sexual compatibility

[Jullianna]

Something very interesting occurred to me as I just entered this forum and looked at the thread list. This thread, which apparently some have found to be objectionable for whatever reason, along with another thread about sexual matters are the top two threads. The PRAYER REQUEST thread has disappeared from the list. What does that say? I know what it says to me...and it's not pretty.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Sex is always a hot subject.

 

[Megatron]

Metaphorically, yes. Which is good if it saves their soul.

Personally, this passage says to me that sooner or later I am going to have to get rid of my computer. I'm quite looking forward to it, actually.

There's no time like the present.

 

[zeroturbulence]

There's no time like the present.

Maybe he means so he can buy a better one. In that case, I can't wait to get rid of mine too! Its so old that it only has a single core processsor.

 

[NukePooch]

I personally am enjoying the trips around the mulberry bush and wonder how many times we can go!

/sarcasm

Is Jullianna the monkey or the weasel?

 

[allforfun]

Is Jullianna the monkey or the weasel?

Trying to get me in trouble? I see your ways and I am marking them down, you can better believe

This was like watching "who's on first" though.

 

[Jullianna]

God bless you too..........one can never have enough name calling in a christian chat thread

 

[NukePooch]

God bless you too..........one can never have enough name calling in a christian chat thread

I apologize. I meant no offense. I'll not do that again, Jullianna.

 

[Maddog]

There's no time like the present.

Quite right. Though at the moment I still need it for a few things, but I've already aquired a typewriter in preparation for my departure from cyberspace.

 

[Jullianna]

I apologize. I meant no offense. I'll not do that again, Jullianna.

It's okay. I'm a pretty tough nut to crack usually, but it stings a little more when it comes from someone I respect as much as you. Not sure what happened back there...just didn't seem like you.

 

[zeroturbulence]

 

[GreenNnice]

Quote:
Originally Posted by GreenNnice
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Good perspective, julieannie, I have never been married so I do not know pre-marital counseling but would think that 'pre-marital' sex would be something that would not need to be discussed but maybe it does need to be discussed. Idk, I really don't know. I think, for one thing, it can bring up a whole lot of other issues within the realm of that taboo topic and why do it?? Why risk it?


Why not let...the Lord lead I just don't think He will lead us into sexual thinking before marriage to the nth degree and by virtue of discussing it in depth you are doing that, I think. Again, I am far from expert and just putting in my two cents in response to discussion toward me.

God bless your walks with God ! == greennnice
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I can understand why a gentleman such as yourself might be far more uncomfortable with this topic than a lady who was married for 15 years who's been through childbirth. Truly I can. Perhaps it's like anything else that can become an addiction - what is taboo for one is not for another.

The Lord does indeed lead. As I initially posted, I was hesitant to begin this thread because of what it might disintegrate into, but felt strongly LED to move forward. I can, however, understand how another person for whom it might be a struggle might be led to avoid such discussions. For them, opting out is always an option in these threads, right?
==julieannie
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Yes. I agree, julieannie. The Lord leads. I am speaking for myself and I think that 'sexual compatibility' is not something that should be thought of in a dating and then engaging relationship without pre-marital counselor. But, whatever, eveyone can do what they want, God gave them the ability and my experience in this area, or, lack thereof, defintely influences my opinion.

Like you say, MegaT, you have your way to do things and that is fine, I mean, I am not God, I am not judging you and I am strongly opinionated, sometimes, OK, often, to a fault

Sorry to have offended anyone.
God bless y'all, and, absolutely this is an important topic. The Lord leads.

 

[IQ]

Ok here is my 2 cents but first my caveat... I am no innocent child - been there done that would be a better description really - have the scars up and down my soul and spirit to prove it.
Got saved and baptized in my mid forties - AFTER being married and divorced etc., etc.,etc....
Sexual purity... not my strong suit - no not even now - please don''t lecture me - YES I know this is a very bad thing.
This is my story.
Sexually abused from early childhood until I was big enough and they were old enough that I could make my NO stick.
Molested by people outside my family from age 10 until 15
Sexually assaulted multiple times first time at age 18
Sexually used and abused - many times, I was so used to it I had to get counseling before I even realized what a boundary WAS
Yes some of those men were "professed Christians" - kept me far away from "Those Freaks" for a LOOOONG time
Still have trouble believing I have value beyond my sexuality
Still have crappy boundaries

Why am I telling you all this?
A - this forum is basically anonymous and you really don't know who I am
B - to address a certain type of professed Christian man who figures it's OK with a nonbeliever because , after all it doesn't bother THEM
C - to address the legalistic person who would probably send me to a nunnery because I certainly unfit for any "decent" man
D - because it still hurts and maybe putting it out there will help
E - because I don't think I am the only one in my position and I want you to know other women have survived
F - to prepare you for some of the things you might find out, if you ask

God bless you all!

 

[seoulsearch]

Sex is always a hot subject.

Right... exactly.

I know it can be discouraging to see a prayer or worship thread get 46 views and maybe 2 replies, but I know growing up in a Christian school and being deeply rooted in church makes a person (meaning me) a bit callous in a way. I mean... at school, we had devotions at the beginning of the day, the end of the day, Bible class during the day, prayers before and after class, prayers at practice, Catechism, Sunday School, devotions at home, nightly prayers... But, at school, absolutely no sex education at all. If you wanted to talk about something safe, neutral, and Ultra Christian (and only in an Ultra Christian way--spritzed in "Religious Perfume", as one speaker at my church put it--never ask questions that might rock the boat, you silly goose!!), go for it. Questions or discussion about other important, but sometimes uncomfortable, life issues? Back to your realm of the 7th Level of Hell, you Heathen!!!

(And I am in NO way making fun of the concerns or issues Jullianna brought up--I'm just stating my OWN personal experiences... not in any way trying to make cheap shots at anyone else's...)

It's a lot like food--we all know we're supposed to have lots of veggies. So if all you see is broccoli and carrots morning, noon, and night, the minute someone sets a big cake on the table... You're going to make a jump for it.

At least I know I will. I often leap at the chance to talk about more controversial subjects in a Christian atmosphere because it so rarely seems to happen--that's why I enjoyed talking to prison inmates so much. Yeah, it was sometimes scary and controversial... but it was raw, honest, and real, which is something I always look for in a good discussion.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

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