I took my 11-year-old son to breakfast this past Saturday at our favorite local restaurant. The young waitress who took our order wore a small but stunning silver cross that sparkled beautifully.
I said, "That's a beautiful cross you are wearing. What's the story behind it?"
"Oh, thanks. I got this from my parents on my eighteenth birthday. That was about two years ago."
Since she was so young, I did not pursue the conversation further except to say that her parents had very good taste and that she should honor them always.
However, a younger man might have said something like this:
"That's a beautiful cross you are wearing. What's the story behind it?"
"Oh, thanks. I got this from my parents on my eighteenth birthday. That was about two years ago."
"So, I'm assuming you're a Christ-follower like me?"
"Yes, my parents and I still go to church together, even though I live in the dorms on campus."
"That's awesome. I sense you have a Godly character to go with that pretty smile (angelic face, pretty eyes--don't overdo it). I would like to know more. Will you meet me for lunch at XYZ's after work? My treat, of course."
Here's an example with a woman a bit older
You're at the parking lot of your local shopping mall, and a woman about 35 years old pulls up next to you in a blue vintage sports car.
As she locks her door, you ask, "Excuse me, is that a 1976 MG Midget?"
"Yep, sure is."
"Wow, I haven't seen one of those around here in a long time. What's the story behind it?"
Moving a little closer while focusing on the car is probably safe, but not too close!
She tells you that it was part of her inheritance when her father passed away last year from cancer. She and her 14-year-old son love to take little side trips on the weekends. It makes her feel connected to both her father and her son at the same time.
The fact that she's opening up to you like this is a good sign. It means she views you as a stranger, but one that is not going to hurt her.
If you're feeling especially bold today, you could say something like this:
"That's a very moving story indeed. At the risk of you bringing me to tears, I would love to learn more. Would you like to have lunch with me across the street at XYZs after you get done shopping? I can meet you there around noon. My treat, of course."
During lunch, you will NOT be talking about the car! Instead, maybe tell her how the car's color matches her beautiful eyes.
One more example, this time with a beautiful 55-year-old woman
You decide to visit the bookstore inside the mall. You spot a woman, perhaps middle-aged or older, browsing the best-seller section of the store. She is wearing a bright pink T-shirt that says, "Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure."
You boldly step up to her and say, "Excuse me. That's an amazing shirt you're wearing. I'm curious, what's the story behind this foundation."
Well, bucko, you asked for it here! When you ask, "What's the story behind that," you can get a lot more than you bargained for. In this instance, she tells you ALL about the foundation, how it started, and most importantly, how it raises money for breast cancer treatment for women. She is happy to spend about fifteen minutes, but you don't mind since you are starting your first date right there in the bookstore!
When she's finally finishes answering your question, you follow up with, "Would it be proper for a guy like me to volunteer at a local event?"
"Are you kidding?" she replies. "We are always looking for both men and women to volunteer. In fact, this Thursday, we are holding a fundraising meeting at our local chapter at 7:00PM."
"I'll be there," you reply.
When you get to the meeting, you find nothing but women! Young, old, and in between. Even if your lady at the bookstore ends up being married or unavailable to date, you now have others who have sisters, daughters, and in-laws they can introduce you to.
Which brings me to an important point
Eighty percent of those who volunteer for social or religious causes are women. Let me say that again. When you volunteer for a church event or important fund-raising event in your community, you will be met with lots and lots and lots of women.
So, guys, why aren't you volunteering for stuff?
I said, "That's a beautiful cross you are wearing. What's the story behind it?"
"Oh, thanks. I got this from my parents on my eighteenth birthday. That was about two years ago."
Since she was so young, I did not pursue the conversation further except to say that her parents had very good taste and that she should honor them always.
However, a younger man might have said something like this:
"That's a beautiful cross you are wearing. What's the story behind it?"
"Oh, thanks. I got this from my parents on my eighteenth birthday. That was about two years ago."
"So, I'm assuming you're a Christ-follower like me?"
"Yes, my parents and I still go to church together, even though I live in the dorms on campus."
"That's awesome. I sense you have a Godly character to go with that pretty smile (angelic face, pretty eyes--don't overdo it). I would like to know more. Will you meet me for lunch at XYZ's after work? My treat, of course."
Here's an example with a woman a bit older
You're at the parking lot of your local shopping mall, and a woman about 35 years old pulls up next to you in a blue vintage sports car.
As she locks her door, you ask, "Excuse me, is that a 1976 MG Midget?"
"Yep, sure is."
"Wow, I haven't seen one of those around here in a long time. What's the story behind it?"
Moving a little closer while focusing on the car is probably safe, but not too close!
She tells you that it was part of her inheritance when her father passed away last year from cancer. She and her 14-year-old son love to take little side trips on the weekends. It makes her feel connected to both her father and her son at the same time.
The fact that she's opening up to you like this is a good sign. It means she views you as a stranger, but one that is not going to hurt her.
If you're feeling especially bold today, you could say something like this:
"That's a very moving story indeed. At the risk of you bringing me to tears, I would love to learn more. Would you like to have lunch with me across the street at XYZs after you get done shopping? I can meet you there around noon. My treat, of course."
During lunch, you will NOT be talking about the car! Instead, maybe tell her how the car's color matches her beautiful eyes.
One more example, this time with a beautiful 55-year-old woman
You decide to visit the bookstore inside the mall. You spot a woman, perhaps middle-aged or older, browsing the best-seller section of the store. She is wearing a bright pink T-shirt that says, "Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure."
You boldly step up to her and say, "Excuse me. That's an amazing shirt you're wearing. I'm curious, what's the story behind this foundation."
Well, bucko, you asked for it here! When you ask, "What's the story behind that," you can get a lot more than you bargained for. In this instance, she tells you ALL about the foundation, how it started, and most importantly, how it raises money for breast cancer treatment for women. She is happy to spend about fifteen minutes, but you don't mind since you are starting your first date right there in the bookstore!
When she's finally finishes answering your question, you follow up with, "Would it be proper for a guy like me to volunteer at a local event?"
"Are you kidding?" she replies. "We are always looking for both men and women to volunteer. In fact, this Thursday, we are holding a fundraising meeting at our local chapter at 7:00PM."
"I'll be there," you reply.
When you get to the meeting, you find nothing but women! Young, old, and in between. Even if your lady at the bookstore ends up being married or unavailable to date, you now have others who have sisters, daughters, and in-laws they can introduce you to.
Which brings me to an important point
Eighty percent of those who volunteer for social or religious causes are women. Let me say that again. When you volunteer for a church event or important fund-raising event in your community, you will be met with lots and lots and lots of women.
So, guys, why aren't you volunteering for stuff?
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