Politely saying 'no'
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On a more serious note, there's a lot of difference between a stalker and someone who is simply being persistent about their interest in you, like the article was about. The article was pretty good about dealing with boundaries and such. There were good points to consider.
I think that it's important to learn the difference as well as the justification for the force continuum. I've heard too many well meaning people go way overboard on the issue. On the other extreme, I've advised those who were on jeapardy of life, who received threats from, let's just say, powerful people of means and motives. Proper evaluation, distinction and the proper training for appropriate defensive measures are key.
I think that it's important to learn the difference as well as the justification for the force continuum. I've heard too many well meaning people go way overboard on the issue. On the other extreme, I've advised those who were on jeapardy of life, who received threats from, let's just say, powerful people of means and motives. Proper evaluation, distinction and the proper training for appropriate defensive measures are key.
Really do you speak from experience it can often feel like the same thing esp if the stalker thinks hes prince charming or whatever
most females have some kind of self defence training or awareness of not to get into dangerous situations but it can be less obvious under the guise of courtship. I thinknthe article was quite balanced in giving advice so that you dont have to resort to calling the police (who may not help you anyway)
most females have some kind of self defence training or awareness of not to get into dangerous situations but it can be less obvious under the guise of courtship. I thinknthe article was quite balanced in giving advice so that you dont have to resort to calling the police (who may not help you anyway)
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I think it was a young student called Sophie who got sucked into dating one of her professors at university, when she wanted to end the relationship thats when it turned ugly and her so called boyfriend killed her.
And this happens A LOT in nz. Even if you are not married, men seem to think they own you if you going with them and that if you not into them they will hound and harass you until you give in, and bash you and kill you if you try to leave them.
And this happens A LOT in nz. Even if you are not married, men seem to think they own you if you going with them and that if you not into them they will hound and harass you until you give in, and bash you and kill you if you try to leave them.
Sophie Elliot...sorry
The foundation her mother started has now been closed and Loves Me Not is being run by the police
https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/new-...ion-11-years-after-her-daughter-s-murder.html
The foundation her mother started has now been closed and Loves Me Not is being run by the police
https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/new-...ion-11-years-after-her-daughter-s-murder.html
I have no argument with that. I think many can empower themselves by educating themselves on the subject to a degree in which is truly practical. There's way too much disinformation floating around as fact. Women are taught everything from one extreme in places like France, to adore the growing gangs of Muslim men. They are known for gang rape of random women walking down the street. Yet you'll see politically correct gullibles walking up to them with flowers in hand.
On the other extreme, I used to know of a popular pastor who recommended lethal force if a woman's date goes to kiss her.
Most however are confused where the distinctions lie in-between.
On the other extreme, I used to know of a popular pastor who recommended lethal force if a woman's date goes to kiss her.
Most however are confused where the distinctions lie in-between.
it was interesting that the article was saying at the end 'its not just low socio economic people that suffer violence' lol as if poor people are just always violent with each other and nobody bats an eye cos thats just poor people sorting out their differences....!
anyway just cos a guy seems rich and educated doesnt mean anything in terms of how he treats a female. and what do young women really know anyway when they are being courted and asked out all the time? You cant always constantly put males to the test to try and figure out if hes any good then put yourself in danger alone with a guy on a date. He might take you for a ride to somewhere unknown where you cant even get home.
actually that is a common ruse that men do. Get the girl alone. No witnesses.
anyway just cos a guy seems rich and educated doesnt mean anything in terms of how he treats a female. and what do young women really know anyway when they are being courted and asked out all the time? You cant always constantly put males to the test to try and figure out if hes any good then put yourself in danger alone with a guy on a date. He might take you for a ride to somewhere unknown where you cant even get home.
actually that is a common ruse that men do. Get the girl alone. No witnesses.
Men and women here don't usually kill their ex's either. Some do, but the point is that stalking and murder happens with both sexes. There are more examples than I have time to share. I kept track of violent crime from media / police reports to teach my class ways to avoid the most common crimes and defend against them.
I think it is possible to make it clear you are not interested without saying it, such as avoiding the person. I make it clear I am not interested that way even before they have a chance to be more interested. I think this is the nicer way than flat out saying "no", but I understand being totally clear is necessary sometimes.
I sometimes wonder what would make someone a gang moll
I mean obviously why would you WANT to be raped
but I figured they were somehow sucked in cos a gangster was nice to them at some point then seduced them or bribed them with bling or whatever.
Also they may have not known that the guy was a gangster and just thought those tatts were a cool decoration....
I mean obviously why would you WANT to be raped
but I figured they were somehow sucked in cos a gangster was nice to them at some point then seduced them or bribed them with bling or whatever.
Also they may have not known that the guy was a gangster and just thought those tatts were a cool decoration....
