Do you think online dating goes against waiting on the Lord?

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Handyman62

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I wanna say thank you for your observations...but I would like to correct you about this sir....yeah that's quite true but not all you know....


I think it is not good to say women on this country is better than this country especially if it is coming from my fellow countryman. I don't know but it is quite offending for me ☺️
I really don't under stand exactly what you are trying to and I have no clue what has offended you.
 

MsMediator

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All women are basically the same, it's just their circumstances that make them different. A Filipina from the Philippines may be one way, but a U.S./Canada/UK born Filipina is westernized. It's almost like taking advantage of her circumstances, rather than viewing her as an individual. People who are disadvantaged in some way, economically, etc. are willing to tolerate more. Subconsciously, what men really mean when they say they want a "submissive" wife, especially when referring to a foreign bride, is someone who lets them cheat and doesn't leave them. Pushing boundaries to maximum limits. And, poorer disadvantaged women are willing to tolerate this more.
 

Tinkerbell725

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#83
Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard, oh Lord, why don't we?
We all know that people are the same whereever you go
There is good and bad in ev'ryone

We learn to live, when we learn to give
Each other what we need to survive, together alive

Human nature is the same for all, with only different cultural backgrounds. So whereever God puts you, the golden rule is the best way to go.
 

Handyman62

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All women are basically the same, it's just their circumstances that make them different. A Filipina from the Philippines may be one way, but a U.S./Canada/UK born Filipina is westernized. It's almost like taking advantage of her circumstances, rather than viewing her as an individual. People who are disadvantaged in some way, economically, etc. are willing to tolerate more. Subconsciously, what men really mean when they say they want a "submissive" wife, especially when referring to a foreign bride, is someone who lets them cheat and doesn't leave them. Pushing boundaries to maximum limits. And, poorer disadvantaged women are willing to tolerate this more.
I know most women feel insulted when men seek companionship in other countries, cultures, etc... but I think that those who are insulted would be better off asking themselves if they are the reason why men doing that.
As a man it's pretty obvious to me and looking at some of your comments which appear to come from the feminist playbook which give such a large miss characterization of men is a big part of the reason.

Anyway I have no interest in taking this thread further off the rails by discussing why men and women do what they do related to dating & marriage so I will leave it at that.
 

MsMediator

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I know most women feel insulted when men seek companionship in other countries, cultures, etc... but I think that those who are insulted would be better off asking themselves if they are the reason why men doing that.
As a man it's pretty obvious to me and looking at some of your comments which appear to come from the feminist playbook which give such a large miss characterization of men is a big part of the reason.

Anyway I have no interest in taking this thread further off the rails by discussing why men and women do what they do related to dating & marriage so I will leave it at that.
I don't think I have ever made man-hating comments...not sure where you got that idea. I do post on the Singles forum and have said it is ok to be single though, if that is what you mean.
 

MsMediator

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I know most women feel insulted when men seek companionship in other countries, cultures, etc... but I think that those who are insulted would be better off asking themselves if they are the reason why men doing that.
As a man it's pretty obvious to me and looking at some of your comments which appear to come from the feminist playbook which give such a large miss characterization of men is a big part of the reason.

Anyway I have no interest in taking this thread further off the rails by discussing why men and women do what they do related to dating & marriage so I will leave it at that.

It is not really about being insulted. No one I know cares if a man marries a foreign bride esp from developed country such as UK France Korea Argentina wherever, but when they go to a poor developing country etc there is an added twist...almost like buying a wife. No one cares about interracial marriage anymore.
 

Tinkerbell725

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It is not really about being insulted. No one I know cares if a man marries a foreign bride esp from developed country such as UK France Korea Argentina wherever, but when they go to a poor developing country etc there is an added twist...almost like buying a wife. No one cares about interracial marriage anymore.

Not necessarily. Even celebrities in the Philippines marry Foreigners. This means the world is getting smaller due to the digital era. Not all who marry foreigners are poor.
 

Handyman62

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Not necessarily. Even celebrities in the Philippines marry Foreigners. This means the world is getting smaller due to the digital era. Not all who marry foreigners are poor.
Most women including in the US only want to marry a person that upgrades their lifestyle. So part of the problem women have in western countries is it's not easy to find men than can "upgrade their lifestyle" so the majority of western women end up competing for a very small percentage of men. The consequence of that is there's a lot of lonely people on both sides.

It's difficult for a lot of men who have to compete in the western dating world where they are completely ignored by the opposite sex. Most of these men are considered losers and looked down upon by many women simply because they don't make enough money, have the right body or enough hair on their head. So if they can find love in another country then Godspeed to them.

In the Philippines most women work very hard but also have the same mindset in wanting to "upgrade their lifestyle". Western dollars go a lot further there so it takes far less money to improve upon the lifestyle of the average fillipina. Plus age and body type are not as critical to many filipina's so older, balding, pudgy men are more readily accepted by them.
 

tourist

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All women are basically the same, it's just their circumstances that make them different. A Filipina from the Philippines may be one way, but a U.S./Canada/UK born Filipina is westernized. It's almost like taking advantage of her circumstances, rather than viewing her as an individual. People who are disadvantaged in some way, economically, etc. are willing to tolerate more. Subconsciously, what men really mean when they say they want a "submissive" wife, especially when referring to a foreign bride, is someone who lets them cheat and doesn't leave them. Pushing boundaries to maximum limits. And, poorer disadvantaged women are willing to tolerate this more.
No woman should tolerate a husband who cheats. Forget about the submissive crap too. A wife is should not be obligated to wait on her 'submissive' husband on his every whim or desire. I fully concur with your estimate that all women are basically the same. Also, your last sentence was profound in its content.
 

Kireina

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I really don't under stand exactly what you are trying to and I have no clue what has offended you.
I think I worded it poorly...You didn't offend me sir. I am sorry for the confusion....


I was thankful and at the same time shared my thoughts about your comment as a Filipino and as an individual. I have families who married foreigners (Westerners). Men specially who are happily married to their spouses and I have families also who married locals who are not happy about the women they chose...

But that is really true if not all households...It is in our culture.... My parents taught us to respect,love, cherish, submit to the man in the house.

To cut short my thoughts about it...although family upbringing is a one big factor... A woman who fears the Lord serve the Lord truly is admirable...regardless where she comes from.... Thank you ☺️
 

Gideon300

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The modern single Christian question….

Are we stepping out of God’s will and timing by trying to do things our own way?

(FYI I’m not online dating.)

What is your opinion on this?
Not necessarily. "Seek and you will find" still applies. But gee you have to be careful. It would be far safer to meet someone in a Christian setting. Even then, pray every step of the way. Some people are ready for marriage, others are not. Men mature later in life than women. Men are generally interested in younger women, so women should not leave it too late. Marry your best friend!
 

Handyman62

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#92
I think I worded it poorly...You didn't offend me sir. I am sorry for the confusion....


I was thankful and at the same time shared my thoughts about your comment as a Filipino and as an individual. I have families who married foreigners (Westerners). Men specially who are happily married to their spouses and I have families also who married locals who are not happy about the women they chose...

But that is really true if not all households...It is in our culture.... My parents taught us to respect,love, cherish, submit to the man in the house.

To cut short my thoughts about it...although family upbringing is a one big factor... A woman who fears the Lord serve the Lord truly is admirable...regardless where she comes from.... Thank you ☺️
Thank you Kireina for the explanation.
 

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#93
Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard, oh Lord, why don't we?
We all know that people are the same whereever you go
There is good and bad in ev'ryone

We learn to live, when we learn to give
Each other what we need to survive, together alive

Human nature is the same for all, with only different cultural backgrounds. So whereever God puts you, the golden rule is the best way to go.
Love all of the Beatle's tunes. I'm playing that song right now.
 
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No , well I don't think so, you might your self limiting God to your conventional way of getting a spouse, there are christian dating site that one can can meet a lifetime spouse and in the will of God
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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Subconsciously, what men really mean when they say they want a "submissive" wife, especially when referring to a foreign bride, is someone who lets them cheat and doesn't leave them. Pushing boundaries to maximum limits. And, poorer disadvantaged women are willing to tolerate this more.
What?!? You certainly have no idea what I would want in a wife. Of that, I am certain. You should apologize to all of the genuine Christian men on this forum for even uttering such insulting nonsense.
 

Lynx

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What?!? You certainly have no idea what I would want in a wife. Of that, I am certain. You should apologize to all of the genuine Christian men on this forum for even uttering such insulting nonsense.
Yeah, no, JohnDB NEVER apologizes for anything he says, no matter how blatantly wrong and insulting his statements.

Why, in the "Trouble with friends" thread he basically insulted all single people and I said he should apologize, and he put me on ignore!
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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Yeah, no, JohnDB NEVER apologizes for anything he says, no matter how blatantly wrong and insulting his statements.

Why, in the "Trouble with friends" thread he basically insulted all single people and I said he should apologize, and he put me on ignore!
I quoted John on the other thread, and not this one.
 

MsMediator

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What?!? You certainly have no idea what I would want in a wife. Of that, I am certain. You should apologize to all of the genuine Christian men on this forum for even uttering such insulting nonsense.
Most men ideally want a wife who doesn't leave them if they cheat or even abuse; I'm not wrong about that. It is more likely that a submissive woman will more likely tolerate this. This is essentially what men subconsciously mean when they say they want a submissive wife. They want even more than what a Western Christian submissive wife will offer (hence all this talk about foreign bride) who most will not tolerate this type of behavior.
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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Most men ideally want a wife who doesn't leave them if they cheat or even abuse; I'm not wrong about that. It is more likely that a submissive woman will more likely tolerate this. This is essentially what men subconsciously mean when they say they want a submissive wife. They want even more than what a Western Christian submissive wife will offer (hence all this talk about foreign bride) who most will not tolerate this type of behavior.
Let me start over.

I am a respectful gentleman when it comes to women, so I apologize, somewhat, for my earlier response. Not that I did not mean what I said, but I did not mean for it to sound disrespectful in my delivery of it. What you did, and are still doing, is stereotyping, and that is never a good thing to do. Every man, or woman, ought to be judged based upon their own conduct...or misconduct. You would not like to be lumped together with other women simply because you are a woman, and it is not fair to do that with men either.

All that I will say is that, even though I will probably remain single for the rest of my life, when I have thought about marriage, then I have thought about being a husband who would lay down his life for his wife even as Christ laid down his life for the church. In other words, a possible wife's "submissiveness" was never truly my concern, and if it had been, then it would not have resembled what you have been describing by any stretch of one's imagination. As I said before, your stereotype is insulting to any genuine Christian man, and some of us still exist.

I will leave it at that.