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I would sell mine in a heart beat...wait this isn't Craig's list 
In all reality, my son saved my life and I appreciate him more than he will ever be able to comprehend. I love looking at life through his eyes. I am not sure about dating someone with children, but I am more open to it now that I have been in the past.
In all reality, my son saved my life and I appreciate him more than he will ever be able to comprehend. I love looking at life through his eyes. I am not sure about dating someone with children, but I am more open to it now that I have been in the past.
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How do you really feel about kids? I may sound terrible but it depends of the kid. I don't hate annoying kids, but they are ...annoying
Do you have any? No Want them? Don't want them? Not sure? I want them when I'm married. Have questions we might be able to answer for you? Can you get tired of taking care of your kid(s) ? Do you ever feel you are running out of patience? Is that normal? Would you date someone with children or not? I don't think so...but I've learned to say ''never say never''( in some cases) Would the ages and/or number of children matter? I'm not sure...
Do you have any? No Want them? Don't want them? Not sure? I want them when I'm married. Have questions we might be able to answer for you? Can you get tired of taking care of your kid(s) ? Do you ever feel you are running out of patience? Is that normal? Would you date someone with children or not? I don't think so...but I've learned to say ''never say never''( in some cases) Would the ages and/or number of children matter? I'm not sure...
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Have questions we might be able to answer for you? Can you get tired of taking care of your kid(s) ? Do you ever feel you are running out of patience? Is that normal?
Is it normal? Yes, IMO. The women who tell you different are lying. Is it all the time? No. Is it even 99% of the time? No. But there are times you want away from them and that is normal. For them and for you. Of course you feel like you are running out of patience. We are only human. Especially if the child is colicky, or high needs. But and this is what I had to learn especially, it doesn't last forever. And taking a break is important. Prioritizing is a must. Sometimes the laundry sits for another hour while we go play in the sprinkler because at the end of the day, the laundry doesn't matter, but the memory of playing in the sprinkler will matter.
I am not really a kids person. I will never be the owner of a daycare. But you grow with your children. Your patience levels grow where you didn't think they would ever. So, take heart, when your kid screams in the store? You will not want to leave them there. Most of the time. And after awhile? You won't even hate other people's children that scream in the store because you will have more understanding of why it happens.
Sorry that was a little long, but I used to not like kids. And then I had one. And life because much much better
Is it normal? Yes, IMO. The women who tell you different are lying. Is it all the time? No. Is it even 99% of the time? No. But there are times you want away from them and that is normal. For them and for you. Of course you feel like you are running out of patience. We are only human. Especially if the child is colicky, or high needs. But and this is what I had to learn especially, it doesn't last forever. And taking a break is important. Prioritizing is a must. Sometimes the laundry sits for another hour while we go play in the sprinkler because at the end of the day, the laundry doesn't matter, but the memory of playing in the sprinkler will matter.
I am not really a kids person. I will never be the owner of a daycare. But you grow with your children.
Your patience levels grow where you didn't think they would ever. So, take heart, when your kid screams in the store? You will not want to leave them there. Most of the time. And after awhile? You won't even hate other people's children that scream in the store because you will have more understanding of why it happens. Sorry that was a little long, but I used to not like kids. And then I had one. And life because much much better
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They. Are. Awesome.
I like having conversations with children. Playing toys with them is always fun. Feuls my creativity when it come to toys. I like making them laugh when I got a hotwheel car in my fingers and pulling some awesome moves, jumping over mountians, gliding over water, walls, light bulbs, rugs then crashing in the blaze of glory. Sound effects make it worth while, along with little comentary on the moves when they don't understand that the tires have boosters and when missles pop out of the sides, ect ect... The possibilites are endless!!!
Kids put me in awe. I still have eyes like them. Which is probably one reason why I'm waiting for Jesus. Be it whatever outcome on my part.
This thread kinda reminded me of when I was sitting at the playground with my cousin and her two year old boy. There were a lot of kids there too. Along with dogs getting a little rough with each other. I sat there wondering how many of these kids would run to Christ. Then the dogs broke my thought pattern. I picked up a near by hockey stick and shoo'ed them away. I walked around the playground like a shepard with that thing. The kids saw what I was doing. Looked like they wanted a piece of those animals as well.
Little warriors. ^_^
I like having conversations with children. Playing toys with them is always fun. Feuls my creativity when it come to toys. I like making them laugh when I got a hotwheel car in my fingers and pulling some awesome moves, jumping over mountians, gliding over water, walls, light bulbs, rugs then crashing in the blaze of glory.
Sound effects make it worth while, along with little comentary on the moves when they don't understand that the tires have boosters and when missles pop out of the sides, ect ect... The possibilites are endless!!!Kids put me in awe. I still have eyes like them. Which is probably one reason why I'm waiting for Jesus. Be it whatever outcome on my part.
This thread kinda reminded me of when I was sitting at the playground with my cousin and her two year old boy. There were a lot of kids there too. Along with dogs getting a little rough with each other. I sat there wondering how many of these kids would run to Christ. Then the dogs broke my thought pattern. I picked up a near by hockey stick and shoo'ed them away. I walked around the playground like a shepard with that thing.
The kids saw what I was doing. Looked like they wanted a piece of those animals as well. Little warriors. ^_^
I have a 9 year old boy. I love him and would die for him in a heartbeat. I never really understood what love was til I held him in my arms for the first time. He is a wonderful gift from God, and I am so blessed to have him.
He is also hyper, too smart for his own good, stubborn, mischievious, and eats ALOT. I love that boy!
He is also hyper, too smart for his own good, stubborn, mischievious, and eats ALOT. I love that boy!
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I agree with AFF. Parents need time away from their children from time to time. It's good for the kids too.
I should answer my own questions now. Didn't have time earlier.
How do you really feel about kids? I love kids. I thought they were cute when I was a kid, but never really wanted anything to do with them until I had my own. It changes you.
Do you have any? I have a 19 y/o son in college
Want them? Don't want them? Not sure? I'm not sure I want more. I did want more years ago, but circumstances made it unwise. If I married someone who really wanted to have a child, I would be okay with that. Otherwise, I wouldn't push it. It would have to be his idea.
Have questions we might be able to answer for you? It's a little late now
Would you date someone with children or not? I would date someone who had children.
Would the ages and/or number of children matter? The ages and number of children wouldn't matter to me as much as the relationship he had with them and whether or not there was a bad relationship with an ex-wife. Don't know that I'm up for that.
I should answer my own questions now. Didn't have time earlier.
How do you really feel about kids? I love kids. I thought they were cute when I was a kid, but never really wanted anything to do with them until I had my own. It changes you.
Do you have any? I have a 19 y/o son in college
Want them? Don't want them? Not sure? I'm not sure I want more. I did want more years ago, but circumstances made it unwise. If I married someone who really wanted to have a child, I would be okay with that. Otherwise, I wouldn't push it. It would have to be his idea.
Have questions we might be able to answer for you? It's a little late now
Would you date someone with children or not? I would date someone who had children.
Would the ages and/or number of children matter? The ages and number of children wouldn't matter to me as much as the relationship he had with them and whether or not there was a bad relationship with an ex-wife. Don't know that I'm up for that.
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Have questions we might be able to answer for you? Can you get tired of taking care of your kid(s) ? Do you ever feel you are running out of patience? Is that normal?
Is it normal? Yes, IMO. The women who tell you different are lying. Is it all the time? No. Is it even 99% of the time? No. But there are times you want away from them and that is normal. For them and for you. Of course you feel like you are running out of patience. We are only human. Especially if the child is colicky, or high needs. But and this is what I had to learn especially, it doesn't last forever. And taking a break is important. Prioritizing is a must. Sometimes the laundry sits for another hour while we go play in the sprinkler because at the end of the day, the laundry doesn't matter, but the memory of playing in the sprinkler will matter.
I am not really a kids person. I will never be the owner of a daycare. But you grow with your children. Your patience levels grow where you didn't think they would ever. So, take heart, when your kid screams in the store? You will not want to leave them there. Most of the time. And after awhile? You won't even hate other people's children that scream in the store because you will have more understanding of why it happens.
Sorry that was a little long, but I used to not like kids. And then I had one. And life because much much better
Is it normal? Yes, IMO. The women who tell you different are lying. Is it all the time? No. Is it even 99% of the time? No. But there are times you want away from them and that is normal. For them and for you. Of course you feel like you are running out of patience. We are only human. Especially if the child is colicky, or high needs. But and this is what I had to learn especially, it doesn't last forever. And taking a break is important. Prioritizing is a must. Sometimes the laundry sits for another hour while we go play in the sprinkler because at the end of the day, the laundry doesn't matter, but the memory of playing in the sprinkler will matter.
I am not really a kids person. I will never be the owner of a daycare. But you grow with your children.
Your patience levels grow where you didn't think they would ever. So, take heart, when your kid screams in the store? You will not want to leave them there. Most of the time. And after awhile? You won't even hate other people's children that scream in the store because you will have more understanding of why it happens. Sorry that was a little long, but I used to not like kids. And then I had one. And life because much much better
I'm patient, I like kids but I don't consider myself a kids person neither. I haven't been surrounded by lots of kids in my life, I was the baby in the house and one of the youngest children in my family. I have some nieces and nephews, but I don't see them that often. I know more about kids around 4-5 years old, but about newborns, NOTHING, NADA haha.
I feel I have lots to learn about babiess, especially now that I'm gonna be an aunt soon! So I'm open to tips if someone wants to give me some.
I love them. They're amazing. They typically like me for some reason too, which is nice. Sundays at church I usually have one or two babies sitting up ahead of me turning around to "talk" to me, wave, laugh, etc. which is neat. Maybe I just look really funny to them.
No, I don't have any of my own but have one that I have spent hours and hours with since birth and love very much...more than any other person really. I've learned as much or more from her as she has from me I'm sure.
Do I want my own? I don't know. I often lean towards "no.", but if I did I'd love them and do my best for them.
To the other questions...That's complicated...I have some strict criteria there...but I don't want to go into that here.
No, I don't have any of my own but have one that I have spent hours and hours with since birth and love very much...more than any other person really. I've learned as much or more from her as she has from me I'm sure.
Do I want my own? I don't know. I often lean towards "no.", but if I did I'd love them and do my best for them.
To the other questions...That's complicated...I have some strict criteria there...but I don't want to go into that here.
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Kids light up a room, they light up your life. Without my sister's 3 kids in my life, my life would be different, and, not in a good way. Kids listen, kids absorb, my 11-year-old nephew has been my best bud since the time he was 1.5 and I taught Him to say 'bug,' to the stuffed animal he carried with Him everywhere. Kids do so much, from birth, even before birth..
Allfunfor, you mentioned your boy 'saved your life,' . Yes. My sister was in deep in life--drugs, abusive boyfriend-- God got her pregnant in the midst of all that substance in her life and she's a great mom now 12 years laterales. Kids helped her, not to mención, my relationship with God strengthen. I believe God became really real to her with 'Kristian,' born when God was just a person to her not meaning to much growing up. Me too , it's off-topic but sis and I grew up in a church that didn't preach the power one can have from the Holy Spirit in your life and thru mom-dad separación I ended up switching churches and that was best for me. I became (still am) very spiritual, but sis single mom and trials of that were tough, on both of us. I drove hour to see her and Kris just about every work weekend off for first 3 years of Kris' life , and, then she was bless to be able to move to Ocean Shores where she met a nice man who took her and Kris as his and now they are a family of 5 and live on a quiet lake while hearing the ocean.
Allfunfor, you mentioned your boy 'saved your life,' . Yes. My sister was in deep in life--drugs, abusive boyfriend-- God got her pregnant in the midst of all that substance in her life and she's a great mom now 12 years laterales. Kids helped her, not to mención, my relationship with God strengthen. I believe God became really real to her with 'Kristian,' born when God was just a person to her not meaning to much growing up. Me too , it's off-topic but sis and I grew up in a church that didn't preach the power one can have from the Holy Spirit in your life and thru mom-dad separación I ended up switching churches and that was best for me. I became (still am) very spiritual, but sis single mom and trials of that were tough, on both of us. I drove hour to see her and Kris just about every work weekend off for first 3 years of Kris' life , and, then she was bless to be able to move to Ocean Shores where she met a nice man who took her and Kris as his and now they are a family of 5 and live on a quiet lake while hearing the ocean.
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How do you really feel about kids? I love them. Do you have any? Nope. Want them? Yup. Don't want them? Not sure? Have questions we might be able to answer for you? Why must they squirm so much when you try to change the diaper when they go number 2? Yuck. Would you date someone with children or not? Yes, I would. What would Joseph do? Right? Would the ages and/or number of children matter? Yes, starting out with one would be good experience for a single guy like me. (If married to said woman) If wife and God willing, they will provide another little face to bless this world with. ^_^
Would you date someone with children or not? Yes, I would. What would Joseph do? Right? Would the ages and/or number of children matter? Yes, starting out with one would be good experience for a single guy like me. (If married to said woman) If wife and God willing, they will provide another little face to bless this world with. ^_^
God creates us all for different purposes--some of us work well with kids, and some of us are more geared toward adults. I'm thankful to see honest answers here in that other people may not feel they are meant to work best with kids. I often feel like the odd one out because I would rather spend a day in a prison visiting room than in a daycare.
I agree with the answers that it can depend on the child. I've been around some kids I instantly fell in love with... and others that I wished I could put in indefinite timeout (I'm sure my own parents have felt that way about ME several times, even in adulthood.) I would have to agree with some of the other posters here that it would really depend on the situation and people involved (a crazy ex is a definite no thanks for me.)
I was in a 3-year relationship several years ago with a man who had two kids. I bonded very closely with the youngest, as he was only 18 months when the relationship began. When he started talking, he couldn't say, "Kim", so he used to run up to me, jump into my arms and hug me tight, saying, "My Eem, my Eem," and I would just melt.
I also remember the time when his older brother asked me, 'Kim, why does God love us?" And it took me a minute to think of a reply... We talked about how they had spent the day building things out of Legos... so I said a quick prayer and answered that God is a lot like that--He spends a lot of time planning our creation, and He loves us because of how much He pours into creating every part of us.
A while back, I had a discussion with a friend's little boy as to whether or not you could get to heaven with an airplane... He said no, because it's too high up there.
I agree with the answers that it can depend on the child. I've been around some kids I instantly fell in love with... and others that I wished I could put in indefinite timeout (I'm sure my own parents have felt that way about ME several times, even in adulthood.
) I would have to agree with some of the other posters here that it would really depend on the situation and people involved (a crazy ex is a definite no thanks for me.) I was in a 3-year relationship several years ago with a man who had two kids. I bonded very closely with the youngest, as he was only 18 months when the relationship began. When he started talking, he couldn't say, "Kim", so he used to run up to me, jump into my arms and hug me tight, saying, "My Eem, my Eem," and I would just melt.
I also remember the time when his older brother asked me, 'Kim, why does God love us?" And it took me a minute to think of a reply... We talked about how they had spent the day building things out of Legos... so I said a quick prayer and answered that God is a lot like that--He spends a lot of time planning our creation, and He loves us because of how much He pours into creating every part of us.
A while back, I had a discussion with a friend's little boy as to whether or not you could get to heaven with an airplane... He said no, because it's too high up there.
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Oh, sore point with me. Well, not sore. Current pain point. Or something like that.
I never thought I wanted kids. Or, more specifically, I always thought I would eventually have kids -- and the husband to go with them -- but it never happened. But it didn't really bother me all that much, I enjoy being "Auntie" to several kids, 2 of which are my sister's sons, others are good friends' kids. Until recently that is. But, since I am 40, and haven't dated anyone in 5 years ... well, do the math. Not going to happen. So, I am permenantly Auntie.
Would I date someone with kids? Yes. Most folks my age have kids. Ages and how many will influence my decision of course. A bigger deal breaker for me though is if he smokes. I would want to know why he's single, and what the custody arrangements are, and how aminicable the arrangements are. It shows what kind of man he is, how that situation was handled to a certain degree.
I guess it all depends on where God leads me at this point!
I never thought I wanted kids. Or, more specifically, I always thought I would eventually have kids -- and the husband to go with them -- but it never happened. But it didn't really bother me all that much, I enjoy being "Auntie" to several kids, 2 of which are my sister's sons, others are good friends' kids. Until recently that is. But, since I am 40, and haven't dated anyone in 5 years ... well, do the math. Not going to happen. So, I am permenantly Auntie.
Would I date someone with kids? Yes. Most folks my age have kids. Ages and how many will influence my decision of course. A bigger deal breaker for me though is if he smokes. I would want to know why he's single, and what the custody arrangements are, and how aminicable the arrangements are. It shows what kind of man he is, how that situation was handled to a certain degree.
I guess it all depends on where God leads me at this point!
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