Are singles more open/honest nowadays when dating, compared to 30 years ago?
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hmm Im not sure dating long distance works or whether it can really be done virtually as they say, since people can easily lie and make up stuff.
30 years ago was almost pre-internet so it was a different world, communication was expensive and not instant so people might have said less and kept more things hidden. You couldnt 'google' anybody and mine all their personal info, and people werent putting their entire lives on facebook or whatever social media was at the time (myspace?) but just sharing their illegal music downloads on napster I think it was.
'computer dating' was actually for nerds who bonded over programming their computers and creating algorithims. I once wrote a computer program for school on apple mac I remember it was creating a bug. Before that we just used the computers to play hangman.
30 years ago was almost pre-internet so it was a different world, communication was expensive and not instant so people might have said less and kept more things hidden. You couldnt 'google' anybody and mine all their personal info, and people werent putting their entire lives on facebook or whatever social media was at the time (myspace?) but just sharing their illegal music downloads on napster I think it was.
'computer dating' was actually for nerds who bonded over programming their computers and creating algorithims. I once wrote a computer program for school on apple mac I remember it was creating a bug. Before that we just used the computers to play hangman.
Im not sure why I thought 30 years ago was the 1970s in my first post
I mean the 1990s! Around 1994 we got internet I remember.
Before that if you wanted to place a personal ad it was in the newspaper in the personals column. It would be something short because you had to PAY for each word in the classifieds. They then phoned a designated number and you collected it from a voicemail box. You never put your real name. It would be something like SWF seeks M, GSOH for long term relationship.
GSOH stood for 'good state of health' i,e not an invalid.
SFW was short for 'single white female' . I recall there was amovie made of this same name. I am not sure if being 'white' bought you more cachet, but it seems ppl didnt describe hair colour more skin colour.
in the 1990s I was not interested in dating but apparently thats what people did. most people just met someone at a party and got drunk together. I think ppl still do that now?
I mean the 1990s! Around 1994 we got internet I remember.
Before that if you wanted to place a personal ad it was in the newspaper in the personals column. It would be something short because you had to PAY for each word in the classifieds. They then phoned a designated number and you collected it from a voicemail box. You never put your real name. It would be something like SWF seeks M, GSOH for long term relationship.
GSOH stood for 'good state of health' i,e not an invalid.
SFW was short for 'single white female' . I recall there was amovie made of this same name. I am not sure if being 'white' bought you more cachet, but it seems ppl didnt describe hair colour more skin colour.
in the 1990s I was not interested in dating but apparently thats what people did. most people just met someone at a party and got drunk together. I think ppl still do that now?
apparently in the 1950s it was very expensive to make a phone call, like $1 a minute.
So calls were very short over a long distance.
The phone operators had to warn people they were going to run out of money but apparently they would give 'one minute crying time' for very important calls.
Most romances were conducted by post/letter, because it was cheaper to send things by mail than to make a call. And the delivery didnt take too long. Females would wait not by the phone but by their letterbox hoping to hear from their beau. If the beau was fwd enough and really wanted her, he would serenade outside her window.
Hence the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet...too slow donkey mail delivery, balconys to scale, and no cell phones.
So calls were very short over a long distance.
The phone operators had to warn people they were going to run out of money but apparently they would give 'one minute crying time' for very important calls.
Most romances were conducted by post/letter, because it was cheaper to send things by mail than to make a call. And the delivery didnt take too long. Females would wait not by the phone but by their letterbox hoping to hear from their beau. If the beau was fwd enough and really wanted her, he would serenade outside her window.
Hence the tragedy of Romeo and Juliet...too slow donkey mail delivery, balconys to scale, and no cell phones.
how can anyone really know unless an honest christian poll was initiated. at least around here, divorces are way up in recent decades. but that doesn't mean from dishonesty. i think its because people are more aware of trouble easy to be hatched & have molded themselves "pre ready" for a quick response & action.
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I believe that @MsMediator, according to her profile, resides in the USA.
Like trying to turn themselves into women? Yeah, that must be it. The girly boys have ruined it for the rest of us.
Just so you know, yes, I am sick of men blaming the ills of the world on women.
It's time real men stepped up to the plate and took some real responsibility.
Shame on all the men who treat women so shamefully.
Just so you know, yes, I am sick of men blaming the ills of the world on women.
It's time real men stepped up to the plate and took some real responsibility.
Shame on all the men who treat women so shamefully.
Like trying to turn themselves into women? Yeah, that must be it. The girly boys have ruined it for the rest of us.
Just so you know, yes, I am sick of men blaming the ills of the world on women.
It's time real men stepped up to the plate and took some real responsibility.
Shame on all the men who treat women so shamefully.
Just so you know, yes, I am sick of men blaming the ills of the world on women.
It's time real men stepped up to the plate and took some real responsibility.
Shame on all the men who treat women so shamefully.
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People have more needs and demands now.
Just watching MAFS US, I have observed...
Women want a guy they are sexually attracted to, they are not looking for another friend. In the past, women were more okay with settling for the "boring" etc. guy if he were a good guy. Now, being just a good guy isn't enough. I think the guys women reject are actually quality guys but these women are not interested.
Couples are giving eachother less time to get their act together. In the past, couples especially women gave eachother a bit longer time.
There is surprising (to me) but at least one guy (out of around 5) in each season has intimacy problems and/or is not sexually attracted to a beautiful woman. Common stereotype is that guys will sleep with just about anyone. Maybe guys require more now to be attracted to someone physically, or maybe they have gotten picky too. They say porn addiction leads to intimacy issues with real women; this may explain why.
Just watching MAFS US, I have observed...
Women want a guy they are sexually attracted to, they are not looking for another friend. In the past, women were more okay with settling for the "boring" etc. guy if he were a good guy. Now, being just a good guy isn't enough. I think the guys women reject are actually quality guys but these women are not interested.
Couples are giving eachother less time to get their act together. In the past, couples especially women gave eachother a bit longer time.
There is surprising (to me) but at least one guy (out of around 5) in each season has intimacy problems and/or is not sexually attracted to a beautiful woman. Common stereotype is that guys will sleep with just about anyone. Maybe guys require more now to be attracted to someone physically, or maybe they have gotten picky too. They say porn addiction leads to intimacy issues with real women; this may explain why.
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Thoughts on this article? It is written from a Christian woman's perspective, though I must warn she is quite forward.
https://baremarriage.com/2022/08/ps...ing-higher-standards-and-men-are-left-lonely/
Basically, the author argues that Christian men are not emotionally mature and that the Christian community makes a lot of excuses for men, putting more pressure on women. Also, she argues that women want someone who makes their lives better, but this is becoming challenging for men as women are able to achieve more on their own.
https://baremarriage.com/2022/08/ps...ing-higher-standards-and-men-are-left-lonely/
Basically, the author argues that Christian men are not emotionally mature and that the Christian community makes a lot of excuses for men, putting more pressure on women. Also, she argues that women want someone who makes their lives better, but this is becoming challenging for men as women are able to achieve more on their own.
my thought is its a cultural thing where Americans gladly tell their entire life story to a complete stranger because they are so lonely for company...its a large country and people live in isolated communities where they dont know anyone else so they try to latch on to anyone within spitting distance just to have someone to talk to
wheras in a culture like the British one, people have natural reserve and keep things light hearted or superficial and private and do NOT tell others their deeepest darkest desires.
wheras in a culture like the British one, people have natural reserve and keep things light hearted or superficial and private and do NOT tell others their deeepest darkest desires.