How Wrong Can You Be?

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Lynx

Lynx

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No this is not a political diatribe or theological rant. "You believe THAT?! How wrong can you be?"

This is a serious question. When do you want your spouse to correct you and when do you want to be left alone to be wrong? How wrong can you be before you want to be corrected?

Everybody hates to be corrected all the time about little things. The termagant, nit-picky spouse is a trope we all dread finding out we have married. "Look I don't CARE if the dinner fork goes on the left or right. I just want to eat!" But it's a real danger, because it makes some people feel good when they correct others. Proving someone is wrong can bolster a person's ego by proving "See? I was right!" so some people start doing it a lot.

On the other hand a loving spouse will correct you if you are wrong because your spouse wants you to be more right. And sometimes people get upset about NOT being corrected. "You let me make a fool out of myself, going on and on about that topic at the party. Why didn't you tell me I was wrong? Now everyone we know thinks I'm an idiot!"

So where is the line for you? How wrong can you be before you want your spouse to correct you?


Due credit: This thread was inspired by this comic:
https://www.gocomics.com/bc/2024/09/01
 
notmyown

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let me not merely leave a glib reply. i want to be corrected when i'm wrong, but my husband is a gentle man, and never harsh. when he corrects me on something, he's doing it out of love, not to be mean. he may also be helping my listeners when i'm talking about driving south on some road and it's the opposite to reality, lol.
 
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Lynx said:
No this is not a political diatribe or theological rant. "You believe THAT?! How wrong can you be?"

This is a serious question. When do you want your spouse to correct you and when do you want to be left alone to be wrong? How wrong can you be before you want to be corrected?

Everybody hates to be corrected all the time about little things. The termagant, nit-picky spouse is a trope we all dread finding out we have married. "Look I don't CARE if the dinner fork goes on the left or right. I just want to eat!" But it's a real danger, because it makes some people feel good when they correct others. Proving someone is wrong can bolster a person's ego by proving "See? I was right!" so some people start doing it a lot.

On the other hand a loving spouse will correct you if you are wrong because your spouse wants you to be more right. And sometimes people get upset about NOT being corrected. "You let me make a fool out of myself, going on and on about that topic at the party. Why didn't you tell me I was wrong? Now everyone we know thinks I'm an idiot!"

So where is the line for you? How wrong can you be before you want your spouse to correct you?


Due credit: This thread was inspired by this comic:
https://www.gocomics.com/bc/2024/09/01
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It depends if it's public or private. My hubby is not a person that likes all attention on him. He is not one to over talk others. And he's not a know it all. So I'm very careful about correcting him or embarrassing him in public. I know women like that and it makes their husband look like a fool. So unless it's really necessary, I don't correct him in public.

At home I just say something like " I'm not real sure about that", and we'll look it up online. lol He's said before, "You're a good wife", and I asked why and he said " Because even when I don't know what I'm talking about, you support me". lol My family are Canadian but my sister and I married southerners. So being Canadian they tend to correct the southern accent. It comes off as arrogant, though they don't mean it that way. Like once my mother told my nephew when he was younger that he was a "little redneck" and my nephew looked down and said to her " Nan Nan, I don'ts got a red neck!" All that to say, be gentle if you have to correct your spouse. Nothing looks more disrespectful than constantly correcting your spouse like you're a school teacher. Either way, it's rude.
 
Lynx

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Susanna said:
How about the person correcting being wrong?
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If the person doing the correcting is wrong, that's an entirely different can of worms. This way lies arguments and eventually ulcers.
 
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Don't let my stray thoughts derail the thread. They are just stray thoughts.


Lynx said:
"Look I don't CARE if the dinner fork goes on the left or right. I just want to eat!"
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This is a valid point!


Lynx said:
The termagant, nit-picky spouse is a trope we all dread finding out we have married.
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Nit-picky or just the need to feel RIGHT and you're wrong.


Lynx said:
So where is the line for you? How wrong can you be before you want your spouse to correct you?
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Well, you hope its in a quiet setting away from everyone.


ThereRoseaLamb said:
My family are Canadian but my sister and I married southerners. So being Canadian they tend to correct the southern accent. It comes off as arrogant, though they don't mean it that way.
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But its necessary. There are Southern-isms that should be corrected. Cornbread and sweet tea are not part of that.
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Susanna

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Lynx said:
If the person doing the correcting is wrong, that's an entirely different can of worms. This way lies arguments and eventually ulcers.
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In the news forum we are constantly correcting others even if we are wrong ourselves.
 
Lynx

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Susanna said:
In the news forum we are constantly correcting others even if we are wrong ourselves.
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That forum gonna rot your brain. :p

Fortunately none of those correcting each other in that forum are married. I hope.
 
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Lynx said:
Fortunately none of those correcting each other in that forum are married. I hope.
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Married? Yes. To each other? Ha. Probably most likely not. Heehee.
 
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It is best that the conversation in regard to actual or perceived wrongs should take place on the day that they occur. The bible makes it clear that you should not let the sun set still being mad at your spouse.

I can't remember ever really being mad at my wife and voiced a cause of concern. My wife has been upset and mad at me a few times though and well deserved I might add. Truthfully, we rarely quarrel and never raise our voices either.

I have learned a lot over the years being married to my honey. She is an excellent teacher.
 
Kireina

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So where is the line for you? How wrong can you be before you want your spouse to correct you?




During an argument if I am wrong, he can correct me. I would rather he correct me than that he doesn't and harbor any feelings that would affect our marriage. For me, a loving correction in any situation would be greatly appreciated ☺️😍 I believe that my spouse,is far more important than my pride 😊
 
SomeDisciple

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I think I would prefer to be corrected or questioned right away on something important; or if I was objectively wrong about something.

Being single, you don't have to deal with a spouse: but one thing I notice that a lot of women do is judge each other on things that are totally arbitrary. "Oh my God, she wore blue? BLUE!!!! Who wears BLUE!!!". Makes me feel bad for the dude she ends up with.
 
Susanna

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SomeDisciple said:
I think I would prefer to be corrected or questioned right away on something important; or if I was objectively wrong about something.

Being single, you don't have to deal with a spouse: but one thing I notice that a lot of women do is judge each other on things that are totally arbitrary. "Oh my God, she wore blue? BLUE!!!! Who wears BLUE!!!". Makes me feel bad for the dude she ends up with.
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It’s just like when a lot of men saying “Oh my God, he’s driving a foreign car? A foreign car!!!! Who’s driving a foreign car!!!!”

Makes me feel bad for the girl he ends up with.

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Lynx

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Susanna said:
It’s just like when a lot of men saying “Oh my God, he’s driving a foreign car? A foreign car!!!! Who’s driving a foreign car!!!!”

Makes me feel bad for the girl he ends up with.

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These days it's your phone. "Oh eww. He's using an Android!" "Oh my goodness, look at that stuck up girl using her iPhone!"

And yes I feel sorry for whoever is going out with those people who judge people by their phones.
 
Susanna

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Lynx said:
These days it's your phone. "Oh eww. He's using an Android!" "Oh my goodness, look at that stuck up girl using her iPhone!"

And yes I feel sorry for whoever is going out with those people who judge people by their phones.
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Which reminds me of: Oh my goodness, he/she is a democrat/republican. How stuck up is that?
 
SomeDisciple

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Susanna said:
It’s just like when a lot of men saying “Oh my God, he’s driving a foreign car? A foreign car!!!! Who’s driving a foreign car!!!!”
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Heh... I remember when America used to make cars.
 
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