How do you reconcile these verse

[JohnB]

People make the choice and when they get married ( the ceremony ) God joins them together..

So two people decide to get married and come to God and then God joins them together.. The actual joining together does not happen until the marriage has taken place and God does that..

And if it's a horrible match?

 

[Cameron143]

And if it's a horrible match?

That's what dating is for...to get to know the other person. Better get a good application and use dating as an interview process.
Once you are married it's too late.

 

[Dino246]

Just because someone is a Christian does not mean you are equally yoked.

Please explain what you mean by that.

 

[JohnB]

Please explain what you mean by that.

Two Christians meet, one is very neat and clean, spends their money wisely and works. The other is lazy, dirty and spends every penny they get. I doubt this union would last. They are both believers, just have different habits. Habits matter.

 

[Cameron143]

Two Christians meet, one is very neat and clean, spends their money wisely and works. The other is lazy, dirty and spends every penny they get. I doubt this union would last. They are both believers, just have different habits. Habits matter.

While in the broadest sense of being unequally yoked you are right, Paul says do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers. Your use is concerning compatibility; his was dealing with moral equivalence.

 

[2ndTimothyGroup]

Proverbs 31: 30

I dont' say this often, but Amen! I'd sure like to find a female partner that Truly fears the Lord. I would serve her with gladness in my heart.

 

[Magenta]

I dont' say this often, but Amen! I'd sure like to find a female partner that Truly fears the Lord. I would serve her with gladness in my heart.

I designed that by request for Godsgirl83, who is no longer a member here...

She used it as her auto-siggy for a while

 

[JohnB]

While in the broadest sense of being unequally yoked you are right, Paul says do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers. Your use is concerning compatibility; his was dealing with moral equivalence.

Unfortunately some Christians think as long as you're both Christians nothing else matters.

 

[Cameron143]

Unfortunately some Christians think as long as you're both Christians nothing else matters.

I wouldn't put alot of stock in other people's preferences or ideas unless you know them well and trust their judgment. You are the one who has to look across the pillow each day. You know what you desire so just ask God for that. Just remember, God knows what truly is best for you so if you do find a mate and they aren't exactly what you thought, see that as still part of God's goodness and falls within His plans to prosper you. I wish you all the best.

 

[Inquisitor]

I agree, you do decide, but once you make that decision and get married, GOD has joined you....for better or for worse. I can fine that troubling. No matter how good things look at the beginning, it could end up being horrible. I don't like the idea of being single, but I have seen Christians who have gotten married and said it was the worst mistake they ever made. They were far worse off than me. Marriage can seem like a crap shoot.

I asked a lot of men whether they would marry again after their divorce. Nearly all said never again. I think one from memory got married again.

My entire family and all my relatives bar one couple, were all separated or divorced.

A common complaint I heard was that the woman they married had changed over time. She was not the woman I married.

In your twenties is it possible to really know the person that you intend to marry?

I suspect that many men get married for other reasons.

 

[TM19782017]

But who they married was a choice. Yet Jesus said "What GOD has joined together lit no man tear apart"

Very true but, does the reader believe God already wrote the destiny before they were born OR, the destiny is in the process of being joined together?

 

[Inquisitor]

Unfortunately some Christians think as long as you're both Christians nothing else matters.

Not sure if that idea works over a twenty or thirty year marriage.

In my observations, I don't think the women are the problem, they are relationship orientated. That is by design.

I place all the blame on the men.

 

[Inquisitor]

Two Christians meet, one is very neat and clean, spends their money wisely and works. The other is lazy, dirty and spends every penny they get. I doubt this union would last. They are both believers, just have different habits. Habits matter.

There is another level of complexity.

Personality traits.

Some personality types are not compatible and some others are more compatible.

Some men have to get married and some men should never marry.

Then there are those men in the middle, the ones that have to make that choice.

 

[Adstar]

And if it's a horrible match?

No match between a man and a woman is perfect because unfortunatly we humans are not perfect.. Though i know there are some woman walking around who think they are...