respectful gentleman when it comes to such matters, and I also totally believe in mutual consent or desire. In other words, if I don't sense that someone likes me, then I'll just suppress any feelings for them that I might have rather than to potentially put any unwanted pressure on them or to somehow make them feel uncomfortable.
I came close to meeting one woman here in person, but we ultimately decided against that. She and I are still friends.
With another, the more that I learned about her, the more my interest in her dwindled. In other words, I perceived that she wasn't really who I initially thought she was.
With the last one, there were different variables involved, but the biggest was that she didn't communicate effectively enough to me. I didn't know how to take that, so I just backed away completely. This last one makes me sad because I would have liked to retain her as a friend for life.
Anyhow, the woman here that I'm the closest to is a totally platonic friend. She's married, but I think the world of her (in a respectful way and not in a coveting my neighbor's wife sort of way).
That's about all I've got to say except that life is short.
If you're interested in somebody here, then let them know somehow.
There's nothing worse than regrets or one of those "What if...?" types of lives.
You've got to be in it to win it...
and some are just too shy to do the first move. In our culture although there are women in my country nowadays who are not shy to ask men ... in our culture asking a man for a date is frowned upon...but for me I am not against it. I just can't do it and never will lol unless we are married already ☺
