What are your thoughts on oral sex after marriage?

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needmesomejesus

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Kathleen said:
I believe that its a sin.

I dont belive God gave a person their mouth, to do that with. The mouth, he gave for us to eat and drink with. Thats why it leads to our stomachs.

He gave us other parts, with their own functions, which lead to the womb ect for creation.

I think its a direct misuse of something God has given you. Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, i dont think its a good thing to be using it for.

I belive it is wrong to have oral sex one night, and then give your child a kiss the next morning, with the same lips. Its disgusting, what a horrible thought.
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Maybe you just have the skewed view of sex cause you're young.:)
 
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Megatron said:
well i guess there will be a lot of 'doing it wrong' in a lot of couples futures then maddog...
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I don't doubt it.

Megatron said:
though i dont believe what you state is specifically mentioned in the bible though and seems to be more a personal thing.
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Well, it's personal in the sense that it forms part of my personal beliefs, but I wouldn't say it's personal in the sense that it only applies to those who happen to share this belief.

No, it's not specifically in the Bible, though the idea that sex is primarily for procreation is (otherwise, what's so 'unnatural' about homosexuality, for example?)
 
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VikkiKate89 said:
With that logic I'm guessing you think natural childbrith is a disgusting horrible thought as well?
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Megatron said:
Im just curious why 15 yr olds are commenting on a thread about oral sex anyways...
If it is lack of experiance you are putting me down for, your maritall status says that you are "unmarried". Therefore, you SHOULD have the same amount of experiance as me, in these matters.

Also, from the biblical view:

Timothy 4:12
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
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Megatron said:
Im just curious why 15 yr olds are commenting on a thread about oral sex anyways...

It just seems like a lack of knowledge in the subject matter would preclude their involvement...
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In today's society, I'd be surprised if there is a 15 year old that doesn't know what oral sex is. Kids know far more than they should about such subjects at a young age these days.
Are you saying you have to have done it to have a belief or opinion on whether it's wrong or right? Cause I don't think that's true. I haven't done it, but I have formed a belief on it.
Otherwise, what are you getting at there? Maybe I'm missing your point.
 
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well kathleen...ive only been a christian for about two years...os i do have a bit more experience from the previous 25 years of my life. I just find it odd, not saying i dont believe you, but odd, that a 15 year old, has already developed all of here ideas on life and marriage and sexuality. I know when i was that age i didnt know everything there was to know...

And again I do wonder why everyone is ignoring the songs of solomon on this...do people just skip that book anymore?
 
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Maddog said:
I don't doubt it.



Well, it's personal in the sense that it forms part of my personal beliefs, but I wouldn't say it's personal in the sense that it only applies to those who happen to share this belief.

No, it's not specifically in the Bible, though the idea that sex is primarily for procreation is (otherwise, what's so 'unnatural' about homosexuality, for example?)
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Well probably because homosexuality is between two men, and God created sex for a man and woman. So thats where the unnaturality comes in not the various acts that are engaged in during. I dont even see how that was really a complicated issue there. I figured it was self explanatory.
And no the reason its just for men and women is not procreation. God made it for pleasure between a husband and wife as well. Just to head that argument off at the pass.
 
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Its NOT SEX, according to Bill Clinton and many, many secular young folk.
 
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needmesomejesus

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zeroturbulence said:
Its NOT SEX, according to Bill Clinton and many, many secular young folk.
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It may not be intercourse, but its very intimate and should be done with someone you plan on spending the rest of your life with.
 
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Megatron said:
well kathleen...ive only been a christian for about two years...os i do have a bit more experience from the previous 25 years of my life. I just find it odd, not saying i dont believe you, but odd, that a 15 year old, has already developed all of here ideas on life and marriage and sexuality. I know when i was that age i didnt know everything there was to know...

And again I do wonder why everyone is ignoring the songs of solomon on this...do people just skip that book anymore?
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Good thing i dont calim to know everything. However, the diffrences in me and you, at my age, probably, is that i have found God, and you hadnt, at the time. My walk with God has been longer than yours, perhaps that the diffrence.

Please could you give me verses and your analysis of them, from the Sons of Solomon.

Its as un-natural as two men having sex. Its not what that "hole" should be used for. Its not the reason God have you a mouth.
 
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I weep for the sanity of married and future married people if this is the attitude of today.
 
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needmesomejesus

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Kathleen said:
Good thing i dont calim to know everything. However, the diffrences in me and you, at my age, probably, is that i have found God, and you hadnt, at the time. My walk with God has been longer than yours, perhaps that the diffrence.

Please could you give me verses and your analysis of them, from the Sons of Solomon.

Its as un-natural as two men having sex. Its not what that "hole" should be used for. Its not the reason God have you a mouth.
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Its only unnatural because society has made it that way. And I don't think we can say its wrong because its not in the Bible black and white.
 
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niceguyJ said:
In today's society, I'd be surprised if there is a 15 year old that doesn't know what oral sex is. Kids know far more than they should about such subjects at a young age these days.
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You're saying that like it's something new but really it isn't. People from the generation before us act like we know far too much too soon but I bet if you asked them if they knew what oral sex was at 15 they'd probably say yes. This really isn't a new thing.
 
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VikkiKate89 said:
You're saying that like it's something new but really it isn't. People from the generation before us act like we know far too much too soon but I bet if you asked them if they knew what oral sex was at 15 they'd probably say yes. This really isn't a new thing.[/quote

Everyone thinks the next generation coming up behind them is worse. It isn't. There is nothing new under the sun.
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needmesomejesus

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allforfun said:
VikkiKate89 said:
You're saying that like it's something new but really it isn't. People from the generation before us act like we know far too much too soon but I bet if you asked them if they knew what oral sex was at 15 they'd probably say yes. This really isn't a new thing.[/quote

Everyone thinks the next generation coming up behind them is worse. It isn't. There is nothing new under the sun.
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yah just more news coverage about the "evils" of this generation and new ways to do the same things
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needmesomejesus said:
sex is for pleasure. have you read the song of Solomon?
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I believe in the words of jesus,
I accept jesus as my savior,
I do feel born again.

But i don't necessary believe the whole bible is 100% truth.
I'm skeptic towards religious institutions.



I didn't know the Song of Solomon before, but i just read through it fast.
It sounds like "holy porn" written by some man named solomon (??)

The song doesn't seem like something Jesus would say or agree with.
I can't see why within marriage it would suddenly be "ok" to lust for the flesh.

What about the people who are not "blessed" enough to find a partner to marry with?
They should not lust their whole life, but married christian couples do get the privilege to lust all they want
and even have oral sex because supposedly the bible does not say a thing about it?



Either way, it is my experience,
that if i pray to jesus to be delivered from sin.. i feel blessed by the holy spirit...
and there is no lust in me at all.

If i would again start to lust for the flesh,
then i know for a fact that i distance myself from God. (as lust, and other sins, have estranged me from god before)

I can't see why it would be different for married couples,
if they lust for flesh... then i think they will also be estranged from spirit.




Satan persuaded Eve to sin through the lust of the flesh, eyes, and pride of life...
Everytime a christian lust for the flesh.. we fall down. Married or not. That is what I suspect.

The story of adam and eve is probably as relevant today as it was a long time ago.

"That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.
Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. "
 
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needmesomejesus

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goasia said:
I believe in the words of jesus,
I accept jesus as my savior,
I do feel born again.

But i don't necessary believe the whole bible is 100% truth.
I'm skeptic towards religious institutions.



I didn't know the Song of Solomon before, but i just read through it fast.
It sounds like "holy porn" written by some man named solomon (??)

The song doesn't seem like something Jesus would say or agree with.
I can't see why within marriage it would suddenly be "ok" to lust for the flesh.

What about the people who are not "blessed" enough to find a partner to marry with?
They should not lust their whole life, but married christian couples do get the privilege to lust all they want
and even have oral sex because supposedly the bible does not say a thing about it?



Either way, it is my experience,
that if i pray to jesus to be delivered from sin.. i feel blessed by the holy spirit...
and there is no lust in me at all.

If i would again start to lust for the flesh,
then i know for a fact that i distance myself from God. (as lust, and other sins, have estranged me from god before)

I can't see why it would be different for married couples,
if they lust for flesh... then i think they will also be estranged from spirit.




Satan persuaded Eve to sin through the lust of the flesh, eyes, and pride of life...
Everytime a christian lust for the flesh.. we fall down.

The story of adam and eve is probably as relevant today as it was a long time ago.

"That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.
Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. "
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Well, if you don't' believe all of the Bible that's a problem. Either the Bible is true in its fullness or it is false throughout there's no in between. Well, Solomon was the wisest and richest man to ever live. I think the church in its attempts to prevent sexual immoralities has mistakenly made sex something that is supposed to be gross when in reality sex is from God and is made to be beautiful. WEll, some people are not meant to be married for whatever reason, but that doesn't not mean a married couple should not be able to enjoy each other.
 
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