How to love thy neighbour

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How do I stop the hatred I have for a neighbour? I am not sure which house it is, from which loud music emanates for hours. I can hear it enough to disturb me plenty and I feel helpless and very sorry indeed for those living closer to this. I just hope others will complain and get it stopped.

What compels such antisocial behaviour? To ruin the peace of everyone around them?

I feel hatred for whoever this noisy person or family are. I am praying for guidance from Jesus. But so far, I cannot stop how I feel. If I was next door it frightens me what I would be capable of doing if the authorities do not stop this. I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
 
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Will the cops in your area not do anything about it?

Have you called the cops yet?
 
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"Love your neighbor"
Doesn't ask if he's
A worthy kind of man
Doesn't ask me if
I fully understand
Love your neighbor
Doesn't ask me if
She has apologized
Doesn't ask me if
I see things through her eyes

"Love your neighbor"
Is a little about them
Probably more about me
But it's a lot about
A lot about You
Love is a lot about You


- Todd Agnew
 
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MaryM said:
How do I stop the hatred I have for a neighbour? I am not sure which house it is, from which loud music emanates for hours. I can hear it enough to disturb me plenty and I feel helpless and very sorry indeed for those living closer to this. I just hope others will complain and get it stopped.

What compels such antisocial behaviour? To ruin the peace of everyone around them?

I feel hatred for whoever this noisy person or family are. I am praying for guidance from Jesus. But so far, I cannot stop how I feel. If I was next door it frightens me what I would be capable of doing if the authorities do not stop this. I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
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Love your enemies. Bless those that curse you. Do good to those that hate you. Pray for those who persecute you and despitefully use you.

When a man's ways please the Lord, He causes even his enemies to dwell peacefully with him

Try loving and see what God might do.
 
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MaryM said:
How do I stop the hatred I have for a neighbour? I am not sure which house it is, from which loud music emanates for hours. I can hear it enough to disturb me plenty and I feel helpless and very sorry indeed for those living closer to this. I just hope others will complain and get it stopped.

What compels such antisocial behaviour? To ruin the peace of everyone around them?

I feel hatred for whoever this noisy person or family are. I am praying for guidance from Jesus. But so far, I cannot stop how I feel. If I was next door it frightens me what I would be capable of doing if the authorities do not stop this. I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
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1. Go for a walk and locate such house.
2. Read https://thelawdictionary.org/article/how-to-file-a-noise-complaint/

3. Using the knowledge gained make a decision how you wish to approach this.

4. Love your neighbor doesn't mean they are free to break the law.

The loving thing would probably be ask them politely in less common sense suggests they would not take kindly to your request.
 
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MaryM said:
How do I stop the hatred I have for a neighbour? I am not sure which house it is, from which loud music emanates for hours. I can hear it enough to disturb me plenty and I feel helpless and very sorry indeed for those living closer to this. I just hope others will complain and get it stopped.

What compels such antisocial behaviour? To ruin the peace of everyone around them?

I feel hatred for whoever this noisy person or family are. I am praying for guidance from Jesus. But so far, I cannot stop how I feel. If I was next door it frightens me what I would be capable of doing if the authorities do not stop this. I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
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Have you tried calling the police?
 
JaumeJ

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MaryM said:
How do I stop the hatred I have for a neighbour? I am not sure which house it is, from which loud music emanates for hours. I can hear it enough to disturb me plenty and I feel helpless and very sorry indeed for those living closer to this. I just hope others will complain and get it stopped.

What compels such antisocial behaviour? To ruin the peace of everyone around them?

I feel hatred for whoever this noisy person or family are. I am praying for guidance from Jesus. But so far, I cannot stop how I feel. If I was next door it frightens me what I would be capable of doing if the authorities do not stop this. I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
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Here where I live is the very same happening. With no A/C, I am obliged at times to keep my windows closed on that side of the house, even when the overnight low is in the 80's. People who are so dull sensed need our prayers, and, YES, it can be difficult, but when you and I realize this is happening in many places always, prayer is the only response. Remember we are destined to be totally outnumbered in the very last days for there is a finite number of souls yet to come to Jesus Yeshua, and as the Day approaches, it is only common sense that the majority will be of darkness.
Let us dod what we are given to do as best we can. I pray for you, and I beg you pray for me in this and so many other true issues. All blessing no and forever............jj
 
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Don't confront the neighbor...just keep calling the police every time even multiple times per day if necessary. Use the non-emergency line. This builds a record. You can look up the noise ordinances in your area. This neighbor is very likely breaking noise ordiances.

I am curious, why some people do not call the police even if the noise bothers them? I have in the past (for loud music) but have never figured out why other neighbors don't.
 
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Cameron143 said:
Love your enemies. Bless those that curse you. Do good to those that hate you. Pray for those who persecute you and despitefully use you.

When a man's ways please the Lord, He causes even his enemies to dwell peacefully with him

Try loving and see what God might do.
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I will try.
 
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MsMediator said:
Don't confront the neighbor...just keep calling the police every time even multiple times per day if necessary. Use the non-emergency line. This builds a record. You can look up the noise ordinances in your area. This neighbor is very likely breaking noise ordiances.

I am curious, why some people do not call the police even if the noise bothers them? I have in the past (for loud music) but have never figured out why other neighbors don't.
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Here in the UK it is not a police matter. Best hope is to call the local council if it happens again.
 
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I prayed for guidance and it has come.

Even evil men love their friends. It is no effort to love only those who do good to us. Facing and loving those who harm us takes a lot of strength but is what God needs and commands us to do.
 
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MaryM said:
Here in the UK it is not a police matter. Best hope is to call the local council if it happens again.
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Ah, that explains it. Thanks.
 
Lynx

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There's always retaliation...


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Yeah... Not the most Christian thing to do.
 
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MaryM said:
I thought I had love in my heart but I don't.

Any advice please?
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You can love people and still strongly dislike what they do. Loving people doesn't mean they don't get on your last nerve sometimes.

There's one guy at work I refuse to talk to. He does nothing but complain and argue. He always has to believe he is right about everything. There's no profit in talking to him so I don't waste my time and blood pressure tolerance talking to him. There's no reason to.

That doesn't mean I hate him though.

Blasting loud music for the whole neighborhood to hear is unsociable. If it gets on your nerves, that doesn't mean you hate those people. It means you don't like their unsociable behavior. I wouldn't like it much either, and I would probably start thinking about ways to cut their house power line.
 
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Lynx said:
I would probably start thinking about ways to cut their house power line.
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Except for that last part, unless you mean you would stop at thinking about it,... God bless you always.
 
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JaumeJ said:
Except for that last part, unless you mean you would stop at thinking about it,... God bless you always.
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It would depend on how late at night they blast their music. Sleep loss can make a guy VERY cranky... :cautious:

I never said I WOULD cut their power line though. I'd just start thinking a lot about it.
 
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You could gift them a really nice set of earphones.
 
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I just keep thinking about an old song...

Bring over some of your old motown records
We'll put the speakers in the window and we'll go
On the roof and listen to the miracle
Echo through the alley down below
 
JaumeJ

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It is possible my Country and Western just may be more effective, but, who knows?
 
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Lynx said:
You can love people and still strongly dislike what they do. Loving people doesn't mean they don't get on your last nerve sometimes.

There's one guy at work I refuse to talk to. He does nothing but complain and argue. He always has to believe he is right about everything. There's no profit in talking to him so I don't waste my time and blood pressure tolerance talking to him. There's no reason to.

That doesn't mean I hate him though.

Blasting loud music for the whole neighborhood to hear is unsociable. If it gets on your nerves, that doesn't mean you hate those people. It means you don't like their unsociable behavior. I wouldn't like it much either, and I would probably start thinking about ways to cut their house power line.
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I have bought earplugs but I resent having to use them. I see noise as a potent weapon with which people ruin others' peace. It is inescapable and therefore very stressful.
 
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