A self reflection thread

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Susanna

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I know I can across both too intense and way too much. Maybe there should be a thread where we could think about how we are influencing the forums?
 

GaryA

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I know I can across both too intense and way too much.
It took me a few moments to figure out that you meant to say "I can come across"... :confused::unsure:

Maybe there should be a thread where we could think about how we are influencing the forums?
How about this one? :)
 

Eli1

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I know I can across both too intense and way too much. Maybe there should be a thread where we could think about how we are influencing the forums?
I think you're a lot of fun and to me you don't come across as intense at all.
You're actually very nice and compared to some others who even i consider intense, they still are able to make me laugh too.
Except one person.
(y) God bless you!
 

Mem

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I think you're a lot of fun and to me you don't come across as intense at all.
You're actually very nice and compared to some others who even i consider intense, they still are able to make me laugh too.
Except one person.
(y) God bless you!
I came in with an expectation of looking at self-reflections but, I'm only getting brief snapshots. #sodisappointed
 

GaryA

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We know that - sans body language - it can be all-too-easy to perceive what someone has posted as being much more "harsh" than they actually intended.

I believe it should help if we just:

~ keep ourselves reminded of this

~ keep our emotions in check

~ don't let ourselves assume too much about what has been posted

We should always try to understand what is really being said - without reacting to it before we have even finished reading it. And, I am convinced that this happens a lot.

Make a concentrated effort to take it in - and chew on it a bit - before you respond.
 

Mem

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We know that - sans body language - it can be all-too-easy to perceive what someone has posted as being much more "harsh" than they actually intended.

I believe it should help if we just:

~ keep ourselves reminded of this

~ keep our emotions in check

~ don't let ourselves assume too much about what has been posted

We should always try to understand what is really being said - without reacting to it before we have even finished reading it. And, I am convinced that this happens a lot.

Make a concentrated effort to take it in - and chew on it a bit - before you respond.
Good advice, who could argue that. But...


It'd seem to me that keeping all this in mind before posting would hinder any sort of 'free to be me' sense of acceptance.
You don't have to change anything, not about you nor anything about 'them,' to be loved. Just be loved, because you are.
You are beloved whether you're intense or muted, supported or refuted, and this fact is where you should remain rooted.

Seek 1st the kingdom (within you) and all these things will be added (to you).

I've been given a glimpse of perfection and, man, it is glorious... but we're not there yet (regardless of what some might think ;))
 

Magenta

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Maybe there should be a thread where we could think about how we are influencing the forums?
Those who wish to have a negative impact may only care about how bad they can make others feel.

Do you think truth really plays into it at all? Some care nothing for that. Just revenge, served cold.

I could name names... but I won't. I am sure we are all familiar with some of them.
 

tourist

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I think you're a lot of fun and to me you don't come across as intense at all.
You're actually very nice and compared to some others who even i consider intense, they still are able to make me laugh too.
Except one person.
(y) God bless you!
I feel the same way.
 

GaryA

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#11
I wasn’t proof reading my own post. Thanks for pointing that out. I have a tendency of leaving out words in my texts.😁
I guess it can get real interesting if/when you leave out words like 'not'...? :D
 

Mem

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I know I can across both too intense and way too much. Maybe there should be a thread where we could think about how we are influencing the forums?
It's very easy to influence feelings but far more challenging to influence ideas. Scripture tells us that it is not a small undertaking to become a teacher and considering the condition of the current educational system all the way up to post-grad, I don't think this is limited to only scriptural lessons, but I'd think that it applies to any assertions of, what I'd call, the proverbial weapon, the sword, the truth.

Periodically, the thought keeps recurring, ever since I was called to the school auditorium for a FTA club pic to be included in that yearbook, if I should take up that profession, even though I'd never 'officially' joined the club and was only affiliated by having been asked to be a student tutor.

However, I often find myself thinking that people don't like me, because that's how I "feel," and there's probably some merit to that except that I wonder if it's rather a nose wrinkle at why I said what I've said then what I've actually said, if there is any element of truth in it, that is.

In another thread that I considered replying to with a scripture that came to mind, @enril posed a question, something like, "who'd want to kick themselves in the (girded up loins). And indeed, Job was letting his hang loosely when God advised him to gird them up and prepare for the wallop that He was about to administer.

So, if the truth smarts in comparison to the soft strokes of duplicity, it is only to strengthen you when the other is typically meant to disarm you.
 

GaryA

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So, if the truth smarts in comparison to the soft strokes of duplicity, it is only to strengthen you when the other is typically meant to disarm you.
Yes. (y)

And, this is part of the reason I say that I would rather know the truth "even if it hurts" - because, it is far better to know the truth than to entertain deception. Whatever is not truth is deception.

This related verse of scripture illustrates just how important it is to know the truth. ("also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding")

Proverbs 23:

23 Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.

These two verses show the stark comparison between having a desire for "knowledge, understanding, and wisdom" - and not.

Proverbs 18:

1 Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh and intermeddleth with all wisdom. 2 A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself.
 

GaryA

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#14
Does the phrase "that his heart may discover itself" not describe a well-known "motto" of the "thinkers" of the world today?
 

GaryA

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#15
God is brilliant. And, His words are truth.